I can relate. I have a friend that I have known for over 25 years who I was a BM at her wedding, planned her bachelorette pary, and pretty much been there for her. I have been engaged now for a year (wedding is in June) and over the summer she informed me that she was going to try to get pregnant. That's cool....I didn't mind. She expressed that she was going to try to get pregnant right away or after the fall/winter. Well she is currently pregnant and NOT able to make it to my wedding and expects me to plan her baby shower, even though I have a wedding to plan for. I am happy for her, but she was soo into coming to my wedding, but since one of her other friends decided to get pregnant, she decided soon after. Frustruating but there is nothing I can do about it.