Bridal Party Etiquette

[ryan190]

I've never heard of having to pay for your bridal party to travel.   I don't think you need to pay for anyone's travel.

[Marlena]

I like the idea of paying for an excursion for the wedding party, I think that adds a nice touch.

[Maritza919]

I wouldn't pay for their travel. We are giving them plenty of time and considering it's family and close friends that are in bridal party everyone will be paying for their own. We made to an excursion or pay for something else. I know some people pay for The attire or maybe hair and makeup.

[kileelaine]

We paid for our wedding party's deposits. We also have been planning this for almost 3 years, so we budgeted for it.

[Pookie20]

I'm not sure whats wrong with people today but seriously...if you are ready to get married , then you should also be financially ready!! A wedding that takes place in your hometown (without travel), the wedding party can and is expected to pay for their attire and some accessories.  The B&G should be offering to chip for something, whether it's jewelley or whatever!  When it comes to Destination Weddings, yes the B&G pay for the wedding party!  You do not ask the people who YOU want in your party to pay for everything!  It is rude and very selfish!  I could never do that to any one of my friends that I asked to join me on my special day!  We decided to take care of all their travel expenses and for any guests who decided to pay their way and join us, we also had the hotel provide a beautiful welcome basket to each.  Why should I expect someone to pay $1500 travel and hotel expenses, plus fork out the cost of a dress, shoes, and etc...So it ends up costing my wedding party $2000 each to participate in my wedding????  What a joke!  I would never do that to them.  Bottom line is...if me and my fiance couldn't afford to do that for them, then we would wait another 6 months or however long it takes to save the $ first.  Bride and Grooms need to stop asking people to pay for portions or to particiate in THEIR wedding.  Time to budget properly people!

 

 

[mark21]

I have not heard yet about someone paying for airline ticket, and it's not the etiquette as well. You should pay only for expenses what you do in your bridal party.

[Mrsktobe]

I partially agree with Pookie20 in some aspects. I was in a wedding last year and had to fork out travel expenses, hotel expenses, pay for hair and makeup and everything.. when it all came down to the traveling it was $3000.00. and all I got was a bracelet and a toiletry bag. I had shelled out a shit ton of money for this wedding, and wasn't expecting much but c'mon. Show some appreciation for people who are in your bridal party.

 

We are getting married in mexico and people have known this for many many years, so it's no surprise. At the moment, with switching jobs I can't afford to pay for the girls bridesmaids dresses but for the wedding, I am spending 150.00 each for a bridal gift, plus paying for hair and makeup, plus we may take them on an excursion. I know how much everyone is paying to come to our special day and I would never just give them a high five and a mug that says thanks for being in my wedding. Personal opinion but that's just me!

[jackshayne0123]

Woa @@Pookie20 that's a bit harsh. If the bride and groom can afford to pay for everyone's travel expenses, bridal attire, etc, then that is amazing and it's a truly wonderful gift and those couples are very fortunate to be in a position to do so. However not everyone is in a position like that, it's not feasible for everyone and not realistic. Appreciation needs to be shown to your wedding party and guests, of course, but paying for everything certainly shouldn't be expected.

[diadiamond]

We were thinking of giving our bridal party $100.00 each towards their trip as a gift.  I'm not very picky so I'm letting the bridesmaids and groomsman pick their own attire, shoes, jewlery, ect. We have 10 people in our wedding party so paying for their entire trip is definitely not in our budget.  Am I doing enough, or should I be doing more?

[megthomson]

@@jackshayne0123....I'm appalled at Pookie20's post above! In the months since finding this site I've never encountered anyone that's rude or unsupportive let alone as obnoxious as that. Unfortunately maybe a troll if that's their first and only post on this site. If not then hopefully will quickly learn the culture on this board!

 

 

 

We were thinking of giving our bridal party $100.00 each towards their trip as a gift. I'm not very picky so I'm letting the bridesmaids and groomsman pick their own attire, shoes, jewlery, ect. We have 10 people in our wedding party so paying for their entire trip is definitely not in our budget. Am I doing enough, or should I be doing more?

I think that's very generous! Edited March 8, 2014 by megthomson