So I haven't posted that much (just been more of a lurker on this board) but I totally agree about not being able to justify the cost of a $50k wedding. My fiance and I actually met when we were working at an upscale banquet hall where a minimum for Saturday nights was $24k just in food and beverage. We are both very practical, and although it would be romantic to get married where we met and started dating, we could never justify such an expense. There are SOOO many other things to use that money for. I also saw way too many friends fight through planning a wedding with their spouses, in-laws, parents, etc over things the other thought they should get an opinion on. I think we all made the right decision to "get away" to get married. The only stressers I have so far is a) the number of people coming (we are up to about 40!) and the fact that I feel SOO far behind all of you in planning!