What Kind of Couple are you and DH?
Posted 19 July 2008 - 02:12 PM
As another example, I worked with a woman at my previous job who literally talked to her husband on the phone 3-5 PER DAY, and not while on a break. I can understand calling to check in if something's going on, but I seriously doubt that's the case every day. I finally had the balls to say something to my supervisor and a No Cell Phone Policy was drafted.
DH and I are obivously very close and do a lot together, but we also don't have to be "together" every waking moment to feel secure. We avoid calling each other at work unless it's an emergency, or something happened that we can't wait to tell until we get home. I love DH dearly, but sometimes we just need a couple of hours apart to do things for ourselves. For me it's window shopping at the mall or meeting my mom for lunch. Sometimes he just likes to mess around on the computer for a couple hours while I'm not there adding to his honey-do list
Posted 19 July 2008 - 02:26 PM
Posted 19 July 2008 - 02:32 PM
Posted 19 July 2008 - 02:36 PM
In a normal week, he does work long hours, and i work fulltime as well as studying 2 nights a week...so we don't get to spend a whole lot of time together.
We only phone each other during working hours if its an emergency too.
Posted 19 July 2008 - 02:46 PM
I love it but thats because i'm so independent the only time it narks me is when he comes home and can't be bothered to do anything with the dogs! its like hello i have to lol
One of my best mates is the forces 2 and he says he's spent 5 months max in one stretch with his wife in all the years they've been married - god help him when he retires lol
I've had the full on together 24/7 and its not me it makes me feel suffocated
Posted 19 July 2008 - 02:51 PM
Posted 19 July 2008 - 04:25 PM
Posted 19 July 2008 - 04:46 PM
Now that we're a little more settled in, we are a lot more independent. We only call each other at work every once in a while though. Mostly if there's something going on that we need an opinion.
We still spend most of our time with each other but that's just because we're pretty much each other's best friend/only friend in town.
Recently he's taken a few contract jobs working 20 hrs away (for three weeks at a time) in another province and its reminding me how lucky I was to have him home every night for so long.
Every couple is different, if you and your man are happy with the time you have together, then don't worry about it. What works for one couple doesn't necessarily work for the next.
Posted 22 July 2008 - 11:55 AM
Posted 22 July 2008 - 11:57 AM
| Originally Posted by Infinity22 |
I don't see anything wrong with your brothers situation with his fiance, nor do I see a problem with your situation. Everyone's relationship is different because it involves two different people with two different personalities that react differently. So people require a lot of attention while at the same time, their fiance or spouse enjoys giving it. It just sounds like you and your partner are more independent then your brother's relationship and there's nothing wrong with that! My wife and I go through cycles where we talk a lot during the day and then some days we don't. It's taken us awhile to figure out everything but we're both on the same page. This is just another great example of why you can't judge other people's relationships because what works for them may not work for you and likewise.
Wow, well said! I couldn't agree more! I think it's a balance that each couple sorts through on their own, and figures out what works for them...
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