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Wow - I take a few days off from BDW and ti's taking me hours to catch up! Quote: Originally Posted by shan13;1029343 Soooooooo our e-pics are up on our photogs website and here is the link and info how to get to them.... When you open the link..go to Client viewing on right side Once that opens you should see another page that says welcome Go to page 2 & look for engagement smith/parker Click on the box and you should see them…if not call me [url=http://bridesinbloomphotos.com/?load=flash Brides In Bloom Photography[/url] Love the pictures - the ones in the trees are awesome - i love your boots and your eye makeup looks fantastic!!! Quote: Originally Posted by tim-juleswed Well hello April 2010 brides! I am very new to BDW and so far I'm loving it. I only got engaged just over 3 weeks ago. Since then we have booked the resort in Jamaica and the wedding is set for April 1, 2010! April Fools day has always been "our" day so we thought is was fitting. Today was the first day people were able to contact the TA and apparently we have had almost 18 people book so far. Yay! We are expecting about 40 people or so. The STD's went out and through an E-vite with the TA info and so far so good. I am 5 1/2 months away, no dress or shoes or anything but I'm not stressing oddly enough. LOL I think I'll wait for all of that until the new year. Right now once we have final numbers from the TA I will start the DIY invitations. There was some pretty good ideas on other forums here that I have made note of so I'm pretty excited. After the invitations go out in mid to late November I will breath easy. Booking the place was the hard part. But so far everything is coming together! Welcome to you and all of the other new brides!!!! Quote: Originally Posted by caribbeanLover I got my post cards (invite) for our AHR but I should have thought to use it at our DW sorry for it being so big, have no idea what happened. And for odd reason some wording is missing 'now they are back from their fun in the sun and promised forever their lives as one....' They look great!!!! Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 Don't worry Suzy, I haven't quite gotten the order in yet (still waiting on one person for their numbers) but I'll let you know the prices once I get them. And this is the first time that I've had to pay for anything at the door or at pickup On a separate note, here is a photo of what I want to make for my centrepieces. Except in this picture they have a pink light and mine will be purple. Also, this one uses the 'ice cube' lights that I also liked, but didn't have as long of a battery life, can't be turned on/off etc. (yep, still trying to convince myself that the lights I bought will be worth it, haha!) Am I a loser because I'm not making centerpieces? I'm so NOT creative or a DIYer....I look at what you guys are doing and marvel at it but I know mine would look like crap! Quote: Originally Posted by KimmyG Speaking of Invitations... I'm thinking of sending out invitations early January, and asking for an RSVP by Feb 1. I don't want to send them out too early and have noone respect the RSVP date. Is this too late? Kimmy - are you sure you want to wait that long to know who's coming? It's only October and I'm freaking out not knowing and my invitations went out 3 weeks ago. I've only gotten 4 RSVP cards back out of 29. AND STILL NOBODY BOOKED!!!! But my parent's airfare is done...because I did it. And the TA snail mailed my mom the paperwork. My FMIL actually told the TA she saw no reason to book this early.

since you have some time, go to MAC but I'd also go to Chanel and every other counter and have them do your face. What works for some people doesn't work for others. I love Chanel Foundation but I use Maybelline Stiletto Eyeliner and Mascara. the most important thing is that you Practice putting it on, so it's not all new the day of the wedding. Youtube also has great instructional videos on how to put on make up. This site has pictures of people made up: Wedding Makeup Pictures - Project Wedding

Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 LOL! My FI is the same way! It's totally about the money to him. Oh man, if only he knew the things I was doing BUT (and that's a big but!) I do have some leeway with him because I've made a point of telling him about the good deals I've gotten so far, and how much we saved by me making the invites etc. so when he knows I've been out shopping he doesn't get as nervous as some other guys might. When we get to mexico, he's going to wonder where the heck all our decorations came from!!! I have to agree with you that for the most part FI and I don't sleep that well if the other isn't there. Now this is going to sound a little weird, but I think it'll be a little easier for us to be in different rooms for the night because we're probably just going to do a trade with another couple who are part of our wedding party. It makes me giggle because the guys will get to share a king size bed for the night, but for me it should be enough just having another body in the bed, even if it is my girlfriend and not FI! HAHA! Our wedding is at 3pm so I won't have to wait until later in the evening at least, but I'm going to need to keep myself busy so that I don't go crazy!! Hahaha, FI is definitely the same way! We have constant struggles over the blankets which he rolls himself up into. Usually he gets 2/3 of the bed and I have to share the other 1/3 with our dog and/or cat all night! I sleep pretty well still - like I could make the bed at night and it would look almost the same in the morning except for hte exact spot I was still in Don't worry Suzy, I put Jan.31 2010 for our final RSVP date. I had hoped it would be into the new year enough for everyone to know their vacation schedules well enough but also give me time to finish up any ordering that I need to do. I think you'll be okay having two months before your wedding, but maybe just make sure to send out reminders in early January to give people a few weeks reminder before the real deadline. I totally want a king size bed! And specifically the one FI and I had in our room during our last vacation to mexico!!! It was THE greatest bed EVER. I'm on board with suzy about being excited for that!! I think it's a really good idea to have your wedding coordinator contact your guests and try to get them to commit one way or another, even if they don't end up booking right away. It takes some of the stress off you and then your guests won't feel like it's you that is pressuring them either! We honestly haven't gotten any more RSVP's since we first booked and had some of our close friends jump on board. AND we even got a wedding invite for New Years that we have to RSVP for by Nov.1 and those friends haven't RSVP'd for us yet! Too much overlap right now I guess?!?! We got the heaviest comforter ever because I have a habit of curling up in a blanket - when we were staying at my place in the queen bed he would wake up with nothing and I'd be in a coccoon! this thing is so heavy it's impossible! We're going to stay together the night before because we just can't imagine being apart for a night - the ceremony isn't till 4, so we'll have plenty of time to separate (meaning he can leave) and get ready. My RSVP date isn't until 12/31 but my TA is actually surprised that nobody has called her. i have 10 rooms held and no idea if that's enough or too much or what - I hate being in limbo! And can I just say I love you guys - having other April brides has just made me feel so much better about things - knowing that other girls getting married at the same time are having the same issues.... It helps a lot!

I hate my sister. She has told me for the last year that: she thought we got engaged too quickly we shouldn't have a destination wedding because it's not fair to anyone else she can't come to the wedding because they can't afford it when my parents offered to pay for her to come (but not her hubby or kids) she still declined even though her husband is capable of taking care of 2 kids and has a mother and grandmother close enough by that they can help she said spending money on our wedding was a waste since the money didn't go to us anyway like a gift. I finally accepted that my sister didn't want to be at my wedding and although it's hard, got over it and have just avoided her. I have not seen my sister since April due to scheduling differences. We live 2 hours apart. We have not spoken in a month but I will see her on Sunday. I did send her an invite so that she couldn't say I didn't invite her. I found out today that she has been calling my travel agent to get quotes and trying to get the TA to beat Sky Auction prices of like 10 bucks a night, which of course the TA can't do. I'm embarassed that she would even try to do that. Our rate is aready less than 100/night for an AI resort! I really don't even want her there now because she has done nothing but make me upset and I don't want her to ruin my day. Maybe this was more of a vent than a confession but I feel better now!

We have a King bed - we go to sleep next to each other and when we wake up sometimes it's like we are 2 miles away from each other! as for RSVPs - I haven't gotten one in over a week - I sent out 29 and got back 4!!!! But, the good news is that my TA is going to contact all of my guests to see if they are coming and to see if she can get them to book on the phone with her! YAY!!!!!

I think the dress looks great - very flattering -if you have it cut into a sweetheart neckline it will give you cleavage. Get rid of the flower - it seems to be bothering you. You can probably take it apart and use it for something else or pin it to a headpiece or bag. I think you would look great in a birdcage veil if you like that style. You said you hate to make decisions but you will probably feel better once you have!

Quote: Originally Posted by shan13 Natasha~thanks I am so excited!!! I wish she would give us some teasers already!!! Hey everybody not much on my home front. I feel you guys about being organized...I have been dreaming that I am gonna forget something when it's time to pack..eeek!! I am thinking of getting Brian a Tungesten band because he is not flashy and doesn't want diamonds or anything in his band..so I am gonna try to get him to look a them tonight so I can get to ordering..since my set came with a band already..although he hid it from me so I can't play with it..lol! I am thinking of using an Etsy vendor for my bc veil...not sure another girl ordered hers from another site and it was pretty too... I am getting these earrings... and this bracelet LOVE THEM!!!! Quote: Originally Posted by ebredhawk it all seems to come on at once doesn't it?? every once in a while i've had to take a step back and re-prioritize everything... the good news is that you still have 6 months left which is more than enough time to figure everything out!! you always have us as sounding boards too for any ideas or if you get stressed again! i have those panic attacks too shan! i think that was one of my first wedding dreams too! my FI got himself a black tungsten band... we heard it was supposed to be the most durable and they are pretty inexpensive! he actually ordered his from overstock.com and got a GREAT price! I have panic attacks, freak outs, bad dreams....I'm still not convinced that this will happen...I'm not quite sure what it will take! i've been looking for my "something old" lately and my mom was cleaning out a closet the other day and found her garter from her wedding. i'm not doing a garter toss or anything, but i think it will be cool to have that of hers! My something old is a necklace from my grandmother that was like my only inheritance - what's everyone else doing? also, my amazing flower lady sent me pictures of her first stab at my bouquet... what do you think? (personally.. i'm in love!) the stems are going to be wrapped in strips of the fabric taken off my dress when it's shortened. GORGEOUS ERIN! Quote: Originally Posted by jajb2010 Thank you so much, I just find I'm all over the place with my posts and people are going to be soo confused. This was a big help though, thanks again. This is the first time my multiquote has worked!!!!!

Looks like an awesome party!

BTW - did I tell you guys about Splenda with fiber? I put a lot of Splenda in my coffee so I thought I'd try the extra fiber - I really think it's helping - I'll let you know when I get weighed again!

I never work out on the weekends....we're usually doing stuff but I did move tree branches with the FILs for a couple of hours...I figured that counted. Made it to the gym yesterday to do the super hard elliptical - I don't know what your gyms have - our gym has 3 different types - yesterday I did my least favorite kind, but I got to watch Oprah while I was on it...LOL!

Quote: Originally Posted by jajb2010 OMG..ok so I'm totally confused..I'm not sure how to reply directly to a post? Can anybody help..I posted the same blog 3 times I think and I'm sorry. I'm just a newbie who can't seem to get this website figured out. HELP.. ha ha ha Welcome!!!! If there is a specific person you want to reply to just hit "Quote" at the bottom of their post, which is what I did for yours, so we'll see what that person wrote, then what you write. if you want to quote multiple people, I believe, although it never works for me, that you hit the MQ for each post, and then QUOTE at the end, and everyone's quotes should be there...again, I may not be the best person to teach that part. It gets easier...I promise!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by bholthof Honestly, I think it really depends on what you WANT to do. If you still want her in your life, then maybe you should email and ask where she's been - and put it all on the table. Let her know how you're feeling and thinking. It could be that she's just been super caught up in all her own stuff that she hasn't had a lot of time or energy to concentrate on anything else - you mentioned she was preggers, so I'm sure a new baby is taking up a lot of her time as well. Perhaps she feels uncomfortable talking with you about things like the baby - specially if you don't have children. And perhaps she was a lot busier than you thought she was with the semi-promotion, and she jsut didn't have time at work for anything except work. I don't know how much you tried to keep up contact with her, or how much you tried to make converstion and it failed, but maybe she feels like you haven't been a great friend to her either - although we like to hope our friends are always going to make the time of day for us, sometimes it just doesn't happen, and people grow apart. The only way to actually find out is for you guys to sit down and really talk about it. And if, at the end of the conversation there is still a gulf between you, then maybe that friendship is over and its time to move on. The best way to find that out is to actually have a conversation with the girl, though. And maybe she still won't be invited to your wedding, but at least you might still be able to lean on each other if you need to. I mean, you mention that she only lives 15 minutes away, but did you try to get together with her, too? On the other hand, if you don't want her around anymore then maybe silence is the best policy. But it really depends on what you feel about the situation. And she might just be hoping for an excuse for a vacation - in which case you still need to decide how you feel about her as a friend. Sorry for the long post! I like to believe the best of people, and I struggle with similar situations - friends who come out of the woodwork hoping for a wedding invite. Before the situation with my ex - she was an awesome friend, but to me, when the chips are down, you need to be able to count on your friends and she was nowhere to be found. When I was out sick I never heard from her and I heard from all of my other friends, all of whom work and some of whom are also parents. I gave her the benefit of the doubt on that one because of the nature of my illness. But when I lost my job...all of my friends were really there for me, by phone, by email, even text...just checking in...it was really devastating...she knew that too...that job was pretty much my life for most of the time I was there...I thought I would work there till I retired. She actually had information that could have helped me get a new job at the same company and chose not to share it...and lied to people about speaking with me... I think I miss the friend she used to be before anything went wrong...maybe dealing with other people's issues is too much for some people. Like tata2 said, I don't have a huge amount of friends, but the ones I do have I know I can count on for anything, and they know they can count on me.

I used Sarah as well - she did a great job for me!

Ok here's the background story. I worked at my last job for almost 5 years. Another girl, I'll call her M started about a month after I did and we became BFF almost immediately. Smoking buddies, lunch, phone calls...people reversed our names...you could even call her my work wife. we hung out on weekends - I went to her house for Xmas the whole thing. Fast forward 3 years of great firendship and then a really horrific breakup with a boyfriend. She and my other BFF went after him in a show of friendship that still amazes me. I got sick and was out of work for 3 months, came back for 2 and then out for 3. The whole time I was out I didn't really hear from her...it was a little awkward when I came back in the middle..didn't hear from her again and then when I came back, she was 6 months pregnant and it was all about the baby. She'd also been semi-promoted. Now I was out for an unusual illness that I thought may have made her uncomfortable so I kind of forgave her not calling me. At the end of the year she was up for a promotion that would have made her my boss. She didn't get it and then she went out on her own leave for 2 months. When she came back things were the same, but different. She was a half a level higher than me and kept talking about all the things she'd done for the team, but I knew she hadn't, as i'd been there the whole time with her. She also stopped smoking (understandable) having lunch with me and was generally to busy to talk to me without making an appointment. She made a huge deal about the situation with my ex as her reason to be my best friend and how she had to approve of any new men in my life, but we didn't socialize at all anymore. When I met FI he came to the office and we did stop by her desk to meet him, where she pronounced him fit to date. She was in my initial group text engagement announcement and on my initial list of invitees to the wedding, as we still saw and spoke to each other every day. In March I lost my job and it was devastating. I also learned who my true friends were. M was not one of them. After several weeks, I never heard from her again. She'd respond to my emails with one word. In June I texted her on her Bday and she texted me back and that was it - yet in July told another colleague that she'd spoken to me about an open job at our company. in September I heard from her office mate who asked about my wedding planning, and I told her it was pretty much finished and that I was just waiting to see who could come and mentioned the car I'd just gotten. 5 minutes later I had a text from M saying Happy Early Birthday - heard you're rocking a Mustang now. Yesterday I got a lead on a job from a mutual coworker who also asked about wedding planning and I just said i was finished - an hour later I had an email saying we hadn't talked in forever and hows everything, hows FI and the kitties and the wedding planning and did I know they were still using the presentations I created? Signed it "Talk Soon ( I hope) So now I wonder and ask your advice: This person left my life in not one but in 2 very difficult situations when she claimed to be my best friend. I feel like she is only emailing me now to find out if she is still invited to the wedding (she's not - and yes she did recieve a STD but I sent those out in March and the invitations in October and she doesn't have access to the website anymore). So part of me thinks it's best to ignore her because the biggest insult is silence. But the other part of me wants to write her back and just ask her where she's been. she only lives 15 minutes from me and had half the summer off. The other thing is that she may be getting laid off as well. They will be announcing at the end of the month the third round in the department so she may be looking for leads...a lot of people have been popping up these days. So sorry so long but you ladies always give great advice!

Quote: Originally Posted by *Kerin28* Thanks for all the good thoughts sent my way today. I totally appreciated it! Ok so my sister went down today to get the refund. He would only give her a check so she took it and went right to the bank the check was from to cash it... it didnt go thru!!! GRRRR!!! So she went back to the shop and demanded cash. It worked! He refunded the credit card purchases back to the cards and we got cash for the rest. Phew! Thats solved. Time to look for new dresses!!! Thanks for listening ladies... its nice to vent to people who understand. My FI cares but its just not the same as you guys going thru the same things. I was seriously thinking about you all day today hoping that you got your money back! I'm so glad it worked out and I don't blame you for not wanting the same dresses now...start fresh!

OMG that totally sucks! But you're right - it's early enough out that you can order the dresses somewhere else in enough time. Getting your $$ back might be a bit more difficult but I hope he makes those checks out to CASH!!!!

LOVE the bags!

Quote: Originally Posted by echo2_62 Kimmy - I'm getting married on a friday too!! We chose it for a bunch of reasons actually. Partly based on flight availability, partly because we needed the option for legal wedding requirements (but we're not doing that anymore so moot), flexibility in travel dates (we asked guests to book monday to monday, but also know that some of our guests can only travel on the weekends). Basically it just worked out best for us all around. And I *totally* know what you mean about trying to help your guests avoid the airplane hangover! A few of my friends were asking if it was okay to book from Saturday to Saturday which of course I said it was IF they didn't mind the hangover! LOL! I'm trying to *encourage them to book on either the Sunday or Monday... hehehe, but I totally posted on our website that we'd prefer no one to book later than Monday so that we can have a few days to ourselves. LOL, that was my nice way to tell them all to get lost! Hahaha! We are only giving our guests 3 or 4 night packages. I'm praying nobody stays past Monday - this is our honeymoon as well as our wedding!

You look beautiful - Congratulations!

I saw this this morning! http://gmy.news.yahoo.com/vid/16030479

Well, the good news is that you still have a good deal of time before this is going to happen. Since you will be in a beautiful place for your wedding, you are going to have a million people taking pictures of you guys from the second you step off that plane, so you might want to prepare him for that - everyone who comes to the wedding is going to have a camera and want to take a ton of pics. Maybe let it go for a bit and then bring it up again, show him some of your favorite TTD pictures and tell him how when you saw them you just saw the 2 of you doing them and how special you thought it would be. Maybe if you can do a modified TTD, some pics on land and some just in the surf. My FI will just be wearing khaki's and a white shirt rather than his suit....to me that's fine... Good luck!

Quote: Originally Posted by Las Caletas How do I add my name to this list? Are all of you getting married at Las Calteas? If you look under each person's name (to the left of the post), it shows where we're all getting married - I'm getting married at Grand Palladium in Jamaica. Once you get started on here, you will get caught up! If you go back through some of the last few pages of posts, you can see a lot of what we've done and pictures of centerpieces, bouquets, etc.

Very pretty - mine were pink and orange - FI just shrugs - he's happy I'm happy and that he didn't have to do it!

Hi Amy - Welcome! I like the idea of everyone putting their names and dates! caribbeanlover) Tracy from Montreal (echo2_62) Meghan from Calgary (kimmyg) Kimmy from Cincinnati ... April 9 ... RPRM jerseykitten - Michele from Jersey (Central Jersey by Six Flags) - April 10 - Jamaica

Good luck Jh17 - Have a great time - can't wait to hear all about it!!!!