Everything costs so much! I am from NY so everything here is mega $$$, and while it is less than home the destination wedding is still going to cost a lot. If we had the no frills package with no guests it would be cheap, but the flowers are expensive, favors are expensive, and photographers are SOOO expensive! I want good pics more than anything, but FI doesn't really care about that so I said I would pay to save complaints, lol! just sit with your FI and figure out what is important to both of you and then negotiate something realistic.