BajaBride2010

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How wonderful - Congratulations - Happy New Year

I will keep all these tips in mind for my next relationship. The plot continues to thicken. We half way made but I as I proceeded to ask question about New Year's Day and if I had my ring on. I started to tell him how people were asking about him and how I told the story of our engagement (which is so beautiful). He was like 'so everyone was invited and knew about this except for me'. I have a tendency to get absent minded with stuff most of the time and some things I wait until the last minute to tell him because his reaction can be unpredictable and at times explosive. Although I had the best intentions on telling him, I never had the opportunity and as you know that last week I spent crying my eyes out and begging him to understand. I treied to explain that to him...I have not been able to sleep or eat properly since Chrsitmas. Now I feel like I keep digging myself further in a ditch. He has not asked for the ring back, but I'm ready to say to He$$ with it because all I am doing now is living in agony prayer that he forgives me and gives his heart to me again. But then I'm like, who in the He&& does he think he is. Ok I made a mistake, I messed up but is the punishment fitting the crime. I tried to remind him of the things he has done (that in my opinion are pretty bad), but I never treated him the way he is treating me. He feels his incidents were in the past and we are at a different place since he put a ring on my finger. I feel like I'm on an emotional roller coaster. Earlier today he suggests we go out of town then he takes it back becasue he is now pi$$ed about New Year's Day. Now, I am not trying to say everything I do is right but I never have malice. I truly love him and want to make it work but I am having doubts. His reactions almost make me wonder if there is someone else or at least an interest of some sorts. My body can't take another week like that.

I know exactly what you ar talking about. I have withdrawls if I can't get to a computer to check out this forum. It is like that morning cup of coffee for me...lol

same : some

new way of life : leaving the old behind

flare : flame

Lame : Make

Thank you all for your responses and taking the time to help shed light on this situation. I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. It gets hard at times, especially when your are very limited to people and can talk to. So again, thank you all from the bottom of my heart. As far as NYE, we did spend it together but it was very casual and almost cold. The kids help to make the situation a little lighter just becauase we were able to play games and laugh a little. On New Year's day, we went our seperate ways (he with his family and I had friends over at my house). Not sure how this story will end, but I am preparing myself for the worst. I am sitting here at work now...I just really contemplating calling the whole thing off. This is a new year and I just don't like starting off like this. This is such a miserable feeling. Things have changed and he is different towards me...I don't know how to get things back on track.

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I feel so conflicted and confused...I am ok until the holidays roll around. He ia not understanding when it comes to where I spend my holidays. He feels like it is a slap in the face, especially when he spent time with my mom and I at Thanksgiving. He questions how can we have a marriage when I choose my mom every time and she has such an impact on our relationship. I hate being in this situation and don't want to have to make the decision. Should a man feel that threatened? As a wife what is within reason to have to give up? I honestly feel that me not having kids and him having 2 that I am already accepting a huge responsibility that is worthy of some lead-way. He has to be close to them so where we live is based on that, which means I have to relocate and find another job in this economy (hopefully it will be better by then)...This is also an area where all his family resides putting me further from my mom (the only family I have). Although she is moving out of state next year, which is going to kill me, lol. Anyway I'm not trying to tout my own horn but I would expect some slack. But in his defense I know he wants me there to support him for his family functions. I got a 2nd e-ring on Christmas so it was the topic of conversation once I arrived. Let me also add that he was married before and she went along with him to all the holiday events and family gatherings...to the extent she still showed up after we started dating supposedly for the kids..yeah right. I guess his expectations have doubled since we got engaged. When I remind him of some of his wrong doing, he replies things are different now. I must admit since the proposal, he has been superman when it comes to me needs and wants, we just can't get the holiday thing right.

Quote: Originally Posted by Jacqueline it is something you two can work through? im so sorry!!! did i miss a previous thread? feel like ive been mia. It is under Holiday with the In-Laws

I have crashed and burned...It pains me to say this but I think the wedding is close to being called off...I'm glad I got it off my chest, but I still feel like crap :-(

To learn and grow from my mistakes

Tear : Fear

I need some love and support right now...I have crashed and burned. I think the wedding is close to being called off. The holiday situation was way too much and th FI has had enough of it. He feels I choice my mother over him and this will continue to be a pattern in the marriage. I don't know what to...I have not been able to eat or sleep well since Christmas, now we are spending New Year's Eve apart from one another and our conversation are only about the business we have together. I would think that he would have cooled off by now, but I have never seen him like this. I can't take it anymore, I'm about to pull my hair out. I'm at work now but I can't even function because my heart is hurting so much. There are no words left for me to say to him other than good-bye and release the both of us from this pain. I really messed up this time!

I am a 2010 Bride! I feel like I started too soon but I know time will fly. I'm glad I am not the only one. Thank you so much for starting this thread.

Very nice...I love both of them

I love it...Wha a great idea...You did a really good job

Congratulations

congratulations...you guys look so happy and you ring is beautiful

Quote: Originally Posted by YoursTruly Would your mom mind going with you both to his family? Or do the not get along? It's not that they don't get along. They really don't know one another that well. My mother does not want to sit in a house full of people she really does not know. Plus I told her how the previous in-laws would still come to his family function. He has a pretty big family and they celebrate every holiday. Also both of our mother have a "hotess" personality...so I guess it is hard being on another playing field outside of your comfort zone. I know it seem simple and easy since it is just my mother but it has been a big deal and a mitigating factor for the progress of our relationship

My plans blew up after my Chrsitmas Day stunt...I was wondering should I just make plans with my girls and go out and party, or what? It sucks because this is will be our first New Year's Eve apart....Ok, now I'm sad...lol.

Once : Nice