Quote: Originally Posted by Jennybell1 Im really happy to hear that your session went well and you both were able to communicate what you needed. I think you have exactly the right idea - you want to be happy....that is what we all want and need....so make sure you keep that in the back of your mind always. You need to be happy - you need to come first in that aspect, then worry about others. If you are not happy, the people around you wont be happy either. That much you need to do for yourself.
Good luck and I wish you both all the best! Jenna I know that I am getting in late on this conversation but I want to say that I know exactly how your FI is feeling. I believe it maybe more glaring for men because they are historically the hunters and the gatherers, but all of the feelings that he describes, I have gone through. It is difficult to come to the place where everything you do isn't good enough. Even though it is through no fault of your own, after a while that is how it feels. I am unemployed and have been for almost a year and it is rough goings at times. I feel it is so unfair to my FI that I have to lean on him sometimes financially. Also, not knowing when I will find a job has pushed me to thinking about what is going to happen after the marriage and us living together and him footing all the bills if I don't get a job soon. It is a lot and sometimes it does become overwhelming and you just don't want to hear all of the flowery words from everyone that "everything is going to be okay" or "don't worry I will be there for you". But one thing that I have learned and I guess that your FI knows as well is that he, just as I am, are blessed. Blessed to have people in their lives that love them and care enough to make sure that we are doing okay and to help us out along the way. I am glad that you guys are slowly working through things and I know that it will turn around. Just keep praying and communicating. I know that prayer moves mountains and that communication doesn't let the other person feel left out of what you are going through/feeling.
Be blessed and God speed!