I absolutely feel your same emotions! Its such a roller coaster of emotions, up one day and down the next. My fiance family is from a small town and they are the least understanding about all of this. But, you just need to stay focused . .you are marrying your best friend, your soul mate, and it is going to be in the most beautiful place ever. Plus, I think of it as forcing your family and friends to take a much needed vacation, LOL. We invited over 250 people, and everytime I get a "NO" RSVP, I get sad over again. And, trust me, there are ALOT OF 'NO's"! But, at the end of the day, you made choices for certain reasons. I try to maintain the thoughts that people who make inappropriate comments to me about it are just jealous they cant come, right???? LOL!!!! Vent away . . thats what this site is for . . and to find AMAZING IDEAS!!! Happy planning!