Lashawn

Quote: Originally Posted by karenk77 Ok i def will ask for her..thanks Lashawn!...do you know if you need an appointment there? YES YES YES you need an appointment. Sometimes they allow walkins, but this is very rare.

Stop sharing your great ideas with her...OR give her fake info. if you are feeling devilish

Thanks Marie.. I keep forgetting about that great search feature!

Hi ladies.. I have received quotes from 3 vendors so far.. have you had good/bad experiences with: Baja video productions, Jorge Ibarra or Mango productions? Thanks in advance for your input.

Thanks sooo much, I found an OOT bag in my colors!

Quote: Originally Posted by damaris Lashawn since you are in NYC check out the wholesale district in Manhattan. It's around 28th street and bway I went all over that area!!... my OOT bags will be a hit.. those key chains 12 for $6.00..I am getting my pashminas for $25 for a dozen. I LOVE the wholesale district!! I am considering doing real touch flowers instead of the real deal because yesterday, I found some really great looking ones. Its just that their parasols look kinda suspect lol. If you ever want to get together and hunt for things for our weddings feel free to pm me! Also, I already have my dress, but if you need a second set of eyes and I am free I am game..

Quote: Originally Posted by damaris Girl we have sooo much in common! But mine is the reverse of yours, I'm the one with the 10 year old son! lol. He gets along amazingly with my FI so when the wedding planning began he automatically decided he should be best man. We explained to him that he couldn't have that role but that he can walk down with my FMIL to signify our family becoming one. He loved that idea He feels important. Awww..that's so sweet. Perfect way for him to be included!

Quote: Originally Posted by damaris Lashawn I love your shoes, I NEVER thought of an espadrille! Such a good idea Thanks Saks online..

Quote: Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Kt Ellis I was in my father and stepmother's wedding when I was too old to be a flower girl but too young to really act as a bridesmaid. So I was a jr. bridesmaid. Now just thinking of it from that perspective, if my stepmom had asked me(even being younger than 14 then) to be the one person to stand up with her and if she decided to have more people, anything less than having a main role in the ceremony would have been something that damaged my relationship with my stepmother for a long time. As it was, I had no duties yet they made my brother and I a part of the ceremony by giving us necklaces with a family symbol on them which the minister explained as part of the ceremony. You are becoming a family, not just a couple. Moral of the story, as a stepdaughter I can tell you that I would be more offended by being asked to step down than anything else. You made the choice to ask her to be your maid of honor. Even if you were only going to have one person each stand up for you, you didn't need to bestow that title. But since it seems you have, she should not be penalized because you decided to add people to the wedding party. Lucky for you a 14 year old will most likely not know, nor feel obligated to fulfill, the traditional roles of the maid of honor. There should be no problem if you ask your friend to be the unofficial maid of honor and make sure that your step daughter is involved in as much of the planning and wedding as possible. If your friend is as good a friend as you say she is then this shouldn't be a problem and may even be awesome enough to let your step daughter feel like she is part of planning the typical maid of honor stuff like the bridal shower. It's not like you are asking your friend to be the unofficial maid of honor while you let some other friend the same age as her have the official title and do nothing. Thanks for your input. I guess, I forgot to initially mention that I already have asked my BFF to be the unofficial MOH, I was just confused about the actual title. It is obviously bothering me more that it is either of them. Thanks again..

Thanks!! guess I will be "raising the roof" before my hand close up

Quote: Originally Posted by Alyssa lashawn, the moderators of this forum have a very low tolerance for nasty, bitchy and meaningless attacks on people. if you read all of Yari's post without picking out a few choice words it would be hard to find a character attack on you. she was simply stating her opinion which #1 you asked for and #2 she is entitled too. please refrain from posting towards members in that tone again. thanks, Alyssa WOW!!! I was pissy? well my apologies. "How selfish of you" sounded like a character attack to me. ALL of my post have been positive and congratulatory and never negative by any means. I was defending myself against being called selfish. Of course I wanted opinions, but again I felt attacked. AGAIN I APOLOGIZE!!

Quote: Originally Posted by karenk77 whoops..i mean pronovias Ask for Carmel, she was super helpful..

Quote: Originally Posted by jmb0902 I don't want to be a party pooper - but you should know the white parasols everyone buys from Oriental Trading are either out of stock or no longer available... but I thought you'd want to know b/c I've tried to order them recently from there myself! Thanks, I found a site the makes custom ones with your future initial, they look great..I didn't mean Oriental Trading.. I meant to say Cultural Intrigue.. thanks for the heads up!!

I emailed them SEVERAL weeks ago and haven't heard a peep, how long did they take to respond to you? I like the 2 dancer option if your group won't be huge.

Thanks Jess, I am thinking of ordering just a few for myself and BM as well.. I don't think I would like pics with parasols randomly sprouted throughout.

THink positive thoughts...so sorry that you are stressed. Rain, rain go away!!

thanks for the info!

Quote: Originally Posted by karenk77 Ok so i broke down..klienfelds tomorrow..YIKESS Make sure you DON'T try on dresses over your budget. It is really easy to blow the budget in that store!! Good luck. I am sure whichever dress you choose you will look beautiful

Quote: Originally Posted by KarenM LOVE THEM!!!! And I think it's fab you got the espadrilles cuz you know you'll wear them again & again!! Great choice!!! I'm having the shoe dilemma now too. There are too many damn cute shoes out there & I don't really know what I want yet. I'm going barefoot on the beach for the ceremony and originally thought just nice flip flops for the reception, but then thought about it and I really want fun shoes. May end up barefoot if they hurt, but I want to at least start off dancing in heels. So far I've ordered these 2 pr & am waiting til they get here so I can try them w/ the dress. Willy Heel - Teal Satin, Chinese Laundry, $55.99, FREE 2nd Day Shipping! & these (in red). Even if I don't wear them for the wedding they were $23 and I may wear them for the boudoir shoot I'm doing around x-mas. hee hee Amazon.com: Luichiny Women's Duchess Sandal: Shoes thinking about these too Shoes, handbags: Your insider’s guide to sandals, dress shoes, boots, casual shoes, handbags and more for women, men and kids | Piperlime I LOVE the last two, the first pair looks like they will hurt after 2 minutes of dancing. The second pair in red...HOT! I say go for those or pair number 3

Quote: Originally Posted by Yari Sorry for not agreeing with the masses...I do not think it's ok for you to demote her at all. How sad! This is your future step-daughter. You already asked her and she agreed, period. I feel that it's pretty selfish. To add a Jr title is a slap in the face, she is 14 not 5, she knows what is going on. What are you talking about selfish!? Exactly how am I being sad or selfish in this situation I almost wanted to say but I value all opinions. I don't like being called selfish by someone who knows nothing about me. I wanted advice not to be called names. If you have nothing nice to say then you know how the saying goes. To the other ladies.... thanks so much for offering constructive advice. I know that there is a way to conquer this less than ideal situation with everyones feelings in tact. It is genuinely hard to choose, so I will have 2 MOH's!!! What a great idea. I don't want her (future step-daughter) to feel as if I care less about her than I do my really good friend. My FI didn't want to vote for or against, he just gave me a really weird look and told me to call his daughter (she lives 1200 miles away from us) to see what she says. I wanted to make this change 2 weeks ago, but I knew in my heart there was NO easy or rational way to do it, so I never called. I just went over and over the conversation in my head "I wanted you to think about being a BM instead of a MOH..no.. no I mean I want...." there were no words I could get together that would make sense of my thoughts. So I put it to the forum for advice.. again thanks a lot you ladies really help me out and saved my already great relationship with my future step-daughter.

WELL DONE! They look great.

Thanks, I LOVE a sale

Great idea, thanks

I love the idea of a free shoot but with my budget on overload I can"t afford to pay for yet another vacation for two. Good luck ladies!

Beautiful pics and very detailed planning thread. Thanks for sharing