I'm in the same boat...my BF since high school had a baby and just returned to work in july after a year of maternity leave. Although I understand her circumstances, I dont feel she has made a genuine effort to be at the wedding. I too offered to supplement her trip, and the company we are going through allows equal payments over 12 months interest free. I also suggested she come alone if it made it cheaper...I know its not fair of me to be complaing, being on mat leave myself, i totally get that there is no extra money, however, she is planning on going away with her husband and baby a month after our wedding. I guess thats the part that really get me I try not to let it get to me, but i'm sure on my wedding day, i will really miss her being there.