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When does it start to feel real?

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#1 merrylee

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    Posted 23 January 2011 - 09:00 PM

    I know that I will be having a destination wedding.  I know that it will be at the Moon Palace, I know that I will be with Tom forever, but I still don't feel like it's really happening.


    Will it feel real once we cement a date?  Will it feel real when the first guest officially puts a deposit on the room?  Will it feel real when I am walking down the aisle?  Will it feel real during the planning?  I'm so blessed to be able to spend my forever with the one person who taught me what love is.  The one person who sings me songs about every little thing in our lives.  I am blessed to marry the man that does a dance to the ipad commercial song that always makes me love him more. 


    Am I having fun getting to know you all and starting the planning of our dream wedding?  Heck yes, but it still feels surreal.  Like it is happening around me and not to me.  When did it start to feel real for everyone?  Was there a defined moment or did it feel real right when the ring was put on? 

    #2 Little Princess

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      Posted 23 January 2011 - 10:01 PM

      I was wondering if it didn't feel real for me because we're eloping and so we don't have the planning and the trying things on and the checking things out and the STRESSSSS, but maybe it's not just me!! I get married in a few weeks and it doesn't seem real AT ALL, I was starting to feel like I was going crazy! So while I can't answer your question, you've made me feel more sane, and I appreciate that :P

      #3 merrylee

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        Posted 24 January 2011 - 04:53 AM

        It helps to know that I am not alone either so thank you.  We've only been engaged for a little over a month and I'm not stressed or anything but I do have a feeling that once I can cement the date I will be able to actually start sending out invitations etc and then it will become more real.  At least I hope so

        #4 eholt

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          Posted 24 January 2011 - 05:07 AM

          To be honest, I am 4 months out and I am just now starting to feel it coming on.  Now I am becoming more concerned about details that I really wasn't too concerned with before.  It differs for everyone though.

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          #5 merrylee

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            Posted 24 January 2011 - 05:37 AM

            I think that makes me feel better and not start doubting our choices.  It took me 2 weeks of bouncing back and forth about whether or not we should have a DW at all.  I have a very small family of 8 people and 6 probably won't be able to go because that is my brother and his family.  Since we will be doing an AHR I can survive not having all of them there, but I still feel a bit sad too.  Everyone thinks that having a DW will be easy and they don't have a clue about the other stresses that we get to deal with.

            #6 johnnmakenzie11

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              Posted 01 February 2011 - 08:25 PM

              My wedding is in June and the reality is slowly taking over me. It wasn't real at all until the day I put the invitations in the mail. I think the day I get to bring my wedding dress home will be a big day too. All in all, I dont think it will really feel real until Im standing barefoot on the beach saying I DO!!

               Good luck and enjoy the process! Its a beautiful thing!!

              #7 Maritza919

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                Posted 02 February 2011 - 06:28 AM

                I think when you get engaged it's a bunch of emotions! Then you get into wedding planning which is more fun. I've been researching but I think once I set my date and invitations go out It'll be official. I am going for my site visit in a week so that's exciting. I already have my dress slowly but surely lol. Although I'm not getting married until 2012. I still have time :) happy planning to all

                #8 Little Princess

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                  Posted 02 February 2011 - 09:29 AM

                  I get married in 9 days time and it still doesn't feel real...! Maybe when we set off travelling it'll really kick in :)

                  #9 Brandy

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                    Posted 02 February 2011 - 09:51 AM

                    I have two months to go and it feels very real now!! It didnt before we got to this point, but now when I think about it I get so anxious and ready and nervous all at the same time!! Im sure everyone is different, for most it probably wont feel real until your on the plane!!!

                    #10 mochamakes3

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                      Posted 02 February 2011 - 10:01 AM

                      We are about 10 weeks away from the wedding day and I have to say that it is really happening but I still feel so blessed and can't believe that it is actually happening. From the beginning we have known we wanted to spend forever with each other, and we already live together and own a home together. I can't wait to start calling him my husband and move on to the next part of our lives together. But we have also missed out on the being together for most of our engagement/relationship because of work commitments. So for us, I think it will feel real when we are at home together, going over the final decisions. And even then, probably not completely real until after we are married because it is such a dream come true.

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