I totally get what you are saying. I paid for my own dress, and my mom also has more than enough money that she could have bought it for me. She is not very up in traditons, so it didnt really hurt my feelings as I know she will be helping me in all other aspects. I also know that if I talked to her she would have paid for it, but that was not important to me. But it is an option for you...talk to her about how you feel, you might be surprised what you find out.