We told people upfront that we would completely understand if they could not make it to the wedding...it's expensive, travel, passport, blah, blah, blah...it's ok. The only excuse we have really heard is the economy...oh and my dad's initial reaction..."I'm not going!" which he is now booked to go, ha : )
Our invites are going out next week so we will see how the RSVPs go but we are planning on a small group of about 15-20 people with us & we are so excited for it. This is more about us, our celebration, and if I don't hear from people by our RSVP date we are considering them not available to join us.