Hi! First off I am very to sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It's never an easy thing to go through. Having kids before or after marriage is more of a personal choice. Some people (like myself) have been trying for years to get pregnant but have had no luck. Having a child will happen when the time is right regardless if you are married or not. And age is just a number!!! I know its harder to deal with when you get older and I keep trying to tell myself that age is just a number. It's all in how young you feel A destination wedding sounds like a perfect idea for your guys! However it seems that you aren't going to make everyone happy. A con of having a destination wedding. There will always be someone upset but if its what you two want than you have to follow your heart! There are relatively cheap places you can married in Mexico and it isn't going to cost each person $3000. Take a look around this forum, speak with a TA. There is tons of help here with millions of threads! Good luck and follow your heart and your dreams!