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I think you can use any ala carte with their packages. I would just shoot an email to your WC to be clear on that, but from what I got from Ana and Xhail, that's usually the case.

Welcome to the site! Happy planning!

Oh lord....I'm on the verge of a major meltdown. My wedding and AHR have been planned for 5 months now. Married on Jan. 13, with reception March 13. I got a phone call this morning from my "twin" in my sorority, informing me that one of our "sisters" Kayla has booked her wedding and reception for March 13 as well, fully knowing that that is the date that my reception is to take place. She rationalized it by saying that "Brandy dropped the chapter. Most of the other alumns don't even talk to her anyways, so nobody should be concerned with showing up at her reception anyways." I about broke into tears at the catty and childish way she is acting. I don't even know what to do. We have MANY mutual friends, and I feel this is putting them in a horrible position having to choose which venue to go to. Her reception is taking place downtown, and mine is in west Omaha, which is a 45 minute drive apart. I don't expect people to jump from venue to venue, and I don't want my big party ruined because some took it upon herself to show what a mean spirited, vindictive person she is. FI and I have a meeting with our reception site tomorrow to see if we can bump up the reception by a week or two in an effort to minimalize any conflicts. Just wanted to try and get all of this off my chest to people who are unbiased. My BM's don't seem to understand why I look at this as such a catostrophic occurence. They seem to think that everyone will be okay with going back and forth between weddings. Am I overreacting? I don't think I am, but I could just be letting my emotions get the best of me. Idk. Just feels like my wedding is slowly falling apart. If it isn't an issue with a vendor or a crappy ex friend trying to sabatoge my big day it's something else..

Oh honey I am so sorry to hear about what you're going through! MIL's are a tough crowd, and I think you take the cake on the worst I've heard of. FI is trying to stand beside you on everything it seems, which is really good of him! Maybe he acts differently when he's around his parents due to stress and irritation. I don't think it's a conscious change he's making. Have you talked to him about the way he behaves in their presence? The only piece of advise I have that might be of any use to you is to NOT make him feel like he has to choose between you and momma. That's a horrible place to put him in, and it will put him on the defensive.....trust me on this one, I've been there. It is possible for him to have a relationship with mom without you having to deal with her...as long as you're clear on your feelings about her, but make it known that you have nothing against him keeping in touch with his mom you should be fine. I hope that everything gets better for you! You've been put in a position that nobody should have to experience, and that's not fair. I hope you have plenty of supportive friends and family around to help you get through this. Stay strong hun, if they don't get a rise out of you, the thrill of their cruelty will go away. I'll be praying for you!

Oh I wish FI and I would have known about this before we bought his suit. We got a pretty good deal though, we only paid $250 for an entire linen suit--including the shirt and tie, so I guess I can't complain too much.

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If your deal falls through I would love to buy this from you!

That is so awesome! And no, I don't think you're crazy. If you look at it on the bright side, you're getting all of the hard stuff out of the way at once. Then, when it's all over, you can sit back and relax! Good luck with the renovations!

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Oh my goodness! That is awesome. I can't wait to see the pictures!

I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through! In laws have a tendency to be difficult, and I don't mean to sound crass, I'm just playing the devil's advocate, but something that we all have to remember is that the location we pick for our weddings may sound like a vacation to us, but not necessarily to those who we're inviting. Maybe they're saying that they cannot afford it, not just due to the money they'll have to spend, but the vacation time from work as well. Perhaps they don't want to use their vacation hours to go down there, because they have something else planned? I don't know. Maybe if you sit down and talk to her, and calmly voice your concerns and get things out on the table it will get better. Good luck hun!

Well, at least it didn't last long, and at this point very few of my wedding guests have gotten wind of this. Apparently they aren't big news watchers. Hopefully you ladies don't get too much grief about this from your guests!

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I'll be coming from downtown!

T&K--I haven't decided on my site just yet. I'm not going to get too terribly worked up about it, because Xhail will be showing us around the property when we meet with her, and I'm sure I'll know my wedding site when I see it. We have a small wedding party, 3 BMs and 3 Groomsmen, and a relatively small number of people going..roughly 20 or so. I'm just ready to get married! I've decided not to stress the details too much, because I'm having a destination wedding for that precise reason, so I don't have to worry about things! I'll start panicking on the small stuff for my AHR. As long as my groom shows up, the way I see it, I'm in good shape!

I will take your raffia fans! PMing you now.

t&k..you arrive the day before my wedding! Yay! If it will help at all you're more than welcome to creep around and see how ours turns out!

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hahaha....that's an interesting way to look at letting go of the cancer sticks. I've been trying for about a year now....just never seemed to be able to do it. But, I have held true to my end of the bargain, and have hit my 7 day mark. I'm about as irritable as I've ever been though, both from my lack of nicotine and from being sick, but it will all be okay!

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Number 2 is absolutely gorgeous on you! I love it.

Midnight...what you might consider is a gym buddy who already loves to work out! They can be super helpful to keep you motivated. Also, something that helps me is breaking it into smaller goals. Everyday I tell myself "I just have to make it through this workout," or I reward myself for sticking to the program by going to get my nails done, or buying a new pair of shoes...sort of a positive re-enforcement.

Hmm...we don't have Macy's out here in the boondocks, so I'm not sure if they carry them, but Dillards has them, as well as Younkers.

Thanks for the help ladies! We ended up getting momma a gift certificate4 for an our massage at Spa Envy, and then FI got her a months worth of house cleaning from the merr maids. Hopefully this will work for her, and if not, I tried! Also, while I was looking for ideas on the web I came across a giant shoe sale on bluefly.com. If anybodyn is as much of a shoe nut as I am you'll appreciate these prices. Got some great strappy sandals for our week in Mexico, and they have a little bit of everything. Just a fun little heads up for everybody if youre in the market for new shoes..

Totally random and I apologize ladies, but I need some creative help on this one. FI's mother turns 60 next week, and I have no idea what to get the woman. For my b-day she bought me the most disgusting used knockoff coach purse I've ever seen (not an exaggeration, there were nasty kool-aid stains inside). I want to play nice, but I refuse to break the bank for someone so vindictive. Anybody have any creative gift ideas that I could use? I don't want to resort to buying her stuff from Bath and Body Works or somethihng....tried it last year and it went over like a fart in church.