Save the date question
Posted 06 April 2008 - 10:49 AM
I tried doing a search on save the dates, but couldn't find an answer, so I hope this thread isn't a duplicate.
Anyway, my question with regard to save the dates...How did you determine who you should send them to? I mean, if you know that you want to invite someone, but their circumstances would likely prevent them from attending a destination wedding, do you still do a save the date?
There are alot of people I would like to invite, even though they wouldn't likely come. Partially because it seems like it would be a slap in the face to them if they weren't at least invited, and partially because they mean something to me.
The flipside is that I dont want people to feel like I am over-inviting so I can get more gifts.
What is the etiquette on this one?
Posted 06 April 2008 - 10:53 AM
Posted 06 April 2008 - 11:02 AM
just don't put registry info or anything and you won't seem like you are fishing for gifts
Posted 06 April 2008 - 11:19 AM
We're actually sending out our STDs in the next two weeks or so and have been having a similar dilemma. What we've ultimately decided to do is send out a STD to everyone we would invite to a traditional wedding at home --we're going to have multiple pages on on the second sheet with the travel agent info we're going to put a message like --
"We realize that Mexico is very far away and we understand that not everyone will be able to make the trip, but our fingers are crossed and we'll be delighted if you can! If you are ready to book your trip please contact..."
(I know I got that from someone else's posting but I can't remember who so I apologize for not being able to give due credit!)
Then we plan to spread by word of mouth that we do not expect gifts -- that way it's up to individuals if they want to do presents, but hopefully they will feel that the pressure is off.
Posted 06 April 2008 - 11:36 AM
Posted 06 April 2008 - 11:44 AM
Posted 06 April 2008 - 11:50 AM
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:15 PM
When we make up the invites though, we will only send them to those people that already book, or have expressed an interest in attending. We're cutting out the people that come out and point blank said they weren't coming.
Posted 06 April 2008 - 01:52 PM
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