Am I crazy?? Re: Bachelorette Party

[JaimeLynne]

everyone's already bought the presents that they're so freaking concerned about.

 

i don't wanna plan my own party!

[ikupoo]

I can relate dealing with flaky people. If their hearts are not into it, don't offer to do things in the first place!

 

FYI, my FI and I are planning to throw a bachelorist party (that's what I'm calling it) at a strip club. I love looking at girls pole dancing (if they're good) and what man doesn't want to see his FI get a lapdance from another lady?!

Most likely, we would have to plan this, since it's very likely that none of my friends would think about planning a party for us (although they're good people) and I'm a little overwhelmed that I have to plan this on top of planning a wedding, but if it seems too stressing, I'm not dong it.

I'm more concerned that you're dealing with Lymes Disease. Take care of your body, and have a happy wedding!

[JaimeLynne]

You know what, I never thought I would not have a bachelorette party, but looks like that is how it's going to be!

 

And yeah, the Lyme is hard and overwhelming in itself. But I'm taking care of it.

[~*Kathy*~]

Just popping in to say I agree with the girls, do whatever you want and who gives a crap what other people think? I almost wonder if your FI's brother maybe wants to have a guys-only party so that they can get away with shennanigans. If it were me and my DH, I'd be more likely to agree to a co-ed strip club outing. At least then everyone knows exactly what happened and there's no risk of hurt feelings. I know my BIL is the kind of guy that *thinks* in his wee little mind that I keep DH from doing fun things like a bachelor party, but it is my DH that says he doesn't want these things. I hate how he paints me in his mind as his brother's "ball and chain"...what an ass. Anyway, sorry to de-rail/rant, I think that you should do what makes you and FI happy. Good luck hun!

[jajajaja]

Jaime- we did a co-ed bach party. I even planned it myself! Seriously, a year later people still talk about it! It was one of the funniest nights. We just invited our fun party people and went out and had a good time. Do not feel guilty about any of this stuff. Call a spade a spade. Your friend is allowing this party to blow up in your face. Grab the reins and do something YOU REALLY want to do.

 

Your getting down to the last few months (which I can barely believe you are so close!) Just enjoy every last minute. Don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to and don't follow any "wedding rules." You will forget all this little stuff years later. Promise!

[Krista_H]

Tell people where to show up and what time - it's then up to them to come or not. As long as you and your FI are there, together and having a good time - screw them. Do what YOU want and don't comprimise because others are too full of themselves to set aside one evening for you. What is costing money that your MOH can't come? She doesn't have to drink just come and have a good time.

[litl_april]

Awe Jaime! It sounds like you're under a lot of stress right now. The best solution? Go out and have fun!! Even if it's not in bachelorette form, I say you need some fun! If everything else goes wrong, at least you can go to the bar or strip club with the people who will/plan to come and have a blast! Screw the ones being rude! *Hugs and a Drink*

[blushingbride]

Wow, this situation sucks for you both! It should be fun, not stressful. I can relate as I have flaky friends myself that will be all gung ho one minute and they back out last minute. Those who love you will be there and you both should do what makes you happy. I know you don't want to plan your own b-party, but unless you have someone else that's dependable, then it sounds like the only option you'll have. I say go for it and plan your own night out!! Most likely, no one can do it better than you anyway.

[yamille]

what the hell is wrong with people? You have every right to be annoyed at her but I love your attitude.

 

I am so feeling you on the calm in a scary sort of way vibe. I finally had a breakdown when I thought that after workignfinal edits on a paper it was "lost" on my computer. I had chest pain and then just started crying. crying like I have not cried in ages. economy, drug wars, swine drama, family drama and finishing my MA in the next week I'm on the edge.

[Kat81]

Am I invited?!