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Lmao he's a funny kid lol My m8s 2 1/2 year old has just started to talk properly and he said to his nanny the other day "get a grip linda" I swear i nearly wet myself lol but my ulitmate fav is when his brother who is 6 said "ewww he's got a bogie" and kept going on and on no matter how much we tried to shut him up lol the little one says "archie bogie archie business" can't argue with that lmfao

I'm sure everyone is thinking it but i'll say it lol IGNORE THE FUCKING BITCH !! give her some of her own medicine. You don't owe them shit and so next time she barks an order at you politely say "when you speak to me like an adult i'll speak with you" and walk away!! Nip it in the bud now or she'll make life even more hell. I know i've got one the same however she now knows that i'll rip her head off if she starts and you need to get to that point where she knows she can't walk all over you. It happens with a lot of people chick you've just gotta smile sweetly while mentally saying to yourself in a kind of chuckie doll way "he's mine now" lmao BTW if you need me to pop over and kick her head in it won't be a problem lol

My cousin uses a proper steam iron on with a tea towel over her hair first lol i swear i'm not joking lol I only know GHD

I now use MD forumlations and its great but like you I never used anything for years and apparently i don't look 36 so there ya go lol

Quote: Originally Posted by blkladylaw I'm torn. I am 37 and attorney with a lot of assets and it will be a pain in the butt to change everything at this stage of my life. That said I have no desire to keep my fathers name for various reasons that I'll spare you guys. I'd be going from Williams to Johnson....both common names so hyphenating those seems silly. He doesn't care. Also it is kind of stereotyped that as a female lawyer that I don't cook, don't want kids, work all night and don't take care of home or do typical 'wifely' things and that female lawyers are these "ball busting" (not my term) career women and for many not the "cater to you" wife material that some seek. I've faced those stereotypes my whole dating life from certain types of men and hyphenating my name or not taking his is kind of what they'd expect and falls right in line with the stereotype so I kind of find myself also wanting to change it just to not play into that. I've already gotten the look of shock from male colleagues (all of who have stay at home wives) like wow you are actually going to change your name to his. So right now I am planning to do it but still am not totally sure. The though of all the paperwork is daunting. If I did not own a lot of assets and had not had a long professional career it would be easier. I have power of attorney documents for family members that I guess I'll have to change. There is so much to consider. I am in a similar boat except my assets are pretty slim lol I'm not changing my name basically I don't want to but clients are fickle to start with get a new name and they think you aren't the same person lol So mine is staying at this point, if we have kids I might change my mind but at the min i'm firm at no change. Colleagues can think what they like lol if they think i'm a ball breaker it suits me as they stay right out of my way lol

I'm with Kat and wishing the others wont book lol

Ask for a price match before you do anything. Don't feel bad about FMIL's friend you didn't ask her to do itt

Chick it happens to us all - I had originally over 30 people saying they would come 7 have booked!! Let it go over your head its a year away and if prices drop, which I'm sure they will, people will book - and if not shite with them you are the only 2 that matter anyway xx

Dump the kids and don't pay for babysitting you haven't had the kids its not your responsibility lol A good get out line is its just not healthy for kids to be around drink and we are all responsible parents I would hope lol that'll shut them up lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by ErinB You should have told him you were pagan or something and watched his head explode. I soo would have done that lmao I can't believe he said that what a git lmao I wouldn't be going back thats for sure lol Mine is great I walked in said these BC give me migraine I don't want to die yet so can I have these ones lmao he looked at me in shock lol I said my cousin is a family planning nurse lol I got them ha ha

I'd ask the family before you blow a gasket they might think its a great idea and will fit in well with the whole religious thing

Tattoos are great but as I've married before i don't think i'd be doing it lmao FI has already told me his is getting wrapped in electrician's tape and put on his dog tags lmao trashed me think lmao

I go for the spillage or dogs lol dogs would be believed by my family my spaniel chews everything lol

Ah sounds like a regular night out where i live lmao Fab !! ha ha

I'd just ask them - guarantee all you've asked won't book and then you'll be within your numbers - don't worry about it now just wait until next year then come up with a plan lol I bet you'll be ok with 41 or 42 if push comes to shove lol

I can't add anything to what anyone else has said apart from I wish i'd had the courage to do that before I got married the last time. It was much harder to dismantle everything 9 months later and much nastier. Stay strong you'll be happier than ever soon I am x

Quote: Originally Posted by BunnyBear Is that a tower club jacuzzi jr suite you're upgrading to? I've been trying to decide that myself. I was thinking of doing it for just the couple nights immediately before and after the wedding... the prices just keep adding up! Yeah it was lol I spoke to the TA and he said don't bother its not worth the extra £700!!! i mean holy cow how much more!

Stuff that - tell her if she wants to give people gifts to buy them herself!! You aren't putting a gun to their heads to make them come to the wedding they want to come and lets face it if they knew that by giving them all a pressie it made you really skint they wouldn't want it. Stick to your plans. If people want to meet for a drink then they can it does NOT mean you have to buy all the drinks I'm not giving any of my guests gifts and nor am I doing OOT bags, its not done in the UK anyway and our luggage has really low restrictions. FI did say he wanted to get something for his mother and my response was wtf for she's paying for nothing and she's a PITA - if he wants to get her something HE pays for it lol there again i can't stand the cow lmao

Its horrible for everyone left behind but god its the way i'd want to go - here and really happy then not!! Just remember the good stuff x

If you've ever read any of my posts you will know exactly what i am going to say lol Take a deep breath, sit back compose yourself and ask FI to get his mother to back off because if he doesn't you will and you will piss her off no end lol If your mum is paying for a lot of the wedding then FMIL can poke off inviting so many people. I agree with everyone else tell her over 15 SHE is paying for the extras. As for the rest of it you need to decide what you and FI want and then TELL FMIL what is happening - she doesn't get a say its not her wedding! My FMIL is a control freak 2 but she was warned early that I take no crap and she knows i'd rip her apart if she started so up to now she's kept it shut lol It will work out you just need to get your game plan sorted and stick to it

lucky you i have years to go lmao

fat bottomed girls queen lmao guaranteed to get a smile or I want to break free - also queen lol friends will be friends - queen - can you see a theme lmao

If you HAVE to do it lol after will make life easier for you

I have no idea why this just suddenly became an issue but ?? lol We're booked in a tower room and i'm wondering whether its worth the $$ to upgrade ?? Not looked at how much it is so that might kill the idea before it starts lol What does everyone think? We are going for 2 weeks so I think it'll cost a bomb Forget it i just got a price to upgrade and there is NOOOOOOOO way i'm paying it

I so agree with cantorballard lol my first mother in law was a jehovas witness, her son wasn't, but she hated me and it eventually split us up. Not because I cared lol but because her son had no balls to stand up to her and ended up doing exactly what SHE wanted. I'm lucky my dad is on the otherside of the world and would support me in whatever i want, if mum was alive she'd be the same. However FMIL is an interfering old cow but luckily FI knows that which is why he escaped to the army at 16 lol she's been warned to keep her mouth shut. We didn't interfere in her last wedding (there has been a few think she likes wedding cake!) so she can get lost trying to interfere in ours lol I am v lucky in that FI will defend me to the hilt and if I'm honest I don't need to be defended I can stand up for myself and boy does she know it. Make a stand now and stick with it or life will be hellish - my last marriage may have worked if it hadn't been for his mother and sister - now I'm glad it didn't lol