Michelle - I can't only image what you are going through right now. It must be so difficult. I to am a nurse and deal with them all the time. There is a no sting barrier adhesive that is called Skin Prep. We put it on around the stoma before the wafer, it toughen ups the skin. Also, I'm not sure if you have the traditional bag, but if you look at medical supply stores the bags they have come out with no are amazing. They have disposable bags and they have filtered bags so the air does not accumulate. If yu have the traditional bag I can see why you be so afraid to leave the house. I think the disposable bags are better because at the bottom, they won't leak. I hope this helps. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate.
Maria