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I know the resort we are getting married at does a couple a day, but from what I have read they space them out and no one has complaints about another wedding interfering with their day. Our resort is a big one though. When you figure out where you want to go, ask the resort how many weddings they do per day and if they are spread out.

Congrats and Happy Planning!

Congrats and Happy Planning!

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Congrats and Happy Planning! There's tons of info on both on here. Identify what you are looking for in a resort first and your budget.

Thanks ladies! We've actually managed to sort a few things out this afternoon. He knew how much his reaction to this whole situation has upset me, so we talked for a bit. I explained yet again that I don't want to cancel the trip or ruin the fun. I just want us to figure out how much it is going to roughly cost and look at ways we can save some money along the way. He had got stuck on my asking him to come up with a rough number for what we are spendind on gas. He knows the gas-guzzling SUV is a sore spot with me. We decided to drop the side-trip to Toronto to watch a ball game that he wanted, find economical motels for the 2 nights we need to stay on the drive to and from Ontario and to cut a few projects we had planned for around the house this summer. I think he finally got where I was coming from, that the big picture is the wedding next April, and that I am not some crazy woman constantly worrying about money. Thank you for the support and advice. I am definitely going to see if I can find those books at the library. I love Suze Orman too, also a bit hooked on Til Debt do Us Part on Slice TV.

My sentiments exactly, when his Dad passed his mom was left with a mountain of debt and they would have lost their house if it wasn't for the fact she put herself on a very strict budget and dug them out of the hole. This is why this boggles my mind that someone whose life was impacted by bad financial habits is so adverse to budgeting. I do not want to be the one that is always the "bad" guy constantly planning, deciding budgets, saying no, hell, we're supposed to work as a team here. I am going to head to the book store today to see if I can find that book.

Congratulations! You looked gorgeous. Everything was beautiful. It was nice to see that the guys were actually using the fans at the ceremony. I have the same ones and was worried they wouldn't. Where did you get your bridesmaids dresses? So pretty.

Welcome and happy planning! There's tons of info on here.

I could never say no to this trip, even if I don't really want to go. He's really excited to see his nieces and nephew. We've only seen them once since they moved up there 3 years ago. Also, his Mom is joining us as well for the trip. It's now sort of a family vacation, rather than a trip related to the wedding. We always generally tend to find a compromise on things. He's come a long way since we first met when it comes to his spending habits. He's even taught me to relax a little when it comes to treating myself. It's just this darn trip. I need to figure out ways to approach him on this. So far I've hit a wall. I've told him I don't want us to not go, but to have an idea of what things are going to cost us so we aren't hit with a couple thousand dollar credit card bill when we get back that we have to deal with while forking over money for wedding related expenses. I've tried let's look at where the mid-way point will be and choose a hotel that will be ok for us to stay in without costing too much instead of walking in off the street. I've tried let's figure out roughly what our gas mileage so we can ball park what it's going to cost for driving. He just can't seem to see my rationale over why doing this is important.

I read the subject line and laughed so hard. My female cat is the worst stinker...there's been times I've blamed it on the FH and it's been her... Gotta love them though, stink and all. Our lives would be so empty without them.

I am so sorry to hear this, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Great find! They're cute!

Can someone please explain to me why some people have issues with setting a budget? I just don't get it. I am in the middle of the most ridiculous fight with my FH because he refuses to sit down and discuss a budget for our upcoming trip to Ottawa in July. Part of me thinks he thinks I want to talk budget because I don't want to go since the original purpose of this trip was to get him a suit and his best man an outfit. His best man (FH brother) is flip flopping on if he and his family going to the wedding and trying to semi-guilt us into paying for part of their travel expenses or to have someone sit for their 4 kids for the week of the wedding...(long story, so mad about that one too). I have repeatedly said let's figure out how much we are going to spend so we can trim from other things to make it happen (like staying in a cheaper hotel for the nights we'll be on the road, not eat out as much, etc). His attitude is if we go over we go over, who cares, so what's the sense...to quote "not like we are let's see get 3/4 of the way there and say we hit our budget for gas and turn araound and come home." He is so darn frustrating sometimes when it comes to talking about money...he's a spender, I am a saver... I personally don't want to dip into our wedding savings account if we don't have to since the reason for going is no longer the wedding. Am I wrong for wanting to be prepared? I have tried multiple approaches over the past month without trying to be a PITA, he just refuses to sit down and discuss. Ignore is his motto...it will go away. He like a freaking Ostrich with his head in the sand. It's driving me nuts....

I think with Riu's the rule is you get married (ceremony, dinner) at the hotel where 80% of you guests are located. I think it is the only chain that does it this way. We originally looked at get married at the Riu Palace Punta Cana, but most of my guest would have end up staying in the least expensive hotel due to budget. So we would have had to probably get marreid at the Naiboa which is away from the beach. See http://www.weddingsbyriu.com/, there's a section in there in bold when you look at the packages. I'd also talk to your TA to be sure. It might be different where the Bachata has that lovely gazebo out on the penninsula.

Thank you for posting! I loved the comment about wedding factories, LOL, I believe the one we've chosen might be considered one of them by some. It's so true, we all have different tastes, budgets and you may never know what the reasons are behind a choice someone makes. I know mine were multiple including having to have a place big enough to keep my two siblings apart for the majority of the week, family issues, gotta love them. I'd rather go get all my teeth pulled then have to choose a resort again. I enjoy this forum so much, the ideas, the humour, the advice, the helpfulness of it members, it's organized...I could go on forever. And BTW, I love hot pink....it rocks! Michelle

Thank you, I had seen that site when we first got engaged. It's come a long way since. I will keep it in mind once I have tried the dress on to see if they can give me a better price than the local salon.

Well that's what I am thinking as well...alterations are going to add at least $150 to the price... I am short (5'2") so it will definitely have to be hemmed. I was just wondering if there are dresses similar to this one out there...ruching without all the poof...

I feel so bad for you. I can picture you arguing now. I can't wait to hear as well. Do you know, this happens more often then not... My FI learned this past year both he and his mother have been spelling his name wrong. Apparently the birth certificate was filled out wrong and his Mom did not notice when issued. Luckily on most things he signs Jeff. Even worse than this, my Dad discovered his date of birth was not actually his DOB when requesting his birth certificate for his very 1st passport. He's 60. He had always been told he was born on December 2nd, come to find out it was Dec 1st at like 2 minutes to midnight. My Mom called the hospital where he was born to double check it wasn't a birth certificate error since my Grandmother has long since passed. Back when he was young you did not need your birth certificate for things like driver's licenses I guess. He has to get so much stuff changed and if it hadn't of been for our wedding he still wouldn't know. How messed up is that? How does a parent mess up on the day their child was born, I know there is like 10 of them but still, come on now... Keep us posted on where "Marie" came from when you find out.

Thank you Lucy, that just made me smile after a long crappy day at work.

Welcome to the Forum! I'll be checking out your website to when I get home tonight.

I think he will love it! What Nascar fan wouldn't.

Beautiful!

Does the store have their own website? Sometimes they will list the designers they carry. I know the bridal shops here in Nova Scotia do, so you may be able to narrow it down that way. Or maybe you could call them on a lunch break? Or on a saturday?

Those are gorgeous!