Jamaica0619

Honestly, from a planning prespective I think you can do a fabulous job in the time you have. This site has an amazing number of ideas, and many of them you would have no problem incorporating in the time you have. I did not become a member until several months into the planning and I added a ton of ideas into my wedding based on what I saw on this site. In terms of people who will be able to come...I have to agree with Ebbie475...do you expect many more people would come if they were given more time? Are there others that you honestly think will come? Or are the people coming those that you would really expect? Is there anyone else truly important to you or your FI that might not make it in Ocotober but would if you made the date later? You have to do what is best for you and your FI...so go with your heart and your gut.

Have a wonderful time! He loves you...and that is all that matters. I'm sure they will love you too. Relax and enjoy the day!!!!!

I think it is totally up to the individual bride. I'm not wearing my dress again for a number of reasons (many of which are why I'm having a DW rather than one locally). One of which is I'm the only person nearly everyone knows that has done a DW and, while I have tried to explain to them my AHR is not really a reception but a party without all the wedding formalities, I don't think they are getting it. So, I don't want to re-wear my dress. But, I did buy a nice champagne colored cocktail dress. And, I'm pairing it with some bright (island-like) accessories. I think some of my family are a little disappointed, but I really don't want to wear my dress again - so, I'm not going to.

It sounds like you have wonderful co-workers, and this gave you a little practice before the family/friends wedding shower.

I'm going to agree with many of the posts here. First, it is not as simple as buying a really good camera and sticking someone behind the camera. That's taking pictures, which is a long way away from being a photographer. We originally were going to use the resort photographer. The photos weren't bad, but they weren't great either. But, we didn't realize we had any option. We then went to a local wedding showcase/event, and talked to some photographers there, and looked at thier work. They put the resort photographer to shame, at least in our opinion. And, the photobooks that they include in thier packages were gorgeous. It would make the differnece between my photos sitting on a shelf and being displayed on our coffee table. And, we realized that local photographers would travel to destination weddings. I then started my research. I looked at scores of photographers websites, and talked to four photographers, before I settled on the one we chose. We tripled our budget, but after getting our engagment photos back. I have absolutely no regrets. I agree that showing your FI pictures that friends have taken against photos from either here or from actual photographer websites will hopefully help show him why you may want to spend more on your photographer. I'm glad that I never had to prove that point. Jeff and I both dabble (and that is the best description I can use in photography) so quality pictures were important to both of us, and when we compare what we would get through the resort photographer and what we would get from the photographers we were considering there was no debate given the quality difference. I definitely do not think you are being a bridezilla. You do not want to regret your photos every time you look at them.

The wedding theme sounds wonderful, and it is so great that you are helping your niece. You should find lots of great ideas here. Welcome!!!!!

My FI actually was engaged before...and it was called off (obviously). This was before I even met him. His ex actually really wanted to keep the ring and paid him some money towards it. However, she never paid him the rest of the money. So, early in our relationship he actually got in touch with a lawyer to try to sort out the issue. He had tried to deal with her directly, but she ignored him for months. Based on communications between his lawyer and his ex...we found out that the ring should be given back to the guy unless it is the a heirloom ring from the bride's family or if it was paid for by the bride (not likely). If the guy purchased the ring, it should be returned to him, unless he sells it to the girl. It is part of a contract to marry, and that contract has been broken. However, if the ring is given on a holiday (e.g., Christmas, Valentine's Day) or a birthday, it is construed as a gift and she can keep the ring. After dealing with the issue with his ex, during which he did get the ring back and it is still sitting around the house becuase he has no idea what to do with it (nearly 14 years later), I knew he would never ask me to marry him near any holiday, which is exactly what he did. He asked me in September, which has no holidays or any meaning to us specifically.

I got mine today! Thank you Jacilynda so much for organizing this!

Quote: Originally Posted by mummergirl that's probably a good idea. in our last thread i think runners up for location were all still on the philly side, like south street and delaware ave, weren't they? I think they were the runner-up locations. I think we figured since some of us are coming from the philly (PA) suburbs and some from Jersey, Philly is the best meeting point. I'm flexible...a place at either location works for me.

We don't have "a song". Actually, this has become a joke with our family and friends, becuase it was one of the questions my MOH asked my FI for a "how well does she know her FI" game for my shower. We finally decided on "At Last" by Etta James. I love the song and it fits. We've been together for 13 years and been living together for 8.5 years.

Quote: Originally Posted by mummergirl jamaica0619, i love weird al's "eat it" for the cake cutting ... that made me laugh! My FI is a huge Wierd Al fan - we have been to three of his concerts. He puts on a really great show. So, for me, this was the best way to incorporate Wierd Al into our wedding.

I haven't heard of that. I received most of my shower gifts just before the shower (a week or so) so I opened them, announced what I received and from who at the shower (if the person was present), and sent a thank you immediately after the shower.

We are just having a dinner reception (no real dancing), so here's the playlist: Kiss the Girl - Little Texas Beauty and the Beast - Diamond Rio A Whole New World - Colin Raye When the Sun Goes Down - Kenny Chesney Margaritaville - Jimmy Buffett Cheeseburger in Paradise - Jimmy Buffett Jolly Mon Sing - Jimmy Buffett Changes in Latitude, Changes in Attitude - Jimmy Buffett Brown Eye Girl - Jimmy Buffett Rhythm is Going to Get You - Gloria Estefan Ain't No Sunshine - Bill Withers Big Bopper's Wedding - Big Bopper Livin' La Vida Loca - Ricky Martin Somewhere Over the Rainbow - Isreal Kamakawiwo'ole In the Summertime - Steel Drum Island Friends in Low Places - Garth Brooks Conga - Gloria Estefan Hero - Enrique Iglesias I Need to Know - Marc Anthony Poker Face - Lady GaGa Island in the Sun - Emma Roberts Celebration - Kool & the Gang Jump, Jive an' Wail - The Brian Setzer Orchestra Johnny B Goode - Chuck Berry We Didn't Start the Fire - Billy Joel Great Balls of Fire - Jerry Lee Lewis Chantilly Lace - Big Bopper La Bamba - Richie Valens You Shook Me All Night Long - AC/DC Livin' on a Prayer - Bon Jovi She Ain't Your Ordinary Girl - Alabama I'm Yours - Jason Mraz Boot Scottin Boogie - Brooks & Dunn Some Days You Gotta Dance - Dixie Chicks Long Time Gone - Dixie Chicks Wide Open Spaces - Dixie Chicks Summertime - DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince Let's Go To Vegs - Faith Hill Take Me As I Am - Faith Hill Blue - LeAnn Rimes Let's Go Crazy - Prince & The Revolution The Race is On - Sawyer Brown Love Walks In - Van Halen Cotton Eye Joe - Starsound Turn the Beat Around - Starsound Don't Leave Me This Way - Starsound Kung Fu Fighting - Carl Douglas Boat Drinks - Jimmy Buffett That's Life - Frank Sinatra The Best Is Yet To Come - Frank Sinatra Fly Me to the Moon - Frank Sinatra Ain't That a Kick in the Head - Dean Martin That's Amore - Dean Martin Mambo, Italiano - Dean Martin Cake Cutting Eat It - Weird Al Yankovic First Dance At Last - Etta James Parent-Child Dance (we are doing the mother/son and father/daughter dances together) What a Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong We don't know what we are doing about the ceremony music. We want to use the steel drum band, so we are playing it by ear and going to figure it out when we get there.

I have my venue from 5 to 10, but have the option to extend it to 11. We are doing cocktail hour from 5 to 6, then buffet dinner, then dancing.

Have you tried etsy.com. I got my veil from veiledbeauty on Etsy - Wedding Veils. But there were a lot of options when I was looking.

Count me in on July 11th. We will be able to hear about a third wedding - since I will be getting married in a little less than two weeks in Jamaica. And, I will love hearing about everyone's elses weddings/plans

I think it is a really great idea...

I think I'll be able to do July 11th - if you are up for one more joining you...

Unfortunately I can't make it. We have plans to go out with friends...maybe next time.

Quote: Originally Posted by BlakleyBrideToBe you must have read my mind!! My sister and just got into this morning! She took my 75 year old MOTHER to the doctor. My Mother was told that she has to have surgery! SOOOOO My sister thinks that it's ok to send me an EMAIL at WORK to tell me my MOTHER has to have major surgery in the morning! I just can't belive that some people thing this is OK!! WTF!! It's my MOTHER not my third or forth cousin. I know you said this to make a point. But I hope your mother is okay and the surgery goes smoothly. I agree with other posts that people use texting and e-mail to avoid having to talk with someone and deal with a potential confrontation. I know one of my bridesmaid who I knew might not be able to make it, and was fine with it and completely would understand left me a voice mail at home when she knew I would still be at work. I actually called her back and called her on it. I wish she would have at least tried to reach me personally. I think it is sad...and this is a friend I have known since we were about 10.

Quote: Originally Posted by JUSTUSTWO Yeah, I feel the same way. I kept wishing that they had a way to link the exercises like in yoga, so that I could do a few of them in 1 sequence instead of going back & forth to the main screen. I could not agree more. Of the features you metioned on the new plus version - being able to develop a routine would be great.

I was watching in between phone calls...following up on missing RSVPs. I agree the judges were vicious tonight...and I felt bad that the redhead who was friends with Katiee from last year...I could not believe she got cut

I know this will not help - but it is your wedding. I wouldn't worry about it. We originally asked three friends each to stand up with us. In my case my MOH and one of my bridesmaids is coming and in his case it is only his BM. We are also having his neice be a jr bridesmaid and his nephew as a ring bearer. So, we aren't exactly balanced, but I'm not worrying about it. At the ceremony we are only going to have the MOH and BM stand with us.

Quote: Originally Posted by dear tulip Soooo super cute! Are you going to tell the story when you cut the cake? We probably will have to explain...while some know the story not all of our guests do

Quote: Originally Posted by JOSIE that turned out really cute! i love the story behind it why in the world is it illegal to own a hedgehog in PA? The PA Department of Wildlife determined that if the domestic population (pets) were to be released into the wild it may hinder the ecosystem. My issue with this is that hedgehogs natrually hibernate in the winter. However, domesticated hedgeghogs have lost the ability to build up fat supplies necessary to safely hibernate, but they will still fall asleep/hibernate. My hedgehog did this to me twice, and I had to use a slow re-heating method to wake her. So, once the winter months would hit, any hedgehogs that accidently got released would fall asleep and would die because they would not have the fat stores to survive the winter.