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#31 rdsjcr

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    Posted 24 March 2010 - 12:15 PM

    My Dad has NEVER flown before and he tried to act like he didnt want to go- but then we had a "come to Jesus meeting" and he saw how much it would hurt my feelings... He is taking the plunge- and getting on that plane :)

    #32 meldal101010

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      Posted 25 March 2010 - 01:21 PM

      I've already posted a thread on here asking for advice about something along these lines. My dad can't attend for health reasons so i'm going to walk down with my little boy. Hes only 2 and hopefully I won't end up chasing him around, but its a solution & he is one of the most important people in my life :)

      #33 Megan24

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        Posted 25 March 2010 - 11:36 PM

        Quote:
        Originally Posted by meldal101010
        I've already posted a thread on here asking for advice about something along these lines. My dad can't attend for health reasons so i'm going to walk down with my little boy. Hes only 2 and hopefully I won't end up chasing him around, but its a solution & he is one of the most important people in my life :)
        That is a really sweet thing. I have a three year old so I know what you mean by chasing him. lol

        I think whatever we all do it will be great.

        On another note my Father keeps writing my Mom emails about how he is so mad that my grandfather will be walking me down the aisle or coming to the wedding. But I feel like my grandfather has been far more of a Father to me then my Dad ever was. Hope you ladies have a wonderful wedding no matter who walks you down the aisle.

        #34 peterpanpixiedust

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          Posted 26 March 2010 - 10:48 AM

          Quote:
          Originally Posted by echo2_62
          Megan - my dad is attending but will Not be walking me down the aisle. He gets really uncomfortable in front of groups and that was the last thing I wanted to ask him, even if it is my wedding day!! I'm either going to have my sister walk with me, or suck it up and go alone - even though that idea kind of terrifies me since I'm not good in front of people either (even if it is friends!). If I could tell EVERYONE to look away until I'm at the front then I'd totally be good :)

          Just do whatever you're comfortable with. If that means walking on your own or having a close friend walk with you then go with it! It works out especially well if you've got uneven numbers in your wedding party like me!
          Won't the spotlight be on your dad anyway when everyone notices that he's there but not walking you down. I just don't want him to be more uncomfortable than he already is. If you walk by yourself, then it just looks like you want to be by yourself, but if you walk with someone else, it looks like either you or he doesn't want him to. Maybe everyone that is going already knows his situation and then you are fine. I just worry (my mom doesn't even want to go to my wedding because she has "no desire to travel" and I'm so worried about what my family will think of her, because I love her and am protective of her and I don't want people thinking "Why couldn't she just suck it up for her daughter's wedding?") I would hate anyone to think that of your father. Wow, that was a long little rant (but it came from a good place) :-)

          As for Megan24 - as you just read , my parents might not come either (my dad wouldn't go without my mom) so I may be in the same boat. I think it looks very nice to have the bride walk down on her own. There is that moment when all you see is the bride walking toward her future husband and their eyes meet. They share a smile that seems to hide their secret thoughts and wishes. It makes me cry more to see a bride on her own (she goes from being one to becoming two). Man I'm full of cheese today!

          #35 avong1228

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            Posted 26 March 2010 - 08:14 PM

            My dad my not come due to health reasons either so I love the idea of my FI meeting me half way. Either that or having my big brother do it.

            #36 Laine81

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              Posted 26 March 2010 - 08:55 PM

              My dad passed away as well. My brother is walking me down the aisle. But if he was unable to I woud have had my Mom do it. I agree that with a destination wedding you can get away from alot of the traditions. Good Luck!

              #37 hiccups

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                Posted 29 March 2010 - 02:10 PM

                I don't think my dad will be coming either so I was thinking of having my brother walk me down. Although I really like peterpanpixiedust's thoughts on the bride walking down by herself.

                #38 Jen1407

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                  Posted 06 May 2010 - 08:15 AM

                  My dad will not be coming either so I will either walk down the aisle by myself or I will ask my mom. I am still undecided. I as well like peterpanpixiedust's thoughts on the bride walking down the aisle by herself.

                  #39 Thomasjsgirl

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                    Posted 06 May 2010 - 10:17 AM

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                    Originally Posted by OceanWonderland
                    One of my good friends had a similar situation as yours (no longer speaking to her father and she invited them to the wedding, but he refused to come). She didn't have any of her family come, so she couldn't ask her mom or grandparents.

                    Anyways, what she did had me bawling like a baby. It was very symbolic. She stopped at the end of the aisle (before walking down) and her fiance actually walked down the aisle to go get her, and they both walked down together. It was her way of showing that her fiance is now the new man in her life and is most important to her. Soon as the music started playing and you realized that she wasn't walking down, but he was coming to get her and they were going together, it was just a cry fest!! It's another option you can consider.
                    OMG that almost made me cry while reading it, never mind witnessing it! I think that's a fantastic idea! If I didn't have anyone to walk me down the aisle, I would definitely do this!
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                    #40 mreed

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                      Posted 10 May 2010 - 11:26 AM

                      Im going to walk down the aisle myself as well. :)




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