Oh Janine, that is not a very good day at all. But don't worry it will all come about, you will see. You are transplanted for the next two months but I know from our conversations that you are a very together person, so I am positive that you have everything that you need to finish your DIY projects during the time that you are in NY. Also, I know that you would love to have both the BD and the TTD, but as you say it looks like you can't have both, so you will have to make a HUGE decision and decide which one will be better to have. I would say the TTD, and the only reason is that you can always take BD pics for your FI/FH at a later date on a special occasion and he would love them just the same. However, the TTD pics are a once in a lifetime thing associated with your wedding (that's just my take on it). I know its a tough decision but to choose between the two, but we have to do what we must, right? Sorry that you are having a sucky day. I was just about to vent also in an unrelated post about my FI (and you know I should be happy cause he just got into town, UGH)!
Anyway, I know it is all going to come about just fine. Now about the invites what are they saying, when's the soonest they can have them to you? Have you called the local PO to see if they have a trace of where they are (just a thought). I hope that they do find them and that they are just temporarily misplaced. Hope I've helped!
I'm cheering you on!