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FI and I went through this in the begining too. After a few whatever's from him I explained to him that his opinion is important to me and I want him to be involed in our wedding since it is OUR wedding not just mine. He said he just wanted the day to be perfect for me and he thought that I was just asking as a courtesy to him so he didn't want to say the wrong thing. Now when I ask him he actually thinks about it and gives me an answer because he knows his opinion is important to me. So maybe just tell him that you are not just asking for the hell of it and you actually want to know what he thinks.

Wow, you guys are too funny!!

I think it is probably just in all the planning leading up to the wedding you had something to look forward to and now that it is over you feel kind of lost. Try to find something else that you can look forward to, set a new goal or think about something you want to do in the near future that you can work towards.

Good news, I'm sure everyone here is breating a sigh of relief with you.

I'm not an expert but i think it will be fine since it looks like your dress isn't completely covered in crazy beading or anything like that.

They look great, congrats!

I will be using my actual dress, if I can convince FI to do a TTD.

I have never been to a church (besides weddings and funerals). I would like to believe there is a higher power at work but as Debs put it I have too scientific of a mind. I also agree with carly in that I believe in the ideas behind the religion but don't take stories literally.

Welcome. Good luck planning. There is tons of info on here for Mexico and Caribbean locations, with a few searches you should find everything you need to know. Congrats!!

I am in the same situation but the other way around. My parents are still together, I have invited my mother but I am not inviting my father. I justify it by the reasons you gave, he does not support/respect my relationship and is not good for me. I do not want him there, therefore I am fine with not inviting him. I wouldn't change your plans just for her. Do what you want with the people you want there and don't worry about everyone else. If she doesn't support the relationship there is no reason she should be there, isn't that the main reason you go to a wedding? To support the couple in their life together?

We are going to stay at our wedding resort for a week and we are inviting our guests to do the same. We are going to spend a couple of the days with the guests and suggest that they use the rest of the time for themselves and we will use that time to be alone. Hopefully a couple years down the road we can take our dream trip to Italy, but for right now we cannot afford a real honeymoon.

Quote: Originally Posted by lil_miss_frogg I totally feel you on this topic. FI and I agreed to pay cash for everything in reguards to the wedding. So I've been putting any extra cash I have into my "marry my honey" account. I get home from work yesterday and see five packages on our kitchen table.....grand total for CAR PARTS to a car that doesn't run and is a 'project car' $2500. I was like WTF. I thought we were saving our extra money for the wedding. He said 'he neeeeeeded them.' Bloody hell man......I guess I'm paying cash for everything....not us! Mine does this all the time. We talk about saving money for the wedding and then I find boxes of car parts at our front door at least once a week when I get home from work. But he needs them for his project car, which is supposed to be his HOBBY. Since when does a hobby come before one of the most important days of our lives?

Welcome and good luck planning.

I am in no way going to ask her to lie or keep a secret from him. I told them both that she can share with him after if she chooses. Her hubby has known me for a long time and he would make a point to show up if he knew. We already told FI's bf that he can't bring his girl so I don't want it to let one come but not the other. And if I let them both come our other close friends will want to come. I told her it is important and I would really like her to come and her husband said he is the one who will decide if it is important. Bullsh*t! I am just going to call her today and tell her I need an answer either she trusts me that it is important and is going to be there or not. I am not asking her husband's permission, she can give me a yes or a no. I need to know now though because if she is not coming I need to find someone who can, they are probably going to need some notice since we are doing it on a Thursday and they may need to leave work early. It just really irks me. She moved to Germany to be with him since he is stationed there for the army. I wasn't very happy about that but fine i understand she wants to be with her husband. Now she is home for a month visiting and we can't go anywhere together without him? And how do you tell your best friend that she is an idiot for letting her husband treat her like a child? He is her husband not her keeper. Seriously? WTF?

You look gorgeous, love your hair!

So FI and I are doing our "legal day" at the end of this month. It's a special day for us and we really wanted to do our wedding on this date but it's not working out that way, we would wait til next year but now he is leaving for the army for at least a year and won't be back for that date next year so we are doing the legal thing on our date and the wedding for everyone when he gets back. We are not telling anyone so when we do our DW in Jamaica next year it will be special for everyone and it will be our "real" wedding. We decided we are just bringing 2 people with us, because we need 2 wittnesses to sign the marriage cert. We don't want anyone to know because then everyone will make a big deal about why they weren't there and we don't want it to turn into some huge thing. FI is bringing his best friend and I asked my best friend to come with but we didn't tell them what we are doing, just that we need them to come with us for the evening. FI's bf just said cool, no prob. My bf said she needs to know what we are doing so she can ask her husband if it is ok. Um....What? Now her husband is calling me saying I need to tell him what is going on or he won't let her go. LET her? She is a grown woman! WTF? I'm not even telling my family, why would I tell him? And excuse me but since when does a grown woman need permission from her husband to leave the house for a couple hours. I understand that they don't see each other much but come on, it's one night out of your life, get over it, she already told me they weren't doing anything that night so it's not like I am interrupting plans that they have. I really want her to be there but I'm ready to just say f*ck it and bring another one of FI's friends.

I like #1, i like the border on the neckline. It looks great on you.

I don't think it will offend them, they may feel bad for you because they think you will cry a lot for all the pearls that are there. I think it is really up to you, if you want to use pearls go right ahead. I'm sure they will understand that it is not your tradition. If you want to stay with the mexican tradition then maybe think about incorporating something else. In the end it is your wedding and it should be what you want.

I like the first. With a white flower it would better, but I still like it.

I tried it on Sunday, it was great. I love it.

Quote: Originally Posted by jmb0902 Heidi - Where were these taken? And who did you have as your photographer? They are AWESOME! Thanks! Here is her TTD thread: http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t20555

Great job they look very nice.

Have FI get an Ivory suit. I agree, white next to your dress will look chalky, if everyone else is in ivory your dress will "pop" a bit and it should look nice.

I know I have seen many wedding where people have memorial candles. Something like this: and you could have her carry it down the isle. I would give her the candle and you and FI write her a letter saying how much it means to you for her to be there. It's not so much what you are giving her, that probably won't mean as much to her as knowing how much you guys cared for her husband and appreciate her being there.

Quote: Originally Posted by Hopelesslyblissful That dress is gorgeous!! Good luck with the trying on, you will have to let me know how it goes! I will. Hopefully they call me soon.