Need some expert advice.. to invite or not?
Posted 21 February 2008 - 12:18 PM
I am having a dilemma with the invitation/STD list. There are 4 girls that I have been friends with since grade school. "A" lives in Maryland and we email and talk regularly and see eachother when we are home for the Holidays. "N" lives in Florida and we talk, email send cards, etc. and I went to spend a week with her last year etc. The other two live in Toronto "J" and "M"
Now "J" is getting married in Punta Cana in June and invited all four of us. I have decided to invite "J" "N" and "A" but really haven't spoken or seen "M" in almost 3 three years. I had decided I wasn't going to invite her - FI doesn't like her husband at all - they got married 4 or 5 years ago and we were invited but it was a totally different situation - I mean she lives iin the same city and I don't even speak to her.
Now I am feeling that if she's the only one not invited to Mexico it might cause I ripple in the group but I don't want to invite her.
Should I just send her an invite anyway? SHe is going to "J"s wedding in June so unlikely that she would attend in any event but not sure I even want to extend the invite..
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Hope this helps!
Made it legal : June 30, 2009
Posted 21 February 2008 - 01:04 PM
To avoid the ripple in the group I'd say invite. Also, if you did see her later after the wedding at another function, there isn't that awkwardness.
Posted 21 February 2008 - 01:06 PM
This just happened to me recently, where 2 of us were invited and 2 not. It don't go over well with the other 2.
Posted 21 February 2008 - 01:07 PM
So... if you invite her, what's the worst that could happen? Is she unpleasant and you would have a bad time at your wedding because she was there? If so definitely DON'T invite her.
If you DON'T invite her, what's the worst that would happen with your friends? Will they be really pissed? How important is that to you- or would they be understanding of the situation.
I guess you have to weigh what's worse- how bad of a time she'd cause you (if she even shows up) against how bad it would hurt your friendships with the other girls if she's not invited.
Personally, I had a "it's my way or the highway" approach to my wedding and I have no regrets. I didn't invite a bunch or random people just to have a bigger guest list and I'm really happy I only had the most important people in the world there on my special day. Just my $0.02...
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