Is it ok NOT to do invitations?
Posted 26 April 2010 - 10:45 PM
Our wedding isn't for another year (April 25, 2011 - Iberostar Varadero!), and we are essentially opening up the wedding to all friends and family who want to come and everyone is welcome.
A few weeks ago we provided everyone with Save the Dates so they have a full year to save and have all the information they need, and on the STD was our website with information being updated regularly.
So the dilemma is that my family is ridiculously HUGE and his is big too. And we know that the large majority will definitely not be able to attend which we are ok with. We are also undecided what we will do for the party at home following the wedding and we are steering away from a traditional reception and more towards a casual, fun outdoor party.
So my question is, is it ok if we skip the invitations given that we provided everyone with a save the date and asked that they let us know if they are planning on attending or not, and communicated group rates to everyone invited via phone or email? And instead we will provide guests with a formal guest package, and sort of 'confirmation invitation' once they confirm they are coming. I've been told the negative side of sending an invitation is that people feel more obligated to attend or guilty for not making the trip, or they get irritated/insulted when they receive one but have already clearly identified that they are not coming.
Posted 26 April 2010 - 10:51 PM
Posted 26 April 2010 - 10:53 PM
I think part of why most of us have destination weddings is to save money. Also, I would not be offended if I was one of your potential guests and didn't get an official invitation.. I personally think the STDs are enough, but I guess it depends how formal you guys want it to be... HTH!
Posted 26 April 2010 - 10:56 PM
Posted 26 April 2010 - 11:00 PM
Posted 26 April 2010 - 11:40 PM
Posted 27 April 2010 - 04:44 AM
It worked for us and everyone liked them!
Posted 27 April 2010 - 05:48 AM
I don't think there is anything wrong with an evite or an informal newsletter. I would probably opt for the evite personally. It sounds pretty easy to track and since we live in the age of computers I think this method is becoming more and more acceptable....
Posted 27 April 2010 - 07:43 AM
We are having a large AHR so i will do formal invitations for this nearer the time and some invitations for those who have actually confirmed they are coming.
Posted 27 April 2010 - 07:55 AM
the one big thing i learned from having a DW is that there are always ways to satisfy everyone, without comprimising your ideas and what you want. if you guys dont want to do formal invites, you could do casual newsletter invites stating that there will be no formal invite, and one or 2 more updates sent thruout the year as you get more pertinent info to give out.
really you could do the mass "inviting" however you want, but you can also do something like buy a box of 20 inexpensive invites from Michaels or wherever, and send those off to the most important people in the group, like grandmas and parents or other people who would be more likely to "have an issue" with the non-traditional route. that way you are still saving $ but make everyone happy too...
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