Am I wrong?? I don't want the B#$ch to come!!

[amygirl1169]

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Originally Posted by marryinghimagain See this is what I don't get. If you have not spoken or bothered with one another in years then why in heaven's name would she even WANT to attend your wedding!? People can be so ridiculous at times. I can't imagine why she would even remotely think for a second that she should be invited. I say, HELL NO! Stick to your guns if you don't want her there. What does your FI think about it?

HA! So true! And even if you did invite them, they probably wouldn't come! Her pride is just hurt. But OH WELL! That's what you get for being a b*atch!

[Sheree10]

It's your special day... you should be surrounded by genuine people who love and care for you and your FI. Having her there will only make you upset and it should be the happiest moment of your life.

[Kristy!]

I don't think you're wrong in not wanting her to be at your wedding. The one thing I could see FI having a problem with is that you "forgot" to send the invitation, meaning he wasn't expecting to have to deal with drama in his family about her not be invited. I would be annoyed about being blind-sided like that.

[KittenHeart]

You are not at ALL wrong!!! It's your day and you're organizing and paying for it which gives you the right to decide who will make it special and better by their attendance.

 

What she did was truly shady and I will no longer be friends with someone like that either!

 

My BF/MOH's cousin has always started drama and talked sh*t about me behind my back to her for over ten years now... when she found out she wasn't invited to my wedding she asked about 10 of my guy friends to take her as their date and complained when none of them would Ridiculous!

[Lady_Di]

No, you are not wrong for this!

 

If your FI doesn't care for her then it shouldn't be a problem.

 

You don't HAVE to invite everyone.

 

Is she the type to go uninvited? I hope not!!

[shellk]

totally agree with island bride.if his family need a reason why shes not invited tell them what she did.

 

i hope it works out and don,t cause you any more stress

[SSNM]

I have a similar sensitive situation. My cousin actually tried to snag my FI for herself while he and I were "on a break"...that was 5 years ago. While I thought my FI was an a$$ for it as well, I thought she was especially an a$$ since she was family..I mean how trifling is that?? Anyway, I have since dropped it since I never could get the same story out of either of them and obviously FI and I are set to be married. Problem is, my cousin has a history for causing drama and I really don't feel like dealing with it at my wedding. Still on the fence about inviting her because she a very close family member (may look wierd to the family if she is not there) but if she causes drama it will get ghetto...

[Lashawn]

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Originally Posted by Lady_Di No, you are not wrong for this! If your FI doesn't care for her then it shouldn't be a problem. You don't HAVE to invite everyone. Is she the type to go uninvited? I hope not!!

We exchanged heated words after she called my cell phone unexpectedly. She kinda has a substance abuse problem and before I knew what was happening I called her a drunken whore.. so mean I know, but it was in the heat of the moment. She sent me a text after I hung up on her saying "I will be sure to come to your wedding drunk" WOW, I literally laughed out loud on that one If that skank shows up I will have he escorted off the property. Unless she just shows up for the ceremony, then I will kindly ignore her, I wouldnt give her the satisfaction to show how upset I am.
do people travel all the way to Mexico to crash weddings?!?

ISLANDBRIDE....I really like you, we could definitely go out for drinks if we lived near each other LOL. Great comment! A lady after my own heart.

Actually ladies I really appreciated ALL of the comments. Thanks so much for reassuring me that I am not being an uptight bridezilla. She makes my blood curl.. my FI has a bond with her sons (their father is "away" for 22 years!!) so he has really stepped in and shows them that they still have a male figure in their lives so that they don't stray. This psycho b*tch threatened that they will NEVER be allowed around him as long as I am in the picture.. and that the 17 yr old can't be his bestman, unless he finds another bride..so sad that she wouldn't put her sons feelings before hers.

Thanks for letting me vent

[SSNM]

After a conversation like that...well at least the question to invite her or not is clear and family should definately understand at this point.

[starchild]

Well they say every family has one, this is your FI's family's resident loon! Only a nutjob would show up drunk and uninvited at your wedding...in another country. If she shows up (and I doubt she will) think of the great pictures your photographer will get of her going all psycho! And then the thing about not letting FI see her kids?! Ridiculous. I'm glad you stuck to your guns because the bitch has no business attending your wedding. Bleh.