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Here is a link to some of my beach pictures. i wore flat sandals and my hubby wore shoes. I'm also putting the link to my Oot Bag pictures, which has the card I gave out to my guests that had a map of the resort on one side and an itinerary on the other. http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/thread/58045/jerseykitten-non-pro-pics http://www.bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/thread/57075/jerseykitten-s-oot-bags-done in my signature are the links to my pro pics, slideshow and my planning thread for more info - Hope that helps! Good lucK

Great pictures! You look so happy!

 http://www.shutterfly.com/lightbox/view.sfly?fid=7a5096b9d71cc87bc7e45aad1e0cdff4  This link should take you to all of my wedding pics taken by friends and it shows the reception (not private) and all the stuff we did.   SexyLittleCaboBride - we had my dress, his suit, 2 suitcases, a duffelbag and my pocketbook and we were fine - we flew AirJamaica.  My parents took my dress home for me though.  MS Whatever - isn't the marriage certificate pretty? Â

I had around 650 from the wedding and 250 from the TTD - I didn't have a reception, so 1000 does seem around right to me.

Funny, I called the other place to cancel my appointment - I made it while I was there - they didn't even ask me why I was cancelling or if I wanted to reschedule. I'm wondering if she will contact me when she realizes I'm not coming. Thanks for your support everyone!

I trashed my real dress. I loved it so much that I couldn't imagine buying another one, and I knew I was never wearing it again. The great thing was that after getting so dirty from the wedding, the ocean CLEANED my dress, and I actually wore it a third time for my AHR, without even having to dry clean it. It's still in pretty good condition too!

I actually went to another place and had them fixed. They look so much better - I should have done before and after pictures. They were lifting all over the place. I just didn't feel like dealing with the conversation with the other place and driving all the way over there - the place I went to is right by my home and since it's in the mall - open till 9 at night even during the week. I'm going to have to call to cancel my next appointment at the first place now - I bet my "friend" won't even say anything - she has to know she did a crap job - you can't do nails for 20 years and do them that badly.

I love them . My something blue was my toenails. When I got to the salon, they didn't have the color I'd envisioned (baby blue), only a turquoise color - the same exact color of your shoes, and I had no time to go out and find and buy the color i wanted, so I went with what they had. I ended up LOVING the color and got so many compliments on them. I think when people see them peeking out from under your gown they will think it looks awesome, and you will too.

Great pictures - the first one of your eyes peeking over the flowers is gorgeous, and I love the one of everybody on the pier. Congratulations!!!

OMG - that is so my DH - home by noon - laundry or dishes to be done - if I don't say "hey, would you mind emptying the dishwasher...." even though there are piles of dishes in the sink....he will not do them.

A good seamstress can do amazing things. the one at my shop told me she had a client that lost over 50 lbs and they were able to alter the dress. I went down almost 2 (street) sizes after i ordered my dress and they were able to make it fit perfectly.

Sadly, sister issues are all over the place - my sister and I have had issues since I first got engaged. she did not attend my wedding....ignored most events...has distanced herself from our family and just enmeshed herself with her husband and his family. I can't explain her behavior or excuse it. When I tried to talk to her about it she said it was all in MY head. Luckily I have friends who act more like sisters than she does. She is the one that will miss out (as she already has) in the end. I hope it works out for you.

Nice pictures - Congratulations!

I bought Sephora liquid waterproof eyeliner and mascara and it stayed on, didn't run. Eyeshadow was Chanel -not waterproof but it wasn't all over my face. there was no way I was being photographed with no makeup on!

We knew almost immediately that we were going to have a DW, so as people found out and were congratulating us and asking the inevitable "have you picked a date" question, we would tell them " it will be somewhere warm and sunny". Once we picked a date and location, we sent out the STDs to make it official. Your idea for a party sounds really fun!

Quote: Originally Posted by islandbride317 Ugh -- I feel like such a whiny-baby this week.... Now more than even before my wedding, I've been posting "rants" about this, and "venting" about that, so I'd first like to THANK YOU all for (as usual!) bearing with me and hearing me out; the bulk of the time, it feels like only my BDW sisters can truly identify and KNOW where I am coming from, and it means the world! HUGS to you all! So, now to my current vent: as my reply-by date for my AHR just passed earlier this week (btw - our AHR will be on Aug. 14th, 3 months after we were married on May 14th in Jamaica, with 10 lovely guests in attendance), it feels like no one cares about celebrating our wedding with us anymore! We invited about 80 people (b/c we couldn't afford more than that in case everyone DID say they were coming), and so far, I have just under 50 replies as "will attend" and a handful of "regretfully declines"...what's going on here?!? Some of the people I really thought I could count on to be there either haven't replied at all, or have said now that they can't make it, even though they have been telling me for the past year that they are "so excited" for our AHR -- WTF?!? Even my own sister (my only sibling) said she's going to come, but will have to leave early because she's got a freakin' birthday party to go that day also...what a slap in the face, right?!? I guess I'm just pouting like a brat, but it really burns me that my husband and I have both been working 2 jobs for the past 7 months to be able to afford to host a celebration we could be proud of, and now it seems like all that hard work is going to waste. We booked a beautiful waterfront venue on Maryland's Chesapeake Bay, complete with a deejay, cake, photog. -- the works! And we'll still have to pay for 75 people (as per the venue's minimum), even if less attend, so now I just feel like an IDIOT! I guess to some of the guests we've invited, the fact that we are already married makes our AHR not a "big deal", but we're really hurt that it seems like these people are just saying we don't matter enough to take 4 hours out of their day on a Saturday in August to say congratulations. I really do understand that people have other things going on, but I just feel bummed because John and I been there for the important events in these people's lives (ie. weddings, baby showers, their kid's birthday parties, etc.), and now that it's their turn to be there for us, they can't be bothered. * Heavy sigh....again, sorry for the "pity party", girls, and thanks for listening. * Quote: Originally Posted by islandbride317 GIANT HUGS to you for knowing what I'm saying, sugar! You've already brightened my day... And what's funny is that you said you decided to scrap your AHR after all, because I was right there with you. About 2 weeks after we returned from our DW, I was seriously considering just calling it all off myself, but John and I just decided to go ahead with it and now look where I am!! Aaarrrrgghhh! You're soo right -- it IS a lot to think about, coordinate, PAY FOR and now I just feel embarassed to have gone to all this effort for people who really are telling us that they just don't give a sh!t about any of it! And yes, it's a free meal, free booze, free entertainment, free cake...and I don't even care if they bring gifts; all I wanted was for people to care enough to show up! This whole thing really makes it pretty clear who truly "has your back" and who doesn't, you know? And ah yes, my lovely sister....girl, you don't even want to know the half of it! Long story short, at first when we said we were having a DW, she said she could NOT afford to come to St. Lucia, so since I wanted her to attend, we switched our whole island choice to Jamaica and she came to the actual wedding itself. What's more hilarious about our sisterly-relationship is that she herself just got married in Dec. 09, but she only got married then because I went nuts on her for suggesting that she get wanted to have her wedding only 72 hours AFTER us on May 17, 2010 back in the U.S., when my husband and I would have still been in Jamaica on our mini-honeymoon -- this is the kind of BS I deal with! So I told my sister, if she can't spare 4 WHOLE hours for me, her own flesh and blood, because she simply cannot miss her husband's niece's surprise 13th birthday party (her argument for having to go was that this kid's birthday is a quote 'once in a lifetime event because someone only becomes a teenager once in their life'....) then she doesn't need to bother coming at all. I could beat my head against the wall sometimes, I swear!! I just had to chime in... my sister, or bitchster, as I like to refer to her, did not come to my DW, even with my parents offering to pay for her (her husband would have had to stay home with the kids or pay his own way) and she said no to that, said she couldn't afford to come, but afforded lots of other things in the meantime. My parents were going to offer to pay for them to both come, and i told them not to, it obviously wasn't that important to them. she did come to my AHR, but spent most of the time in the lobby with the kids, took lots of pictures, which i am still waiting for, and i have not spoken to her since then (May 22). I hate sisters.

Ohhh Tammy - it looks great! Can't wait to see the new layout! We all learned how to use this forum, we will learn how to use the new one!

You 2 are a stunning couple - beautiful pictures - love the cake! congratulations on a beautiful wedding!

I confess that i have been totally slacking on the gym. It's just to freaking hot to leave the house once I get home and I just want to sit on the couch. If DH doesn't push me, I don't go. BTW Kat I love your siggy pic!

Isn't modern technology wonderful? And instead of people being happy for you, they're mad at you for how they found out! I'm not connected to many family members on Facebook so I didn't have that kind of drama. I took a picture of my ring with my phone and texted it to a bunch of my friends first, and then called the people that didn't text. My parents were actually out of the country and didn't find out till the next day.

Sorry you have had to go through all of this - it sounds like you are better off to not be working in such an office - small office environments can be brutal - it sucks that they treated you so badly in the end - you did the right thing by offering so much notice and they did you wrong asking you to leave like that. BUT, on the bright side - alot of digestive issues are exacerbated by stress, so hopefully, you will find out what is wrong and will be able to feel better soon, and concentrate on finding a new job quickly. I'm hoping like Wendy asked, that you can get COBRA for insurance, and maybe unemployement benefits to help you along - if you need help on job search techniques, PM me and i can help you with that.

I wore a low wedge with big jewels for my beach wedding - I wanted to be comfortable but a little more dressy than flops.

Well - I did call today but they were closed. i will try again tomorrow and see what they say, but it is a lot about what Nicole and Cindy say - my time - i really just want to go somewhere close and get them fixed - especially when we're going away this weekend so I don't have so much time to get this done... Stay tuned and Thank you for your responses!

I have to add my .02 that I was happy to see Jose in the bottom 3 and I am SO tired of the judges complimenting his amazing smile and heart while he is not a good dancer. He was horrible at Bollywood but they kissed his butt and were so mean to Adicheke because his seemed too "African". I think Mia is just mean. Is she a great choreographer - absolutely - but she is a mean judge and it's not neccessary to be so mean - she's not constructive - she's just snarky.

Quote: Originally Posted by khomac I HATE MY BOSS and Employer!! I used to be on salary (awesome benefits, awesome pension, sick days, year end $1000+ bonus, wage increase, important tasks assigned to me, vacation days, etc) I was laid off January 2009 due to the economy, even though I was performing better than some others, worked my way up the company in 4 years, took initiative to improve myself more than others, was in charge of developing a software program with the developers from South Africa and Australia. Another girl who started after me, and was just a little lower than me with job assignments, who was let go once before, then brought back, WAS NOT LET GO when the economy cuts came. I got hired back on contract with a lower pay and absolutely no benefits 3 months later. I do the EXACT same work as before and have the EXACT same knowledge as before, but now get less than someone who has been there shorter than me, and someone who does not even 1/2 of what I do. Instead of being paid by my employer now, he decides to put me through a placement agency who gives a paper check instead of direct deposit. I didn't deposit my pay check in time and now have a $42 NSF fee because my mortgage payment couldn't come out!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so tired of being treated differently than others when I do the EXACT same thing as them if not MORE! It's been a year and a half and I still can't get over it. It caused me so many problems in my life (depression, motivation, anxiety) that my therapist got me a sick note to take a leave of absence from work (which I never used). I'm so tired of feeling this way but don't know how to get over it Thanks to anyone who read the whole thing and listened! xxoo i'm sorry you're going through this, and I can tell you that you aren't the only one. I was laid off in March 2009 from a similar situation - been there 5 years - great ratings and reviews, etc...they kept people who hadn't been there as long and weren't doing as well. and even though it's been over a year, I'm still not completely over the hurt that they let me go, even though i "know" in my head I should be, I'm better off, all those things. And, i know the others that got laid off with me feel the same way. Fast forward a year and now they are calling me to come back as a contractor - same as you - getting paid less, hourly, and no benefits. I've declined. Getting laid off is a major life event - many people do get very depressed, anxious - all the feelings you describe are very normal - and it's good that you have a therapist to talk about these things. Is there any way you can look for another job while you're working? I'm working hourly somewhere else now - taking the knowledge I got at the original company and using it to help another. Is it the great job I used to have - no - but it's a job, and I work here till I can get something better - maybe if you think of it as using your ex-employer to get to where you need to be next. Good luck!