Posted 14 July 2008 - 10:14 AM
Posted 14 July 2008 - 10:28 AM
I think it's important for both of us to have this now, before we have kids...I wouldn't be so ready to say, "Sure honey, take off for two days to be with the guys while I take care of the baby again..." and I doubt he'd be pleased if I told him once I week that I was off for a night of dinner and drinks with the girls! :-)
Is there something in particular though that worries you when he's off with his friends? Because I know this is a hard thing for a lot of people to sort out...
Posted 14 July 2008 - 10:38 AM
Posted 14 July 2008 - 10:43 AM
Posted 14 July 2008 - 10:52 AM
He does however play golf whenever he wants and meets up with friends for drinks. He's a huge homebody and hates not being in his own bed, so I guess that's good for me.
As far as being o.k. with him going, it would depend on who he was with, where they were going and how much it was going to cost us
I do have girls night about once a month and I love them!! I always tell him to take advantage of mine and go out with his friends. Most of the time he just stays at home and uses it as his alone time.
Posted 14 July 2008 - 10:53 AM
He has went on long weekend trips to Vegas with his boys. It doesn't bother me. I think it is good for us to sometimes spend time apart. We recharge our batteries and are much nicer to eachother.
Some people may not agree with it, but to me it gives us each a little independence away from our daily lives with kids, work and everything else. When he got home yesterday he said this about one of the guys, "Geez, I'm glad I'm not___. He said when he get's home his wife is going to dump the kids on him and have a chore list for him like you wouldn't believe".
On a side note, IMHO - if you are going to agree to his/her weekends - you need to do it without making the other spouse feel guilty about it.
(Okay...I'll step down from my soap box now)!
Posted 14 July 2008 - 11:34 AM
Posted 14 July 2008 - 11:51 AM
I think it is reall important for us to be able to function separately and pursue our own interests in addition to doing things together.
I also trust him completely, so I never worry where he is going. I honestly would worry more if he went to a casino (because we don''t have any extra money right now) than if he went to a strip club!
Posted 14 July 2008 - 12:16 PM
I feel go away as much as you like as long as it doesn't cost me, and I can do it 2 lol
Remember just cause you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look in the sweet shop window lmao I tell him and he goes yeah right whatever - i think i'm worse than him for that lmao
Posted 14 July 2008 - 12:21 PM
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