My best friend (BM) and her two daughters (flower girls) will no longer be in the wedding. In fact, her entire family will likely no longer come. Originally my bf, her husband, their two girls and her parents were set to come. Its not so much the fact that they aren't coming, its the reason. The reason is devastating and, in a way, makes me think my whole wedding is so insignificant.
Last week, their 5 year old was complaining of really bad back pain. She was also really pale so they rushed her to emerg. This is a girl who has always been happy and healthy. At the hospital they put her into isolation while they did a battery of blood tests on her. I mean to the point that they had to take blood from her feet because there was nowhere left on her arms to draw from. They also did bone marrow testing. It took almost a week to get the diagnosis. She has leukemia. Now their entire world has changed. She has to stay in the hospital for at least a month and possibly two while she undergoes intensive drug therapy. When she comes home, she will be confined to bed for the next two years as she undergoes treatment. The hope is that through intensive treatment over the next two years, there is a 75% survival rate. However, this means no going to school, no dance class (her favourite activity), no going to her friends' housese, really no anyhing over the next two years.
Obviously her parents are devastated. They are now struggling with being at the hospital and still trying to take care of their 3 year old who of course wants her sister to come home. Everyone is really supportive and we are all helping out but it is so hard.
This isn't really a rant, its just I'm so sad and it is making planning my wedding really hard. This little girl is my god daughter. She was sooo excited about being a flower girl and I just can't picture my wedding without them there. For all of you ladies with kids, please give them a big hug. You just never know when your life can change.