Well, you can tell I'm new to blogging! I created the blog, then typed away my story. I took so long that the page expired and didn't publish or save the entry. So sorry to the two people that viewed to find nothing. Hope this one goes more smoothly!
After reading some of the blogs on this forum, I decided that it would be fun to document and share in my wedding adventures thus far. I call myself a Backwards Bride because that's exactly how things have happened for me, almost all the way flipped upside down! Here I am in the early stages of planning a destination wedding and I'm not even engaged! Not that I haven't tried, I've been down that road twice before.
It seems that as young women, we have been raised to follow a specific order for our romantic lives. First we date, then become engaged, plan a wedding, get married, start a family and for the most part, that is the order most of us intend to follow. In the past few generations the order of things may become a little bit skewed but not many have messed up the order completely, like I have. Planning a destination wedding without an engagement will seem perfectly normal after I explain how my unconventional journey to the alter got me thus far.
Being a forty-two year old wanna-be- bride was never part of my fairy tale. I dreamt of it all- the white dress, the church wedding, gobs of friends and relatives fawning over me and my mystery husband. Now after a couple of decades of life getting in the way, it's time to build a new dream. But first I'll explain some of my backwards antics that led me to this point.
During my early twenties, I met and fell quickly for a man ten years older then me. Not having much experience in relationships, I fell for his charms and well...nice months later my beautiful daughter was born. That's not really anything new as there are lots of young women who find themselves pregnant before getting married. However, the father and I never really dated until after my daughter was born. I gave him space as I didn't want him to feel that he needed to be with me because of our child. But he stuck around and we gave it a go. We had another child (planned this time), and when my son was around a year old and my daughter was ready to start school, I started putting some pressure on Daddy Dearest to get married.
So that following Mother's Day, my gift was to go ring shopping. Woohoo! Ya.... NOT! On shopping day, I met my man on his lunch break at the jewelers and within five minutes, I was engaged.....I think! I tired on a ring, he asked if I liked it, I said yes(what else do you say?) and he paid the lady. She asked me to take it off so that she could put it in the box and he asked "What for?" The sales lady said "So that you can give it to her Sir." (meaning propose). His replied as he headed for the door, "I just did." I was left standing in the store with my children. I'm not sure who's jaw was closer to the floor, mine or the salesladies. After broaching the subject at home it was made clear to me that my ring was in fact a "shut up ring" and I was expected to act as though we were now married. Needless to say I was the one who headed for the door after that.
As much as losing the relationship with my children's father was hurtful, it was more then ten years ago now, and he and I truly do make good co-parents to the kids. We both stayed single for a long time after we separated and eventually we both met other people. I began a relationship with a man that I worked with and had known for many years. Were had been friends and I had known him as a dedicated husband and father who worked hard to provide for his family. We saw it as a sign that we both found ourselves unattached at the same time. We started getting the kids together for play dates and then he asked me out. I was gun shy a little but I thought what the hell, he's a great guy, he's stable and a good dad.
Within a year we had moved in together and gotten engaged! He was really pressuring me to get married, so I started planning the wedding. I bought a dress, put a deposit on the hall, booked a minister, picked and outfitted the wedding party. After an unfortunate lay-off we postponed the wedding for a year. It was how his time off was spent that perpetuated the beginning of the end. While I continued to work, instead of job searching, my fellow was spending all of his time with his daughter. At first I was glad that he was getting time with his daughter but then I found out that he was spending with her mother as well. This behavior confused his young daughter greatly and she expected that her father was coming back to live with the family. He decided that she was too young for the truth and changed the subject when she asked questions instead of being honest with her. Needless to say this caused for her to resent me and the girl rejected me whole heartedly as part of her father's life. The child was allowed to be rude to me and my children and demanded to be taken home to her mother when ever she didn't get her way. Sometimes pick ups and drop offs would last for three hours because they were spending time together. I was devastated when my fiancé told me that his old family was more important the building ours and that I would just have to except that. I did not except that and sent him packing. He did not fight for us and after a few months went back to his first family, where she greeted him with open arms( and legs apparently) as they had another child 14 months after our split.
As much as I knew we were not meant to be together the sense of failure was overwhelming and I felt that I had disappointed my family, my friends, my children, and everyone who knew me. The wedding was off, deposits lost, halls cancelled, dress left hanging in the abyss of an alteration room somewhere.I felt judged and unwanted, and I became a little depressed. It took a couple of years before I could even watch a wedding show and was genuinely bitter towards anyone who made to their wedding day. Before I was to completely become myself again, tragedy hit my family and I lost my mother to Cancer and I began taking care of my dad who was lost without her. Five months after my mom passed he went into the hospital with pneumonia and was diagnosed with last stage Cancer. I was burning the candle at both ends and had still had not grieved for my mother. I was raising two children, in college full time and caring for my father. I was emotional and physically exhausted. I promise the sad part is almost over, for I did not know that a knight in shining armor was on his way to rescue me.......
Next Blog: How the Backwards Bride found her Hero
I am having my wedding in Dominican Republic however am having difficulty finding a Sikh Priest to conduct the wedding ceremony.
Does anyone have any contact information for any Sikh Priests? If so, please send me an email firstname.lastname@example.org
We haven looking at resorts for weeks! We started working with a travel agent and altough much easier, still quite the task to make a selection.
We liked the Riu Palace Mexico, but they are being very inflexible about our arrival date. So, we are now looking at Dreams Tulum. We are concerned about the reviews from Trip Advisor about them pestering for additional purchases and the price for wine which is an additional cost.
Has anyone have a recent experience? Do you have a comment from a guest or the wedding couple point of view?
Anything will help!
Are you a bride who is looking for someone to hold your hand during the wedding planning process without paying thousands of dollars?
I will be offering 10 complementary Sessions, to the first 10 people to comment and say yes I need to talk to you to help me feel less overwhelmed about planning my wedding!
I tell all of my clients that if you aren't having fun, we're doing something wrong. Because Wedding Planning can be stressful, but it's also supposed to be fun.
I have been a Destination Wedding planner for many years now and let me tell you, on a daily basis I receive endless emails from Brides not looking for a planner, Dj or to discuss their budget or the flavor of their cake. But simply to have conversations and create a safe space, free of judgments and expectations. The Bridal coach.
My GOAL is to be there for you and to focus on your emotional wellness, and peace of mind, so you can enjoy your engagement. Also to help you reduce stress, build confidence, and ultimately plan your wedding without feeling overwhelmed.
MY MISSION is to get you results on anything you may need clarity on, when it comes to planning a wedding, because I love seeing you enjoy this moment to the fullest.
Fortunately, I don't actually experience this too often because the whole point of hiring a wedding planner is to avoid that sort of situation.
It is always brides who specifically looking to talk to someone on wedding tip, things to avoid etc.
A lot of what I'm hearing from you is that you are just too overwhelmed, for various reasons. You counted on friends, or occasionally hired a not-too-fabulous wedding planner or relied solely on the services of the hotel/resort, and by the time you call me for guidance, you're in an all-out panic.
I am making this experience available for you as a Bridal Coach. Through a one or two hour, one-on-one Coaching Session, I will talk with you about your ideas and plans, and assist you on where to save money and guidance on vendors create a personalized Action Plan that will make planning your own day much smoother.
Top 3 things you can expect:
1. I will be your "source of support" for your ideas - Friends are often good at this, but may lack the wedding experience to know what will and won't work. Worse yet, if they're a past bride, they may simply be recommending a clone of their own wedding. As a bridal coach I will listen to your ideas, provide advice and often suggest other ideas that have worked well at other weddings.
2. Check the run sheet for your day - There are so many things that occur on a wedding, and each takes longer than you think. Plus you may have 100 guests to take into consideration. As Your Bridal Coach I will step you through each part of the day, and assist you in understanding how much time is needed for each activity, as well as the order that will work best.
3. Save you money - One bad decision can not only ruin your day, it can also cost you a lot of money! You don't need everything and often there isn't enough time to do it all. By providing a list of good quality suppliers that provide Value for Money!
PS: YOU ARE NOT ALONE, I ´VE GOT YOUR BACK!
BRIDESMAID DRESSES: Ordered 6 months advance. My girls are quite short so will need to be shortened. I wanted to find dresses with a slit in the front like my wedding dress has. I originally picked eggplant for the dress color. I switched last minute to midnight blue which is basically Navy.
SHOES: Needed wedges as the ceremony is on the beach. Found these on justfab.com. $75 for 3 pairs. I know they are gold, but I'm hoping they won't make a difference.
Necklace/Earings/Bracelet: THE BAY! $90 for all three sets. Love!!
ROBES: La Vie En Rose 3 for 1!
SUN HATS: Walmart $9 - Navy $5 - White
I have been in 9 weddings, but never thought I would be doing a blog for my own wedding. I thought I would be the kind who will be always single, independent, carreer oriented, world traveler type of woman; and I was happy with that, or so I thought...
Chris and I work at the same company and had been working on the same project for about 1.5 yrs; we knew of each others existance, but nothing more than that. Until, a friend we have in common, also a co-worker of ours decided to play cupid and set us up. I will forever be thankful to her for that.
We started dating and I quickly realized that I was just then learning what happiness really means. We have been so in sync from day 1; not only between him and I, but between his two kids and I. I fell in love with them, with my Dyrlund 3-Pack.
Chris is the kindest person I have ever met. He is considerate, caring, loving, selfless, generous, and very, very smart. Also, very handsome if I may say so :-)
After almost a year of dating, he proposed to me on Good Friday 2015, he took me to the place we had been trying to go for our second date. He kept taking pictures of me, but that was nothing unsual; at some point I turned around and there he was on one knee and proposed to me in Spanish. I will never forget his face, his expression, and his words to me at that moment.
We had already talked about a destination wedding and that's how I made it to this website!
Hello! I want to share with you all about a great company located in the Cancun/Riviera Maya location that specializes in beautiful hair and makeup for your big day! I am getting married at the Dreams Resort and Spa at Puerto Aventuras and was interested in having my makeup professionally done and I will be putting clip in extensions, among other things such as false eyelashes and was looking into airbrush makeup as well. I researched trying to find an affordable company who also had great reviews and did honest business, which is really important when you are planning something so big from another country.
I kept coming across a company called MVP Hair and Makeup! They have been voted the best of the best through Weddingwire.com in 2012 and 2014! I know it may sound like I am being paid to do this blog but I assure you I AM NOT! I seriously emailed the company just like everyone else for prices and information. I actually let a few weeks go by without responding because I wanted to make sure I was spending my money wisely. Edgar reached out at and gently asked if I had any questions and boy did I! I asked a million questions about the quality of work, asked what they would recommend for certain things and he PROMPTLY responded to my emails, which is a big deal I have found by planning from the US.
They offer a variety of hair and makeup packages which include a trial for hair and makeup along with the day of. The package I got included both and the price was super reasonable.
THE BEST PART??????? They now have a location right in Puerto Aventuras situated within walking distance or a short ride to some of the best resorts in the area!! Know why this is so great??? You will NOT have to pay a resort fee for outside vendors!! This saves so much money and was honestly what made me decide to go forward with them because Dreams charges $150.00 for outside vendors (quality work, great service and no resort fees).
I asked which hotels they can service from this location because I actually have a friend getting married in another resort next year, here's what they said:
Hard Rock Hotel Riviera Maya, Barcelo Maya Palace Riviera Maya, Dreams Puerto Aventuras and Catalonya Puerto Aventuras
I searched and searched the entire area of Cancun for the best hair and makeup team and I found it. My wedding is September 5th, 2015 and I will come back and do a review with pictures of the work they did so you can get a better idea of what they can do.
Until then, here are the links for the website:
My fiance and I have decided we're going to hire Juan Carlos Tapia for our wedding that will take place at the beautiful sandos Finisterra in Los Cabos. Following my research on the web, I found the pictures of Juan. His work is simply stunning and he helped me tremendously for the planning of our day. Here is the link to see his work :-) I personnaly loved the pictures he made for the wedding of Abygael.
Sorry for my bad english! I'm french so… I tried my best
Marie-Eve Boily (soon Lapointe)
We finally decided on our resort after doing a site visit at the Barcelo Maya Colonial. All the negative reviews about this resort went right out the window! This resort is absolutely breathtaking and the food is delicious. I had an opportunity to talk to about 5 different couples who had their wedding while we were there. The only advice we seemed to get was to BE PATIENT with the wedding planners. After witnessing how many weddings they take care of a day, I can see how busy they really are.
It was quite windy while we were there and I can see how a beach reception would be very frustrating with everything flying around. That is something i wouldn't recommend. We took a look at the Grills and i fell in love with the Captain Morgan grill because of the outside terrace. We walked by just as they were setting up for a wedding and everything looked amazing!
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Un avocat raté, un footballeur américain, une mère de famille dévote, un autiste cinéphile, une anarchiste vagabonde, un ex-toxicomane et un milliardaire blasé. Non ce n’est pas « Lost » mais « Community », la série sur…un Community college justement. A Greendale au Colorado, tout ce beau monde va se retrouver dans le même groupe de travail, et les vannes vont pleuvoir. En effet, chacun d’entre eux a son vice caché, mais aussi un passé complètement loufoque. Cette saison marque surtout le retour de Dan Harmon aux commandes, après son éviction de la 4ème saison de son propre show. robes de mariee vintage
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Ils sont 16 candidats (dont une majorité de femmes) a avoir été sélectionnés pour les émissions en direct sur D8 : Claudia, Kim, Yseult, Ezra, Léopoldine, Mathieu, Alvaro, Julie, Chehinaze, Dana, Laura, Sirine, Marc, Hugo, Mehdi et Pauline. L’occasion pour ces chanteurs de montrer ce dont ils sont capables et de faire la différence. >> Qui sont les candidats de ce Nouvelle Star 2014 ? << robe de marié retro
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« Pour Léo Matteï (Jean-Luc Reichmann), seul le résultat compte et il n'hésite pas à bousculer les conventions avec un seul mot d'ordre : protéger les mineurs de tout danger, y compris d'eux-mêmes. » Nouvelle série sur TF1 ce jeudi soir avec « Léo Matteï, brigade des mineurs », une fiction un peu différente qui met en scène Jean-Luc Reichmann que l’on est pourtant plus habitué à croisé au poste d’animateur, mais qui s’en sort très bien ! Ci-dessous, vous pouvez découvrir les premières minutes de cette nouvelle série française afin de la découvrir. Comme toujours, les épisodes de « Léo Matteï, brigade des mineurs » sont disponibles sur le site TF1 Replay pour un visionnage valable pendant une semaine. Aucune raison donc de se priver e cette fiction originale et intéressante. Avez-vous regardé « Léo Matteï, brigade des mineurs » ?
Today i come here to introduce you 4 different styles of evening dresses which can be defined as gorgeous. Let's have a look at the following pics.
Kinda vintage style, right?
This one got many compliments from people around me.
Im loving this pink dress.
Check for more fashion dress style on http://www.fairyin.dk/aften-kjoler
I'm 4 days away for my BIG DAY !
I wanted to share my experience in this wild ride planning the perfect wedding! I am not that nervous I think, because I trusted very professional people for that special day.
My experience with the DJ has been really great! I picked Dj. Rickalvin:
And he has been great through all this process, he is very well organized and very flexible. He always answers my emails quickly and exactly with the solution or answer I need to any of my doubts or questions. We told him the music we liked and what we didn't like, so this way he knows a little bit more about us and what we expect for the wedding day! I found this Dj through a friend of mine that got married on Cancun last summer, and every single person told me they had lots of fun and everyone recommended the dj a lot.
Another vendor that has been in touch with all throughout this whole time are the photographers: www.shenkophoto.com
As I told you before, this is a married couple that is dedicated only to taking pictures around the world. We've been communicating for more than 8 months now, and I think we now seem to now each other even if we haven't met in person. Last month we arranged a Skype session and that was the first time we saw each other, other than in photos. We talked a lot about the wedding day, the pictures we would like for that day and with who, etc. They also seem to be really interested in small details about that day, like for example flowers, centerpieces and other decoration details that we picked.
Also they are really organized, and helped us make an itinerary for family pictures so that we don't lose any time and we have all the people we want on the pictures. In 2 days we are meeting for a casual session so that we know each other in front of the camera and in that way, I think, it will be easier to communicate on the wedding day for the things we want, and can or can't do.
My fiancé always laughs at me because I am a very bubbly person and I don't have shame of anything, but when you put a camera in front of me, everything changes!!! I just don't know what to do it's such a dumb thing!
So wish me luck!!!
When I come back from my honeymoon I'll tell you more details about everything =)
My fiance and I have decided we're going to host a pre-wedding meeting/get together for guests attending our destination wedding. I thought this would be a good idea to get everyone together to answer questions guests may have regarding obtaining/renewing passports, obtaining passports for minors, pre-wedding travel tips & advice, what to pack/bring, packing/travel suggestions, what they (the guests) should be doing and have done by this point as far as passports go, etc. I was also going to print out helpful information for them. If it's one thing I've learned in the past 2 years of planning a destination wedding, it's that you have to babysit and guide your guests along, lol! That's not meant to be a negative statement in any way, it's simply the truth I don't mind at all, I have enjoyed answering our guests questions and providing them with as much helpful information as I possibly can. I have also included everything on our wedding website and on our wedding closed group on Facebook as well. In addition to those 2 forms of keeping everyone updated, I've also mailed out newsletters letting people know that airfare was now available, the resort is booking up quickly for the weekend of our wedding, etc. It has been very helpful. I'm not having a hard time finding information, ideas for this pre-wedding meeting/get together we want to host. Any DIY templates that would include passport information, pre-travel information, etc.? Any tips/advice/templates/websites/blogs would be great help!! Thanks so much!!
Hi Brides and other readers!
It's been quite a while since my last post. Life's been really busy and honestly I've been using Facebook a lot for wedding planning lately. There's some really great groups on Facebook for destination brides. You should check them out if you haven't done so already. There are brides groups that are resort specific and those are really helpful. This forum has also been extremely helpful during the planning process.
During the past 8 months life has really changed for me both positively and negatively. I lost my job back in December and have been unemployed ever since. This has really impacted our budget, so we're doing all we can to keep costs down even though we had saved up quite a bit for our wedding. It's been difficult trying to find work when you don't have much experience in your field. My mother had to have surgery and I had to take care of her for a while. I got into a car accident in back in mid-February and it took me a while to fully recover from it. My FI and I ended up moving in together at the beginning of February. Because of my recovery and other health issues I ended up gaining a lot of weight which had me feeling really depressed for a while.
There was a good few months where I debated cancelling my wedding because I was really depressed over everything that had happened. My fiance has been amazing to me during the past while and very supportive! Sometimes I feel that brides lose focus on what's really important and get caught up in all the little details. We often forget that we are getting married because we want to spend our life with that special person. I know I'm guilty of getting caught up in the little details. After everything we've been through this year we've happily decided to go ahead with our wedding! I've decided that at the end of the day all I want to do is marry my best friend and if I've done that then there's nothing to regret or change because I've gotten what I wanted.
I may not be where I want to be, but I'm happy with where I am. I'm learning to relax and let life happen. To roll with the punches and deal with situations as they come instead of crumbling because something didn't go right.
I definitely want to make it a habit to post here more often. I consider it my wedding planning diary where I can vent and hopefully help other brides with my experiences and connect with other brides.
Until next time,
Many kinds of wedding, wedding collar-shaped species are much different for each bride's body, a natural fit collar shape is also different. Below, Angeldress will introduce some common wedding collar shapes for the brides.
First, strapless neck
strapless wedding dress
For Busty bride, strapless collar is a very popular style, the wedding dress is also common in the chest line cut way.
Suitable for: broad shoulders and clear collarbone brides
Not suitable for: flat chest bride
Second, the sweetheart collar
Sweetheart collar like a heart-shaped, relatively deep in middle part, both sides are relatively high, this is a good choice for busty brides, but also sexy bride's choice. Sweetheart wedding chest line will set off a very full breasts, but also make the neck look more slender.
Suitable for: sexy, plump bride
Not suitable for: do not want to bare, thin bride
Third, the bateau collar
With the collarbone gently arc, arrived near the shoulder, cut straight down, less on the chest painted with sleeves and sleeveless design and it is now more common design for wedding!
Suitable for: small chest bride, the bride can significantly plump some!
Not suitable for: plump bride
Fourth, the big V-neck
As the name suggests is better than even some of the deep V-neck design, and even extends to the navel. Sometimes only the chest is V-shaped, V-shaped back also suitable for B cup or C cup breasts bride.
Not suitable for: less than or greater than C B bride
Five, big round neck
Generally pretty and classic style, can cut very low neckline, back and are often rounded, curved design is much more advanced and significantly thinner than before! For more information about wedding dresses please check http://www.angeldress.co.uk/wedding-dresses-uk7951.
Suitable for: almost everyone
Six small round neck
Looks like a T-shirt, also called T-shirt collar, along the bottom of a circular arc throat.
Suitable for: relatively flat chest women (make you look plump)
Not suitable for: busty women (also make you look more "plump")
Seven off shoulder
Collar resting on the bottom of the shoulder, exposing the collarbone and shoulders, sleeves cover part of the upper arm. This wedding dress styles for women are the vast majority of body can fit, chest size medium or relatively plump women wearing would be particularly beautiful.
Suitable for: busty, pear-shaped body of the bride
Not suitable for: broad shoulders and thick arms brides
Eight, including shoulder
Card with shoulder wedding style is very similar, but use more fabric, looks like a wide and shoulders are connected with soft round.
Suitable: arm coarse, prominent clavicle bride
Not suitable for: not obvious clavicle bride
Only 10 more months until our big day =) And next week we want to inform all our friends of the big day and our plans.. For that we'd be blasting out through facebook and email, but we'd like to include 1 central website where everyone can see the specific details, such as our date, location, after party and other more personal things like our pictures and story. The last couple of days RSVPwed.com has popped up as something that lets us do this, seems easy enough to use. However, there are others such as wedbuddy or wedsimple. Biggest thing we want is long term free hosting, as we dont want to pay for years and years just to keep it online. Can anyone on here offer a suggesiton or what has worked for them? Thank you, Love Cindy
I found my wedding dress at Wedding works in Ingersol Ontario Canada! It is a ivory mermaid gown with all gold embroidery ????.
As soon as I tried this dress on I knew it was the one. It's not like it screamed at me, "IM THE ONE!"; but it sure came close ????. I was able to buy it off the rack which gave me a weighted veil for free! I was an extremely happy girl to say the least ????!
I found my dress last March and have gone every couple of months just to try it on again and again LOL! ???? I couldn't be happier with my find!!
Well here I am 14 years of dating and we've finally made a commitment to a destination wedding!! Woah thought this day would never happen. How does 1 keep it together while trying to pick a resort that is exactly what you want but can't have due to costs?? It's been a week since we said ok let's do this, since then I've been obsessed something I'm not normally like non stop researching and googling and looking at books so much that I can't keep it straight. My wants aren't able to be fulfilled due to costs this is my biggest obstacle is trying to find accommodations that are both exactly what I want and affordable. I have read stories of other brides and look at pics and know that's NOT what I want but yet they loved it, am I being too picky?? I haven't found my perfect spot but I've got hope and that's all at this point.......