Feelings on invting kids to evening do when FB+FG have child?
Posted 17 January 2009 - 08:59 AM
Posted 17 January 2009 - 12:27 PM
It is poor etiquette to only invite some children and not others. Were you going to print up two sets of invites, one that says "adult reception" and another that doesn't specify.
In the long run it could cause some strain to your relationships with friends and family. Think of how you would feel if you were told not to bring your daughter somewhere, but when you got there, other kids were running around.
As far as driving numbers up, most kids don't really count as people, KWIM? One child will not eat and drink like an adult will. If you are having a hall/caterer they should base your rates on the number of kids & adults. So you want food for 125 adults and 30 kids.
If you will have a lot of kids, you might want to consider a Kid's food and activity table. Have PB&J sandwiches, fruits, goldfish crackers, etc. Have some small beachy toys, some coloring books etc. You might also want to hire a babysitter to oversee these activities.
Posted 17 January 2009 - 12:34 PM
Posted 17 January 2009 - 12:50 PM
OR if you have people coming out of town that have kids, offer to hire a couple of babysitters at your house or an alternate location, so the kids are looked after and the parents can have a good time and know their kids are safe.
My friend got married last year, here ceremony/reception started at 8pm and specifically no kids were invited. Well her cousin showed up with her 5 year old, because her sitter crapped out last minute. WTF, who does that first of all. And second, during the reception, the kid started carrying on on the dancefloor, making a scene etc. My friend was SO pissed off. That was the very reason she didn't invite kids. I was so dissapointed for her.
Posted 17 January 2009 - 12:58 PM
In my opinion, those who came to the wedding with their children should not get offended if they're not invited to this event. It can simply be explained that this is for all adults that were unable to attend the DW. This is more easily explained then having to explain why some children were invited and others not.
It is very bad etiqutte if you choose otherwise. The attendees at your DW will more than likely not be offended with this offering since thier children celebrated in that event.
Congratulations, and good luck with planning.
Posted 17 January 2009 - 01:02 PM
If it were me, I would have an adults only evening reception. It'll give the adults time to have a nice night out without having to worry about taking care of the children while trying to have fun and party like rockstars!
Posted 17 January 2009 - 07:10 PM
I agree with the others that you have to go all or nothing. Just have an adults only reception (no children at all!) and arrange for babysitting or nanny service during it.
Posted 18 January 2009 - 01:36 PM
Just my .02
Posted 18 January 2009 - 02:21 PM
Also, I don't have kids but I wasn't offended by it and I can't see how anyone could be offended by what I wrote above.
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