The ladies have good suggestions, except for loua4's thoughts on wishing the little girl happy birthday on your wedding day, lol! Sorry Loua4 . What harm could it do to put a cupcake down in front of her and make a tiny fuss about it being her b'day? It will make her smile, which will make everybody else smile, which will make you guys look pretty darned special too. I'm admittedly biased because I have personal experience with this issue, he he ... when one of my cousins was married, on MY birthday, he and his new wife surprised me with a full cake and carried it over to my table themselves! I was in my thirties and I still smile every time I think of it!