I Really Need MIL Advice Please!
Posted 22 June 2010 - 05:28 PM
Posted 22 June 2010 - 06:30 PM
Posted 22 June 2010 - 06:41 PM
Posted 22 June 2010 - 08:15 PM
My FI didn't have ANYONE from his side of the family coming (not his parents, sisters, cousins..) and his parents kept getting on our back about how they wanted to see their son get married, but they didn't plan on coming. Finally afew weeks ago he let it all out and explained to his mom how hurt he was that they weren't coming and didn't seem to be supporting us AT ALL and how heartbreaking that was to him and how angry it made him since we have them over a year notice!!
Last week his mom and auntie booked
I say let your FI hash it out with his parents..maybe they will change their mind in the end..mine did Good luck...I hope they do decide to come and be a part of your special day!!
Posted 22 June 2010 - 09:40 PM
| Originally Posted by KimmyD |
My FI and I just found out my in-laws will not be attending.We think it is because she has decided not to like me. (She does not like any of her sons wives or girlfriends) Although my wonderful FI really thought she would love me, he was dumbfounded that she did not. (I am sooo lucky!) I was thinking of sending this email, I am not sure I should or what it should say. Here it is:
I am sorry that you have chosen not to attend our wedding. I was told that you had other plans. We were engaged March 17, 2009, we sent out our save the dates with 9 months notice. I simply cannot comprehend what could possibly be more important than seeing your son get married. You have really hurt Mike with this decision. Mike's reaction to this has surprised me, he is extremely angry. This wedding location was picked out by Mike, this is very important to him, he has been planning this thing right from the start. This is also an opportunity for you to meet my side of the family and our very dear friends who will be attending. It seems that Mike's side of the family will be solely represented by Seth. Thanks goodness one person from his family cares enough to be there for him. This is the start of a wonderful new life for us.
Help Ladies, Please!
Posted 22 June 2010 - 09:53 PM
While I'm sure you want to fight for your FI and trust me, I do to, but in this situation, he needs to deal with it.
Posted 23 June 2010 - 07:41 AM
Posted 23 June 2010 - 07:57 AM
How about killing her with kindness!!!! Invite her to come pick your dress cos you know she cant be with you on your wedding day be clever she may say shes busy SOOOO let her pick the day.
Ask her what flowers she had on her wedding day what traditions did she use you would like to combine your mums and hers into your day.Be prepared for some knock backs but imagine how hard she will find it to not come on board if you really do kill here with kindness.
Maybe she has some jewelry or lace. photos of her parents on there wedding day that you could use alongside a photo of her on her wedding day that you want to place at the wedding.
Theres more ways to skin a cat give it a try xxxxx
Posted 23 June 2010 - 08:14 AM
0 user(s) are reading this topic
0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users