Quote: Originally Posted by Vonnie6 for me and my fiancee, marriage is not just about romance, but also about a promise, agreement and a legality. what i mean is if we both want it to be legal, we do not see why we have to do it twice and spend double the money especially when it cost £10k for 1 wedding (for the style i want). as i said before, we are brought up in a traditional 'up tight' manner and believe marriage comes before living together and having children. but hey, it is different for different people and i am sorry if i sounded harsh. I think you are talking about a different kind of registering. We are talking about a gift registry at a specific store. You go to the store and pick out things you want or need for your home to make it easier for your guests to choose a gift for you. It's very common to do this, at least in the U.S., and most guests appreciate it because they don't have to spend time wondering what to get you. Some of us are wondering if we should do a registry since our guests are already spending so much money just to get to the wedding. We don't want them to think we expect a gift from them, too.