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Am I wrong?? I don't want the B#$ch to come!!

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#1 Lashawn

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    Posted 27 August 2009 - 03:56 AM

    My FI has a cousin (by marriage) that I absolutely HA...excuse me STRONGLY dislike. I sent out our invitations last week and I PURPOSELY "forgot" to send her an invite.

    Let me give you a little history without boring you.. We have dated for 6 years, during the first year of us dating she tried to set him up with one of her "loose" friends behind my back. During this time she and I were hanging out and spending time together!! He told me out of respect, but asked me not to tell her that I knew. So needless to say I ended the "friendship" with her and haven't seen or spoken to her in 5 years.

    Last week, she called various family members of theirs crying that I didn't send her an invite. I am SURE that she didn't tell them that she was a awful friend. I don't want her there! It is my day! Am I wrong? I know it was a long time ago and it should be water under the bridge, but she betrayed me in the worse way and I don't want to force myself to spend 7 days looking at her. What do you think, should I give in to my FI and invite her?

    #2 islandbride317

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      Posted 27 August 2009 - 04:30 AM


      Games, DRAMA, and Bullsh*t have no place at your wedding - period! Anyone or anything that makes you uncomfortable need not be there. This is something that is not up for discussion, nor should it be given further consideration. This cousin of his did not care about you or YOUR feelings when she was setting your FI up with someone else, so why should you give a sh*t that she is upset that she can't come to the wedding?! Boo-hoo, and too bad for her that she made such poor choices.

      And HELL YES darlin'! IT IS YOUR day, and if you would feel even the slightest bit at-ease that she is there, it's best she just stays home! Some bridges burned can never be rebuilt....

      Enjoy your soon-to-be husband, the moments you will share, and the fact that only love and goodness will surround you on your wedding day! Feel free to PM me if you need to vent, because I am surely with you, sweetheart!

      #3 Jo 2010

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        Posted 27 August 2009 - 07:29 AM

        I agree 100% with islandbride317!!

        maybe this has killed two birds with one stone - she wont be at the wedding AND she will be so 'offended' she will never speak to you again - WIN-WIN :)

        #4 josee

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          Posted 27 August 2009 - 07:54 AM

          I absolutely agree!!! This is you DAY and you should be invited who you want to be there! But on the other hand, if for some reasons she ends up going to your wedding, don't forget that a resort is a big place and that it will be easy for you to ignore her! Sometime, silence is stronger that words... Good luck

          #5 ~Nicole~

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            Posted 27 August 2009 - 08:31 AM

            I don't know why anyone that you haven't seen or spoken to in 5 years would EXPECT an invitation! Water under the bridge or not, its clear that you aren't close so I think that alone is reason enough.
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            #6 super19

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              Posted 27 August 2009 - 09:12 AM

              You are not in the wrong at all on this. There is no way I would invite her to the wedding. It's your day and she's the last person that you would want to be there for it. She's just going to have to deal with it.

              #7 itsfinallyhere

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                Posted 27 August 2009 - 09:46 AM

                If you feel that strongly about it, stick to your guns. You need to be relaxed and happy on your big day. Not worried or anxious. Good Luck

                #8 saltocoach

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                  Posted 27 August 2009 - 10:00 AM

                  If you don't want her there don't have her. If anyone asks why then you can always enlighten them. If she insists on making others feel sad for her you may have to give an explanation. She obviously forgot that what goes around comes around. What I can't understand is why she would do that in the first place You have some restraint! I'd have knocked her on her a$#.

                  #9 marryinghimagain

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                    Posted 27 August 2009 - 10:30 AM

                    See this is what I don't get. If you have not spoken or bothered with one another in years then why in heaven's name would she even WANT to attend your wedding!? People can be so ridiculous at times. I can't imagine why she would even remotely think for a second that she should be invited. I say, HELL NO! Stick to your guns if you don't want her there. What does your FI think about it?

                    #10 becks



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                    Posted 27 August 2009 - 10:35 AM

                    Seriously? You haven't spoken with her in 5 years and she wants an invite to your wedding? What planet is she from?

                    By the way, she doesn't want to go to your wedding, she wants to go to Cabo and have you and your hubby pick up the tab for a meal or two.

                    You are totally in the right. She's being an obnoxious woman and you should feel free to let all of your relatives know that the reason she's not invited is that she tried to set FI up with one of her skanky friends and you are no longer on speaking terms.

                    Good grief. That woman needs a good slapping!

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