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Is it ok NOT to do invitations?

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#51 LChavez

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    Posted 07 July 2010 - 11:29 AM

    With invitations being so cheap nowadays, I wouldn't skip it.

    #52 BecaJ

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      Posted 28 July 2010 - 01:59 PM

      We didn't do invitations. If your doing a big wedding at home then yes, because you do tend to invite people you don't have regular contact with, but with a DW it's different.


      To me it seems silly (and a waste of money) to verbally ask your close family and friends and they say yes or no, then you proceed to send them an invitation.. Well they already RSVP'd when you asked them face to face or over the phone or whatever. But for some brides sending invitations is all part of the fun.


      In my opinion an STD would suffice but I didn't even bother doing them. But I suppose it would be a handy reminder to stick on the fridge or something.x

      #53 ambularose

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        Posted 15 August 2010 - 09:59 PM

        Alot of really good advice and opinions here. Still tyring to decide what I'll do. Probably do DIY save the dates and then maybe invitations later.

        #54 MsClarke724

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          Posted 09 October 2010 - 06:52 PM

          I have been wondering what to do also - I know I can do what I want, but I'd rather someone just tell me (at least for this) lol

          #55 L&J

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            Posted 10 October 2010 - 02:33 PM

            We did traditional invitations but Evites might be a good compromise if you you don't want to send traditional invites but still send you're guests all the wedding info.

            Tensing Pen, Negril Jamaica, November 13th, 2010

            #56 sinesbride

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              Posted 12 October 2010 - 02:12 PM

              Honestly, I think it's totally up to you and how you want to do it. We received save the dates from both of the destination weddings we went to this year and then they followed up with a real formal wedding invitation with all the inserts and response cards as well about 3 months prior. We RSVP'd with our friends since they also had a spot on there for the at home reception RSVP so we checked both and mailed it back by the due date. My brother's wedding, we didn't mail the RSVP back, which is know is horrible, especially since she put the stamp on the return envelope...but they already knew we were coming and to be honest, I didn't mail it back because I lost the invitation when we moved to a different place. I wasn't trying to be rude by not mailing it back, but I lost it. Then after returning from their wedding, I found it...go figure.

              #57 alundy

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                Posted 20 October 2010 - 03:49 PM

                I'm still torn on whether I'm going to do invitiations. I might do them simply b/c they are a really obvious reminder to those who haven't booked yet to get on it!

                #58 Ms.H

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                  Posted 20 October 2010 - 06:01 PM

                  We just did save the dates - no formal invitations. One of the joys of a destination wedding - you can forgo tradition! Yay!

                  #59 hutchets

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                    Posted 09 January 2011 - 07:27 PM

                    This is something I have struggled with since we got engaged.  We decided to send a magnet STD 10 months early to everyone, which included the DW date and the AHR date (which is only a week after we return from Jamaica-ugh!).  That way, everyone knew about both dates up front.  We have had 13 people book which is a good number for me.  I really didn't want a large DW but didn't want to hurt feelings by not giving them the information.  I feel like my STD was good enough for the DW invite.  I have a feeling though that most people have not yet gone to the website to check it out.  As far as I'm concerned, that is their loss!  I'm fine with a small DW.  We are getting ready to send out invites to the AHR though.  I found my colored invites at Michaels and got 75 of them for 26.00 which was awesome.  So we will send these out but will only include a RSVP to those who we know don't use the computer (grandparents, elderly, etc.).  For the rest, we will have them RSVP to our website but I will make sure it is apparent on the invite to do so.  I guess if people decide at a late date that they want to go after they receive the AHR invite, they are welcome to but I'm not keeping my fingers crossed (is that mean to say)

                    You won't go wrong no matter which way you decide to go.  You have to do what is best for you. I have realized that it's a DW so there are no rules!

                    Riu Ocho Rios April 16, 2011


                    #60 clgriffi7

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                      Posted 10 January 2011 - 03:54 AM

                      Question:  We have sent out save the dates and had a few extended family members already tell us that they can't make it (in notes included with their Christmas cards).  Should we send them "formal" invitations anyway just to be polite? 


                      We are doing DIY invites, so it won't cost us any extra besides postage and some elbow grease.  Since it is family, do you think they would still want to receive an invitation?  Should we add a hand written note that says we know you won't be able to join us in Mexico, but we wanted to send you a copy of the invitation anyway?

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