Yikes... I also agree with all of the above... So Sorry.. I actually had the same problem.. My mother telling me that I had to invite my Uncle to my wedding who maybe I had seen 10 times in my entire life and I am 26! My FI and I are paying for the wedding but my parents are also contributing. I have come to the conclusion that I am NOT including or inviting my uncle or his family. I understand that is my mother's brother but if he cared about me getting married he would of been here through my life even if it was just on Holidays.. right?? On your other question... I WOULD NOT ask your guests to pay for their wedding dinner.. If you and your FI (and if anyone else is contributing) can't afford the meals at the wedding I would 100% try and cut back in other areas such as oot bags, rings, type of room your staying in, hair/makeup artists.... Would love to see how you worked this out!