Is This Weird- Both Parents Walking Me Down the Aisle?

[fudgie]

I had no idea this was a Jewish tradition. I also had both parents walk me down the aisle, I wanted both of there so it was what I did. I don't think it is weird at all and I don't think anyone else will

[Gr8ful]

No, not weird, I'm thinking about doing the same thing. It took them both to raise me, and I want to honor them both. I don't think anyone will find it odd either.

[RonNMel]

Just realized that I have not thought about this at all!!

 

For my first wedding I had my grandpa walk me down the aisle. I've always been closer to him than my own dad, and respected him more as a father figure too. But he passed away last winter.

 

So now I don't know who to choose. I could choose my brother, but I think it might hurt my dad if I don't choose him again, especially after all his attempt at reaching out to me ever since my first wedding. Things are not so rough with my him anymore, so I guess I could choose him to make him happy.

 

I really like the idea of having both parents do it though, as my mom is really the one who has been there for me all these years.

[LCBride2007]

I know that the OP's wedding has already passed, but I wanted to say that this is what I did ... I walked down the aisle part way, met my dad at the top of the stairs, then met my mom at the bottom of the stairs and the 3 of us walked down the "actual" aisle.

 

here you can see the stairs in the background - my dad was waiting at the top for me, and my mom at the bottom.

 

[KarenM]

I also plan on having both parents walk with me. For me it's important to include them both.

[Tam]

I am also having both parents walk me down the aisle. I don't think it's weird at all, it is becoming a lot more popular now....

[trobin01]

Me too. I hadn't really thought of it, but my mom actually suggested it. So what can I say? But also, it seems only fair to have both my parents or neither (the whole idea of being "given away" irks me), seeing as they both raised me.

[kris]

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Originally Posted by sweetie_bri I debated over this for a long time, and I think that whatever suits your situation is the best option. At my wedding in just over a month, my mom will be walking me down the aisle. I have a dad and a step-dad, and was raised by my mom and step dad. I thought very hard about the most influential parent to me, rather than tradition and went with my mom. I also think that it will offend the least number of people. Neither dad can argue that mom was and is #1, even if it is tradition. Plus I could never pick one over the other. I wish all of them could walk me, but 4 people down the aisle...a little much. I will try to include my dads in other special ways on that day...any ideas??

This is exactly what Im going through right now. Mom and step dad raised me but still have a relationshipo with my real dad. I agree with you that my mom is the most influential person in my life but I really want both my dad's too. Its so hard to pic without hurting someone.

[clfaidl2]

i think its a cute idea. Do what you want, it's your wedding. I agree with what some of the other girls have said, there are no rules with a destination wedding. So, if you and your mom are super close by all means have both parents walk down the aisle. I think it would be cute and your mom would love it!

[Bunny121009]

I think its a great idea and don't think its strange at all. When you get married you do leave your parents and your spouse becomes your provider/caretaker for lack of better words. I wish I had both parents to walk me down the aisle but unfortunately I won't be able to. My father passed away a little over a year ago from Cancer. And my mother just for whatever reasons (none good enough) has decided at the very last minute not to get her passport nor book the trip. I had already planned for my God father to walk me down the aisle, he had been my father's best friend since Junior High School and he had known me before I was even born. And adopted all of my brothers and sisters as his "honorary God Children".