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We are really just asking our guests to join us for the welcome dinner and wedding day activities. We decided that we don't want to 'make' anyone do anything while on vacation.

Hello all .. I need to vent and also see if perhaps I'm overreacting. Well, it is to a point where I think I'm a bridezilla. We are not having a huge bridal party; just witnesses; Maid of Honour and Best Man. Oh boy - the best man.. it all started a few months back when I advised what our theme decor colours were (fuschia) and the witnesses would be in turquise/aqua to accent the fuschia. My maid of honour; gave her a choice - fuschia or aqua dress. We wuold then reverse the colours as it didn't matter to me. She chose aqua - went, got a dress; no issues. Best man - ManOdrama galore. First it was the issue of the suit. FI and BM decided that FI should wear a black suit; GREAT. At first we thought that FI would wear light colours so I said light colours, but once they suit was changed to black; I said that the BM is got to be in a dark suit too (don't care what dark as long as it's dark). Settled. Then I said that I would like the BM to wear a turquirse/aqua/teal shirt. OH NOOOO, he won't wear it because he will not look good in the colour. So I said; fine. We'll get a tie in those colours as long as he wears solid - one colour shirt. So I went out with my mom; we found fabulous ties for the best man and our son (we wanted them to have the same ties); OH NOOOOO, he won't wear it because it's a thin tie and it will look like a noodle on him. So I said; fine, get your own tie. A few weeks ago, he calls and says he bought this shirt and it's summer colours (different lines on the shirt different colours). REALLY; is that a solid colour. Anyway; I said no way - solid is solid. So he says he's got this off white into pink shirt. I said fine; thats really nice, it will go well with the tie etc. Well - it's pink alright with flipping brown dots.... NOPE, ain't happening. We decided finally on a shirt - done and done. So yesterday he texts my FI and tells him he bought a suit. Right away I said : what colour. Light beige. REALLY??????? I flipped out and FI and I argued because of him. I said he wants the light suit, he can wear it to the welcome dinner, not our wedding. I texted and said that at this point I don't care what he wears and what he matches with what. I thought that it was our wedding and the bride's opinion matters at least a bit. So he tells me that when I seen his dark suit I made a 'face' so he especially went and bought the suit because he seen my 'face' and KNEW I didn't like it. And if I think he doesn't know how to dress he understands. Whatever. I was just too curious and first time EVER checked out my FIs msgs on the phone. The msg about me wasn't too nice. That I change my mind constantly, that i don't know what I want, and he will do whatever FI wants, but JUST FOR HIM. All this man-o-drama just wants me to throw in the towel. I thought that avoiding a big bridal party would allow me to have a stress free wedding and only worry abut my dress, oot bags etc. I only plan to get married once, am I not permitted to have our day done our way, whether it will be perfect or not? After giving in with the suits going dark, the shirt, the tie; I'm fed up with this crap and when I put my foot down, I was called a bride from hell. I don't want to walk down the isle and see him in almost ivory suit (Yes - that's how light it is). Sorry - long, but had to get it off

as a favour we have chosen the flip flop bottle opener. I thought it matched our wedding perfectly. Especially since everyone in the group is getting a welcome gift that includes actual flip flops. We are also doing the fans, but for ladies only - my son will give them out as guests arrive to the ceremony site. The guys are getting baseball hats in the welcome gift.

We have roughly 25 people including us, and we are doing a reception. Small or big - I want a beach party...so we're going for it.

We have already done so many things in reverse, I really don't care to show him, however, he doesn't want to see, so i guess HECK no lol

Whenever I travel I always buy one of those BIG bags at cosco and take with us. (peanut M&Ms are my addiction) They are always ok (I even have them in my check in bag). They are soft'er by the time we get to the hotel, but I put them in the fridge right away. Now - I have sometimes put a small amount in a ziplock bag for excusrions and they didn't melt - but border line melted ... it's a risk I'd say.

That's exactly what I did. Couldnt find a dress that I wasn't sweating in (in an a/ced store), so I asked for options, and that is EXACTLY what my sales lady said. Especially that I will be trashing it. It was a bit over 200 and I'm very pleased with it ....

Regardless of what you do, you'll be the talk of the island anyways ... If you say 'adults only', some won't come because they won't have an option to leave kids behind. If you say married or engaged only; that's just plain rude (my opinion) - who are you going to toss the bouquet to LOL ... Just like the other bride said; totally different process for DW; the most unexpected people book first, and the ones that said all along "I'LL be there no matter what" start talking behind your back and don't end up coming..... I'd send out the invitations for whoever is on your list, and count for about 50% to come.

Hi... congratulations on your engagment and upcoming wedding. I had a hard time going the bridal party.... so I'm not having one. I'm just having a witness (MOH). With your situation, you may want to consider that? Having just a witness is very common in my birth country, so it wasn't a big issue for me. If you're really big on having the whole official MOH thing (showers etc), then perhaps the sister isn't a good choice. But if you're not to particular on that, why not? It's only one bridal dress to worry about, and she can get it or go try on, and just send you a picture before deciding.

I have requested no official bridal games at my shower. Since it's a beach theme shower (keeping with the DW wedding theme) lol... we have three games (and might do a 4th because we have some preggo ladies that will not be able to do 2 of the games). 1. Limbo - person who wins - gets the prize (baught a limbo set at party packages for 15$) 2. Hoola Hoop - two pple at a time. Winner gets promoted to next round and so on. Winner gets the prize. 3. One kind of trivia game. We have 15 questions (all from our wed website) which are multiple choice. We'll ask throuhgout the shower e.g. What is the wedding date (and we put a), and c). Or where they are getting married blah blah 4. This is if the two preggo ladies don't take part in either of the first 2, or if we feel it's a 'dry' atmoshpere. a). 4-5 apples/4-5 people. each get a plastic knife, who peels and seeds the apple first - wins hot cucamber (instead of hot potato). You pass the cucamber by holding it in between the legs). one with the cuc between legs, leaves and so on..... I so HATE the silly dress making, or pinning stuff on an apron etc... A twist for destination wedding showers lol

That's actually who I'm using as well..... he's so good to work with... and that's BEFORE the session

A is nicer...

You need full 2 business days (the day of arrival does not count and Sundays do not count). This is standard for the entire island. So, if you arrive on the 16th, the earliest you can get married is the 19th (17th and 18th is considered your waiting period). We arrive on a Saturday, so we can only start counting Mon and Tue as our validation period. The price - what country are you originating from? If Canada, that is a decent price (April is still high season). If you are under (I think 50 or 55) you can have the semi-private, but it seems the charge extra (right now 10.50/person) above the number of people in your package. If you are getting married in April, she won't really give you a price. Prices change month to month - bride to bride. Go back to the begining of this thread and read through the posts. We have posted A LOT of current prices which will give you an idea for the budget. Quote: Originally Posted by Krysta lee ann our wedding date would have to be april 18th since we have to wait 2 working days?!?! other places in jamaica just make you wait 48hrs?? anyeon else find this?

You really need to get the information from your wedding coordinator. For example; I'm not paying for Welcome Dinner, but it's done at the buffet, meanwhile, my parent's friend's daughter did - she had it private. You will get more answers from the coordinator as the time nears your wedding date - they;ll send you an extra's optional list. I would just email and say you are planning your budget and if you could get ideas of costs that woudl be great.

We went to Punta Cana in January. I was able to walk around barefoot - no issue. I think the summer months will be much hotter though.

I gave my FI a free hand to dress. He decided that he is doing a full suit thing (black), tie etc. My dress is white, but very simple.. hope he doesn't look better then me LOL

Soon2BNJersey bride. We will give our guests a blank post card (from vistaprint) and ask them to put their room number on it and give it back to us at welcome dinner. Mind you, we only have about 20 people. This way we know what room they are in and we'll keep in touch that way. Even if we have to go slip a note to them under the door.

IT just means you have to pay for it. I belive it's US $350-$400.

I can only answer the laundry.... more steaming services. there is none onsite. Keisha can arrange this for you with a local place for $75 . Just ask her.

I fully understand what you are going through. We knew we wanted a DW, we didn't consult anyone, we just announced it. Knew the risks, and were fine with that altough along the way I did have a few doubtful moments, they passed. After almost 10 years together, living under the same roof for 8, we thought that we want the wedding for US, not THEM. Do what you think is right for you.

We budgeted for $10,000 CAD for DW. This is to inlclude everything; from invitations to photographers. We almost blew the budget out the window, but our travel packages dropped in prices, I found a dress for half of what I budgeted. What I found to add to the cost is the little things. As you don't purchase them all at ones, you tend to 'dismiss' the cost a bit, until you add the $6.49 here and $5.29 there. It doesn't seem much at the time of purchase, but at the end, the $5 add up quickly. Our photographer and reception/extra people/dj fees are the main spending.

I'm trully sorry for your loss Soon2BNJersey. Since you're getting married on a Saturday, I think they also have the beach party..

Congratulations Misti! You looked beautiful on your day! ....

My MOH said she's doing a shower for me. I said: great - but I don't need anything. SHE said she'll do it cash shower. We found wording on the net about wishing well, we put it at the back of the invite (tacky or not), and did say that you place money in the wishing well (only if you wish to participate) and make a wish ... along those lines. My MOH's step dad will make an actual replica of a wishing well, we'll decorate it, and put a sign on it, make a wish ... no mention of money/coin on the well.. just : make a wish. You must be prepared though that people will bring you gifts, regardless.

You ladies are awesome... thanks!