Quote: Originally Posted by Lillie09 I've had my DW planned since 9/07. I still to this day have my mom asking me if I'm sure I want to do this. My FH and I had a big wedding/reception planned for 2 months and then decided that everything was just too expensive (especially in NY). My mom cannot get over the fact that we are doing something different. I'm so tired of hearing her! I'm excited about my wedding. She keeps telling me that it's a hardship on people.
I only invited my very close family and friends. My mom is the only one complaining but now I'm afraid that everyone is upset or disappointed that we're having a DW and I can't even be happy planning. The only person behind me is my sister (thank goodness)!!!
I just want to know if anyone has been through this and how it turned out.
Oh and my mom loves to tell me that my grandma may not be able to attend (I'm very close to her) and she knows that upsets me but I believe she will be there.
I'm so sorry this is so long! Oh boy do I ever know your situation! In fact, my mother tries the guilt and if that doesn't work, she starts to yell! We aren't on speaking terms right now.
She gets mad that I don't want to invite people like her neighbor (that i don't even know) and one of my uncles (who is currently in jail ). Then tries to make me feel bad that most of her family won't be able to go because of the cost and that my grandma is getting old and won't be able to go. Mom's love playing the "Grandma" card. Sad thing is, she's the only one who is causing trouble.
It has caused a lot of grief and lots of tears on my end. I've even told my Fi that I don't want a wedding anymore! But, I know how much it would mean to him and his family so I'll do it.
So, any time you feel like you need to vent, I'm here for you.