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Welcome & Happy Planning!

Welcome & Happy Planning!

I know how it feels, we've given people 2 plus years notice that we would be getting married April '09 down south. We did the group rate thing back in the spring, people were awful about letting us know and now I am about to hesitantly send out the official invites knowing that the people I am sending to won't be coming. Hell for all I know they'll probably will peel the stamp off the RSVP and use it for something else rather than put the darn thing in the mail and give us confirmation. People ignore email as well. I would say give them a call (you, your FI, your Mom, his Mom). Put them on the hook for a yes / no answer. Just say you are firming up numbers because you need to know how many plates and set-up costs you and your FI will need to pay for over the alloted package number that you have already paid for. Some people tend to assume because it is an all inclusive that the wedding and meal that day are free, so why bother with a response.

Our families scoffed at Mexico, said choose somewhere else, we chose DR and they complained about that as well. Sometimes you can't win for trying. The other ladies before me are right, remember the wedding is about you and your FI. Your day is going to be beautiful. A while back I started a thread on lessons learned from planning a destination wedding (http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/t27513). Take a read through, there might be some warm and encouraging words to let you know you are not alone with the things you are going through.

I agree with what Erin has said in her post. Sometimes people make choices that may not be the choice we would make. Her getting back with him may be related to her self esteem...maybe she thinks who would want her 1 kid and an abortion later at 21, who knows what pressure she is getting from people about the decision she made, maybe she thinks only he can understand her...no one can really know. Speaking as someone who repeatedly went back to a guy on and off for 6 and 1/2 years during my college years because I loved him, believed I could change him to be faithful, wanted to believe the smooth lies and lacked of confidence to think I would be ok on my own, it's not easy to walk away from someone. You have to learn from your mistakes and generally what people around you are saying goes in one ear and out the other. I do hope she finds her way.

Love your photo's. That sky makes an amazing backdrop. Your wedding looked so beautiful.

I think it will look fine shorter as well. The sash of course will probably have to be shortened too. Like Trice has said, try pinning it to get a sense of how short to go. Inch above the knee might be cute. Also please make sure you have a good seamstress to alter. Looks like it may be lined, which means the lining has to be adjusted as well. A good seamstress can work wonders.

I am so sorry. No one deserves to lose a pet. It's so sad. I looked up online and found the following lists of things that can be harmful: Common Household Poisons Poisons Affecting Pets (Dogs and Cats) Are Displayed in ThePetCenter.com Human Foods, Products Can Kill Pets - Local News Story - WCAU | Philadelphia I know my Aunts kitten (over 6 months) died after she used some sort of flea medication on it that she purchased at like Walmart or somewhere like that. I really hope you find out the answer. Again, I am so sorry that you have had to go through this.

Oh my goodnesss, they remind me so much of my Miss Kitty and Max (or at least what I pictured them to be like as kittens before we adopted them at about 6 months). My Max is a poly / mouser too, which is generally a tendency for East Coast cats. As they grow their feet are going to look like big old mittens and its hilarious when they are playing with a ball, like they have a catchers mitt.

Happy Legal Day!

I have been wondering as well how you have been doing. So glad you are home already, that's a great sign your recovery is progressing along.

Too funny!

So happy you are starting to get up and around. Before you know it that 5 minute walk will take 5 minutes again.

Thank you ladies for the info. I wish we had a JoAnn's or Hobby lobby here in Halifax. We've only got Michael's. I looked there and the only semi-real looking ones were the orchids. However, I actually got some good news last night Angel's has given me a quote to make my bouquet. I meet with Staci next week to discuss.

Have your TA check to see if there are any WestJet flights for Transat on the days you want. My TA was able to get us moved to WestJet when we had issues with the flight times for the regular Transat flights to the DR.

Thank you ladies! Any recommendations on who to purchase from?

By any chance those of you purchasing the the Real / Natural touch, could you give me an idea of how much the roses cost (per stem)? I am trying to figure out if I want to go the route of DIY for my flowers or get the resort florist to make the bouquets, etc.

I'd say if these things came on with the addition of a dog and the turmoil of a house remodel, it is most definitely nerves. More than 1 litter box helps too, they like to have privacy when they do their business usually. If he gets in the habit of doing this, he'll become what is often referred to as a dirty cat and they won't be able to break him of it. They really should talk to a vet, who would be able to tell them if it is medical and sometimes they will prescribe a prescription to help calm the cat. Cats are extremely sensitive to changes in their environments. Some sites that might help are: Advice for cat urinating outside the litterbox How to Retrain a Cat to Use the Litter Box - wikiHow

Best wishes for a successful surgery and a super quick recovery. We're all here to make you giggle and smile when you are up to going online again. Until then you are in our thoughts and prayers.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Glad to read that he has talked some with you. He needs to be doing more of it. Speaking from personal experience, losing your job puts you through an emotional ringer and you become a huge a-hole to the people around you for no good reason. Let's hope this is the case. Have you tried helping him with his job search and asking him what he needs from you to work thorugh this as a family? I know once I got job searching and found a new job, I had a whole heck of alot of apologizing to do to my FI for the nasty stuff I said when I was so depressed over being jobless and terrified of losing our home. If by chance this is not a result of the job loss, a bit of advice along with what some of the other ladies said, have him leave the house. Not to be negative, just realistic, if you leave and he decides to change the locks, what then? You and your kids are stuck out on the street. It happened a few weeks ago to my sister, who is in the process of ending a bad marriage. She first had him leave, he came back a few days later, started in on her again to the point she couldn't take it anymore, then she and the kids left to stay with my parents for a few days while he was supposedly moving out. When she came back, all her stuff was outside and the locks changed. She now has to wait for the courts to decide who gets the house and custody even though the kids are with her. Be wise about all this, he can't leave you in limbo and I pray that he is just going through a bad time because of his job loss and this is going to work out for you.

I agree with Harty, set a budget, start saving without expectation and enjoy your engagement. If they are going to offer to help, they will offer and it will be a bonus. Money is a sensitive issue with people even parents and asking may cause more issues than not. Money may be tight right now for them with the state of the economy. For us, we are paying for our wedding and trips ourselves and contributing a little to our parents for their trips (as a surprise). We've been saving for a few years and we've actually told our families when they did offer that their contribution is paying for their trip. My parents are getting close to retirement and the way markets have been fluctuating I am sure they have lost a fair bit from their retirement funds that they won't have 20 years to gain back as the market balances out again. Also, saving together as a couple will teach you a bit about the person you are about to marry. Believe me, I didn't realize how much my FI was a spender and avoided all conversations about money until we started trying to prepare for our wedding. It was something we had to work on and coming to some common ground has benefited our relationship.

Oh, it is lovely. You are going to be stunning on the big day!

Here's the Jasmine B2 (Style #B9041) dress my MOH chose in Bahama Breeze. I think it is so pretty.

Welcome and Happy Planning! There is tons of stuff on this site. The search feature is a life saver at times when I am looking for an answer to a question I have.

UPS brokerage fees are insane. They're the highest. I learned the hard way and I ended up paying $50 brokerage and duty on a $70 order. They do not tell you the full price when you order and the UPS guide is not accurate. I was expecting about $20-$30 and if I had known it was that bad, I definitely wouldn't have made the purchase. Use USPS (US Postal Service) whenever you can or companies that have the Canada Borderfree option for US-Canada orders.