Is it OK to scrap the AHR??
Posted 11 July 2010 - 05:45 PM
We already told a lot of our family and friends that we would have something back home when we got back from the wedding but haven't given a date or set any plans, but with school and moving I just don't see how I can plan anything else right now.
I wanted to have the AHR so anyone who couldn't go to the wedding wouldn't feel left out but most of our close friends and pretty much all of our immediate families are going. So is it OK if we just forget about the AHR or will we eventually regret not having one? Also, do you think anyone who isn't going to the wedding would be hurt or offended if we didn't have something they could attend?
Posted 11 July 2010 - 05:47 PM
I feel bad cause I told people the same- if they weren't able to come they can come to the AHR but now *sigh* I'm just not really feeling it.
I'll watch to see what kind of advice you get.
Posted 11 July 2010 - 05:55 PM
But if you really don't want to have one, I think that's perfectly acceptable as well. I'm sure friends and family would love to celebrate with you but they aren't the ones who need to plan or pay for the AHR, so I'm sure they will understand. Good luck with whatever you decide
Posted 11 July 2010 - 07:10 PM
Posted 11 July 2010 - 07:19 PM
I know you told some people you would be having one but oh well, things change. Until I got involved in the whole DW process I had never heard of an AHR. If someone I know got married out of town and didn't have a party for me when they returned I would not be upset. If I was invited to the wedding and didn't go, I'm not owed anything, kwim?
The point is, don't stress about it. It sounds like you have a lot going on and though an AHR is fun and festive, the wedding is what it's all about imho. Have fun at the wedding and settling into your new life after the move, and if the timing is right to have an AHR at that point then throw something together. If not, no worries.
Posted 11 July 2010 - 07:21 PM
I woke up the morning after we got married in Mexico and said, "I don't even want to have an AHR now..."
Me, personally, I could have done without it 100%.
Posted 11 July 2010 - 07:59 PM
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