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#1 Lizk23

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    Posted 08 February 2011 - 08:33 AM

    I've heard a few different things, but my FIL said that proper etiquette for a destination wedding is that you pay for your bridal party to travel. We haven't decided what we're going to do for sure yet. At first I was planning on just taking them to do something exciting like zip lining while we're in Jamaica, but now my FI and I don't know if we should pay for their air fair as well


    Who all is paying for their bridal party's airline ticket, or their stay at the resort? What exactly is proper destination wedding etiquette for this situation?

    #2 jlarruda

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      Posted 08 February 2011 - 08:53 AM

      I've never heard of that.. I was planning on paying for some type of excursion as well. 

      #3 Lizk23

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        Posted 08 February 2011 - 08:59 AM

        I thought it seemed excesive as well. And not that this is the reason why but some of the people in our bridal party (my sister and by FI brother) are very wealthy and would undoubtably try to refuse us if we said we were going to pay for any part of their trip.

        #4 islandbride8

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          Posted 08 February 2011 - 08:59 AM

          I'm not paying for anyone's travel arrangements.  I guess if you have the $$$ for it, that would be a nice gesture but I definately don't have the budget for that!

          #5 mochamakes3

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            Posted 08 February 2011 - 09:02 AM

            Proper etiquette dictates that you pay travel expenses if you are having a "traditional" wedding, for a destination wedding you are not entitled to pay for their travel but can assist if possible. Most people arrange a special excursion or gift.

            #6 nadennec

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              Posted 08 February 2011 - 10:47 AM

              I am not paying for any of the travel, mostly bc we dont have the budget to, but want to pay for something like an excursion of some sort as well

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              #7 acireta

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                Posted 08 February 2011 - 11:48 AM

                I know some people around here have paid for some or all of the travel expenses or some of the reservation or deposit, and more power to them! Not in our budget, unfortunately.


                We'll be paying for bridal party attire, gifts, specialty restaurant dinner one night and a cabana rental at one of the ports during the cruise. That's about all our budget can handle!

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                #8 CanadianLindsey

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                  Posted 08 February 2011 - 12:18 PM

                  We paid for attire and a gift for each of our BM and GM plus some little things along the way.  I would never pay for their travel unless it was a dire situation. Can you imagine the cost! My wedding party knew it was a DW and had paid deposits before we even asked them to be in our wedding.  That way no one felt like they had to come(had they agreed to be in the wedding before knowing it was a DW) if they couldn't for financial reasons.

                  #9 MDLady

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                    Posted 10 February 2011 - 10:42 AM

                    We didn't pay for any of our guests' travel expenses.  I did pay for my bridal party hair/makeup and got gifts for everyone who was in our wedding (including parents).  If I could afford to pay for everyone, I'm sure it would have been greatly appreciated but it would have turned into thousands upon thousands of dollars if you take airfare and hotel for multiple couples.  I don't think anyone expects you to do so and if they do, I would make it very clear what YOU are paying for and what THEY are paying for so there is no confusion.

                    #10 Espejo2be

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                      Posted 10 February 2011 - 07:58 PM

                      Paying for everyones air fare is just a little excessive!! I paid for my MOH and her husbands deposit to help her out because they are both in school and are scrapping money just to get to Jamaica. But we're just going to do an excursion with everyone and maybe buy them a little souviner!!

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