Celina

HI Ladies...I'm BACK!! Well...sort of...... Thank you all for your concerns with my family drama! Now that it is behind me, I am taking baby steps in getting back in wedding mode. I feel SO behind! I haven't even ordered our invites. I know which ones I want, I just need to get decided on an AHR and then we should be good to go from there. This drama has totally depleted any extra energy I have. I have been trying to read posts and get back into the "mood". It's coming back. I just don't want to feel pressured about anything right now. I am slowly going to be working up the momentum to get back to planning a wedding. I must say that it was nice on Saturday to have a lot of our guests telling eachother.."See you in Mexico!" YAY!! My MOH found a house and are moving back to Denver and I couldn't be happier. She will definitely get me back in wedding mode!

I think I saw that one too - how gross! We plan on having our parties probably the month before we leave. I would never ever dream of doing it the night before - that is such a waste!

Oh no sweetie - sorry to say but it has happened to most of us! Welcome to the world of destination weddings! There will be naysayers, and people telling you to "Just get married here". You may even lose people you thought were friends over your choice ~ just hang in there! In the end it's about you and the person you love and making the vows to be husband and wife. From what I've heard from those already married, this is a choice they would definitely do all over again! Hang tough and stay strong and remember to look at the big picture that lies ahead! ~Happy planning!

Wow Jenny - I hope you hear something soon. It is a pain to hear that you now have to explain all of your stuff to someone else and hope they have the same vision and can be as acommodating as the other person was. I hope things work out.

I like Tara's suggestion. A faded out pic of you two with a poem over it . Are you doing anything in memory of someone? The last page would be a good place to put it. OH - maybe the words to the song of your first dance??

Well - I went in to work yesterday and was bombarded with MORE information about my ex sister. I think the detective slipped when they called my FI out and told him he had to leave. They asked him why he thought he was there and he told them it probably had something to do with my sis. The detective told him, it was her sister Rachel and other sister Denise from out of town. FI says,"she doesn't have a sis Denise from out of town - she has a sis Monica who lives in Lakewood" - the detective says, "No, the person who called was Denise". FI shrugged it off and thought - oh whatever. I thought it was someone or one of my sis' skanky friends who she put up to doing this with. When we got home it struck me. I have an aunt Denise who lives out of town, but never in a million years would I think it was her. Her husband is my dads brother and I lived with them while in college. When I first said we were having a DW - she was the first on board and when my dad initially reacted and said he wasn't going - his brother said he would be there to walk me down the aisle. These are people whom I have always held in the highest regard and have had the utmost respect for. When my dad came over I told him and we were all like - Nah - not her. Come to find out it WAS her! (and skanky sis of course). My dad is SO Pissed! My silvery tongued snake of a sister (as FI calls her) convinced her that something bad was going on. Instead of calling me they did this! I guess a couple of weeks after my dad and us had our sit down conversation back in April, my uncle called and told my dad he heard rumors of the allegations. MY dad said - rest assured, there is nothing going on. He thought that was the end of the conversation. MY dad never told us because in his eyes nothing was going on and there was nothing to discuss. So after we told my dad about the "Denise" named that got dropped - he went home and called his brother and found out that she WAS involved. My uncle was stunned and very apologetic to my dad. My dad told him "You don't understand the magnitude of what she did to my family - she almost ruined their marriage - the lives of my grandkids - do you know what she did to my grand daughter?" I never see my dad get mad - and this is as mad as I've ever seen him. My dad said that by the time this is over with, my uncle and his wife and whoever else was involved is going to give us an apology - he will see to it. I think it finally hit my dad that my sis needs some serious help. He is SO HOT that his SIL got involved. I am SO hurt that someone I thought was so close to me would do something like this without asking questions and the fact that ANYONE in their right mind would think I would be with a pedophile. I was a single mom for almost 5 years before I met FI. I am not one of those girls that NEEDS a man! I think the whole thing has brought FI and I closer to my dad. We'll see how the rest of the weekend turns out. I've got to go frost cupcakes before my little guy wakes up and smells frosting! I just thought I would give another update. Thank you all for your kind words. FI reads the forum and feels so good to have people on our side. BTW - some of you mentioned a no contact order with my ex-sis - yes - I'm sure that will happen. Yes - we plan on getting copies of whatever they can give us regarding this investigation when it is all over with. I am off to enjoy the warm sunny weather here today and celebrate my children with my friends and family! I hope to be back in wedding mode sometime here soon. Lord knows I got lots to do! Hugs and kisses! Celina, FI and kiddos

First of all I want to say thank you to ALL of you who sent good thoughts our way and kept us in your prayers today. We all really needed it. Thank you all for offering to punch my ex-sister in the face - believe me, I was close to driving my truck through her house in hopes of plowing her down myself. Here's what happened: Last night we were watching Ghosthunters and a cop knocks on the door and serves us with papers telling us to be at social services at 9am this morning. He didn't tell us why or what it was for - we just assumed my sister was behind it. After a night of tossing and turning and having the core of my soul ache because I was scared on one hand and thinking the worst - yet knowing on the other hand we had nothing to hide. I got myself out of bed and cried. I cried in the shower, I cried for the hour I stood in my closet trying to find something to wear on judgement day. I cried when I called my dad before we left, and I cried all the way there. FI stood strong and was a rock during all of this. We get to the family crisis center 10 minutes early and the detective comes out and tells FI he has to leave because they don't want me or the kids intimidated while we are waiting to get interviewed. WTF?? They tell him to leave and come back in 45 minutes so he leaves. He told me later that he went to the church where we baptized our son and spoke to the priest for some support. So there I sit with my two kids. Then the social worker comes out and tells me she is going to interview my daughter with the detective and video tape, etc. I keep asking why are we here and no one will tell us. They said they will tell us after they interview my daughter. So as I kiss my daughter goodbye as I watch her walk down the hall with this complete stranger - I know she is going to reveal herself to someone she has never met in her life and I feel so violated. I feel this stab in my heart and I immediately start crying. I can't control the sobs. I have never felt so alone in my life. I stood there with my son and felt like my world was ending. After crying alone for about 10 minutes I pull myself together and after 30 minutes or so my FI comes back in. He told me that the detective told him that my sister called and made allegations. He didn't know what they were, only that she was behind it. So after a while my daughter comes out with the social worker and then I go back. We go into the interview room and sit down and the social worker. She asks me if I know why we are here. I tell her that I'm sure it has to do with my sister accusing us of something. I said to her, "Better yet - why don't you tell me why I'm here because no one will tell me exactly why". The social workers exact words are: "In late May (last week) we recieved a call stating that there was possible sexual abuse between your daughter and FI. (I didn't even have time to take it all in before she said) - After interviewing your daughter there is absolutely no evidence of this and these allegations ARE FALSE"!!!! "Your daughter showed no signs of abuse, sexually or otherwise. She is a very smart, articulate girl and you have done a good job in telling her about good touching and bad touching. There is nothing to worry about - based on our findings there is nothing going on". I just smiled and said, "I know - this is ridiculous". I felt like the 10 ton elephant was off my chest. I then went on to tell her my whole drama saga story with my ex sister. She was very understanding and seemed to think that my ex sister was a nut case. She asked me a lot of of other questions but basically it was nothing. After we finished, she called in FI and interviewed him and we were done. Since it is an investigation we have to finish it out with a home visit and she will be contacting my daughters teacher and pediatrician regarding her ADD meds. She will also be contacting my ex-sister to tell her that her allegations were false. They can take it from there - we just want to be left alone and as far as my ex-sister is concerned - I'm through with her for good. I am just happy that we are vindicated. I think my FI is the strongest man in the world. If he can get through this without walking away - and after all of this he STILL wants to marry me - I am absolutely the luckiest girl in the world! My daughter was very shaken by this. I am emotionally and physically drained. I am happy that we are having a party for our kids on Saturday because my girl in particular, needs a celebration. She has been put through the wringer . My ex-sis told my dad she had nothing to do with it. My dad came over after he got off work today and we told him everything. We were there till noon, but I tell you - this was by far the longest day of my life. I am happy to have it behind us. I told my dad that he can deal with my ex-sis. I am through with her. She will never ever see my kids. I am washing my hands of her. FI's mom and I had a good long cry and talk when we got home. I am so thankful that she does not judge me because of my family. I am happy it is over and YES - I am celebrating as we speak with a vodka lemonade and damn I feel good! Thank you all for the well wishes. Love ya! ~Celina PS - I'm sorry if I offended anyone for using the C word in the description of my now ex-sister.

FI & I just got served to go down WITH our kids tomorrow morning at 9am to the Department of Social Services. Remember my sister and her accusations? She has stooped to the low I knew she was capable of. She is a f**king "see you next tuesday" and is dead as far as I am concerned. My daughter was in tears when the police left and I feel so defeated I can't open my mouth to talk. I called my dad and told him and he said,"I just talked to her (my sister), she was going to bible study." I told him she should take that bible and shove it up her ass - his daughter was dead to me. He was shocked and said he was going to call her. I don't even know what to say. The officer wouldn't tell us what we were going down there for, he just asked our names, (Me, FI and kids), birthdates and told us to be there at 9am tomorrow morning. He just said the dispatcher sent him over. I know she is behind this. I just know. I am so beyond mad. I feel like I did when this all started. Now as I look at my children the thought of living my life without them and the fact that someone would dare try to take them from me strikes a nerve in the core of my soul that is so deep that I can't even find words to explain it. I'll write more tomorrow. We called our lawyer and he said to go see what the deal is tomorrow but he is on call if we need him. Keep me and my family in your prayers. I need strength to be clear headed and articulate and I can't lose my cool. Pray that my daughter finds the words to express to whomever she has to talk to - the words of truth. Pray for continued strength for my finace. He has been drug through the mud and I don't want him to snap. Thanks for letting me cry on your guys' shoulders. I'll be in touch ~ Celina

Okay - what about us November brides? Are we out of the clear? We are having a beach ceremony at 5pm (around sunset) Any advice for me?

OH Becks - your dress and you look beautiful! Love the veil - it looks so perfect on you! Don't change a thing ...I'll sing with you.... I love her dress - oh yes I do! She'll rock that dress all the way to Cancun!!! YAY! You look beautiful!!

Erin & Glenda - try some water pills and maybe a fat blocker? Maybe some OTC weight loss pills and whatever you do - nothing white and especially NO Salt!!

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Quote: Originally Posted by LadyCheese I rcvd my starfish yesterday!! I order a few knobby ones for the guys bouts and I order the white pencil starfish for the placecards....they reek, I have to air them out this wknd and pray the smell goes away!! I hope to order my invitation paper this wknd so i can get started on the also. Ive held off on OOT stuff bc I dont know how many other people are going to book...I wish i knew already so i can get some stuff out the way. bummer! I read somewhere that you can spray Febreeze on them and it will help with the smell.

Quote: Originally Posted by lucy106 Congrats on getting your OTC stuff!! That is fun but ummmm where are the pics? HMM HAHA!! The closet in our spare bedroom/closet will be bare when the wedding is over, ha!! But that is just fine with me. Dropped the shoes off today to be dyed a light blue, just printed my RSVP cards to be cut and put together, and have my parent cake knife in my car to drop off to have our names and wedding date engraved on the opposite side that my parents info is. Moving along, little by little. Off tomorrow for another injection and I started a cold yesterday, yipee!! Oh, that's right Steph - you go in again tomorrow. Tell the anesthesiologist to get it right this time! Your shoes are going to be light blue?? I LOVE IT!! Can't wait to see them! My God girl, you are on it! I haven't ordered invites yet because I haven't found a location for our AHR. After much consideration I don't want all those people in my home - too much work. My friend here just told me he could get me an almost free rate at the Elks Lodge - which is fine with me! I just want an AHR to include our many friends, family and co-workers who can't make it and I don't want to wait till summer. By December 1st I want to be done with wedding stuff. We'll see what happens cause FI and I looked at an Elks lodge before and he hated the musty smell. I'll keep you all posted!

I agree with what everyone else has already said! Ask her to honestly tell you if this is something she can commit to. There are projects, showers and parties associated with your wedding. Best to deal with it now than to wait (like some of us) and end up scrapping plans later because she backed out or you get so mad that you kick her out. Good luck!

I know! I have the space behind my bedroom door as the designated wedding area. I have 1 under the bed storage container, one huge tub and the small roll-on luggage piece full fo wedding stuff. I can't wait to hand it off to everyone else to bring down for me!

We brought sand back from Puerto Vallarta. We put it in a gatorade bottle, screwed the top and packed it in our luggage. I believe the rule is that you can't bring back soil and sand isn't considered soil.

Oh Rach - I hope things get better for you! Go outside and get some fresh air! Better yet - go have a marg for lunch! Cheer up sweetie! XOXOXO

I am so sorry - how violated you feel - I know cause it has happened to me too except they broke my window. What a pain. They will get theirs! What comes around goes around!

TOTALLY AGREE! Even if your baby doesn't latch on (like mine) - PUMP!! Rent one, buy one - whatever! I have had two VERY healthy kids and credit it all to breastmilk! You can even freeze it in a deep freezer. I must say, when the supply dried up and I was down to that last bag of frozen milk - I was SO sad! My son loved it so much. I used to call them protein shakes!

OMG Mel - you look amazing! What a goregous bride you were!! I love the turquoise dresses and the beautiful colorful flowers. Congratulations!

Quote: Originally Posted by Chiquita This weekend I took my second scrapbooking class so I can make my BM's their special books. I feel much more confident now about it so I'm glad I did that. No other wedding related stuff got done this weekend though.. heh I am so intimidated by scrapbooking! Maybe after the wedding is over I can start and take a class. Kudos to you for going - it sounds fun! Quote: Originally Posted by lucy106 OMG Celina! I cant believe your daughter, that is funny (not really but kinda a little bit). What are you going to do? How old is she again? I have been taking the vitamin Biotin to get my hair to grow quicker so maybe that if her doc says that is ok for kids? Ouch on your shins!! Yikes! Danielle, glad you got that registering over with. Although it starts off fun it ends up kind of hard work in my eyes. Anyone else kind of writing their ceremony? I decided to put pieces of ones I liked together for ours. Cuz I needed more stress in my life, what the heck!?!?! When I was done yelling at her and she was crying - I just started to laugh because I sounded just like a mom! I just said, "Oh well Jada, its your hair and your body. If you want a bald spot - whatever! Ultimately you are the one who has to live with it". I told her to start carrying a barette or bobby pin in her pocket for times like that. I know how frustrating it is when you are having a bad hair day. Kids are so cruel - so although I am mad about it, I can empathize with her - it's hard being a kid these days. BTW she is 10 years old. Yeah, I am going to try to find something that may help her. Some vitamins may help. You are brave for writing your ceremony. My problem is I like them all! I like the hand ceremony, the sand ceremony and I can't figure where to even start! Quote: Originally Posted by Chiquita Celina sorry about your daughters' hair.. that totally sucks! Hopefully there is a way to cover it up!! Steph you are brave to be writing your ceremony.. no way will we do that.. heh. I would have no idea and Jayson's not that big of a talker.. haha! She is the one dealing with her hair do. She won't let me comb her hair anymore so I let her deal with it. Her teacher and I have noticed that the kids in 5th grade are now acting like the kids we knew in 7th grade. They are maturing so fast. It is SO hard being a parent these days.

Did you find anything? I still can't find those alligator clips!

It seems like it needs something else around the bottom...I don't know what...just something...rose petals maybe?

CUTE colors! (now that I can see them) lol! Can you explain a little more about the candle? Are you just using it for the container purposes? I'm confused.