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I have been reading all these song threads for ideas, and I'm freaking out! It seems like everyone has a groom entrance song, a bridesmaid song, a bride song, a signing song, a recessional song, a postlude song, a reception arrival song, not to mention first dance songs! That's a lot of songs! My fiance and I just spent about 2 weeks coming up with one song, so I don't know if it's even possible for us to come up with 9 songs by May! So basically, what's the minimum acceptable number of songs, and what's the norm? I'm curious to know what people in the past have done, and what the rest of you are planning to do in the future

My fiance and I are Canadians currently living in the US for school, but right after the wedding we'll be going to Canada for the summer (except we'll want the gifts to end up in the US). As a result, registering is a bit difficult b/c we're unable to shop around any Canadian stores, and our guests are unable to go to any US stores. We also are not even wanting people to get gifts (but we know they probably will anyways) so we're thinking of just registering at Amazon. It has plenty of little things we want, and everything is easily dealt with online. I'm just not sure if it's tacky :S

I would leave it out too. There are "engineers" who go their whole careers without bothering to become PEs, and you definitely wouldn't want to get it wrong. It's also a title that is used a lot less frequently than Dr (most engineers I've met go by Mr. or Dr. when it applies). Destination weddings also tend to have less strict rules about this sort of etiquette, so I say don't worry about it!

Thanks! When you used the cd player, were there proper speakers set up, or was it a portable machine? The problem is that the beach I'm getting married at is just a beach (not connected to the resort itself) so I'd need a portable option. The hotel I'm staying at may have a portable option available (and they're setting everything up) but I don't know for sure.

I have a couple questions about how getting married on the beach "works" exactly. First of all, how do you hide from the groom? My fiance and I aren't going to see each other before the ceremony, but once we're down at the beach how is it avoidable? How do you play music if you don't have someone doing it live? Do you go without music, or bring portable speakers or something? As you can see, I've never actually been to a beach wedding! Thanks in advance

possibly the louis armstrong version of "la vie en rose"

Quote: Originally Posted by KJT1985 Where at in Costa Rica? We were there last august and I loved it but with flight prices I haven't found a resort that's cheap enough yet. I PM'd you so we don't hijack the thread

I'm skipping the necklace, but my fiance's cousin is making me a wide (about 2 inches) bracelet made out of silver chain, moonstones, topaz, various types of freshwater pearls, and aquamarines (my something blue, and they match my eyes perfectly). I'm not sure about earrings. I don't wear them normally, so I feel like I won't look like "me" if I wear some, but I also feel like my photos might look crappy without them :S

I'm skipping the necklace, but my fiance's cousin is making me a wide (about 2 inches) bracelet made out of silver chain, moonstones, topaz, various types of freshwater pearls, and aquamarines (my something blue, and they match my eyes perfectly). I'm not sure about earrings. I don't wear them normally, so I feel like I won't look like "me" if I wear some, but I also feel like my photos might look crappy without them :S

I think this is the penance every bride must pay for getting married somewhere fabulous! Just remember, it's worth it, and I think it does get better as the wedding day approaches. I had a lot of complaints initially (not just about having a destination wedding, but about WHERE I was having my destination wedding) and although I can deal with normal complaints, passive aggressive behaviour makes me crazy! My MiL really wanted her son to get married at a resort she loves in Hawaii (totally not our style) and I think she's bitter that I did my own thing. After I booked Costa Rica she kept saying things like "well, if Tyson only has two people there, that's ok" as if I only cared about my side of the family! It also didn't even make sense b/c the wedding she wanted wouldve been way more expensive for everyone. As it turns out of course, everyone we invited on his side is coming (despite the fact that she constantly told me they wouldn't be able to) but now she complains that the people coming won't be able to afford it, and that she'll have to pay for their flights and rooms (again, this doesn't make sense...people wouldn't rsvp if they couldnt afford it!). All that being said, I'm starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Now that I've sent my invitations out, I'm starting to hear back from people, and a lot of them are really excited! As the day gets closer you'll hear less and less from the people that aren't coming, and more and more from the excited people who are. Also, once everything is set in stone, people tend to keep their mouths shut b/c there's no point in complaining, and they also start to feel guilty about it. Regarding people who are coming that are complaining, I find it helps to include them. Discuss things as if you really value their input (even if it's about something small and insignificant and it's likely they won't complain as much b/c they'll feel like they have a stake in the wedding

I don't think it's rude at all not to have them (I hadn't even heard of them until a month ago, and certainly wouldn't expect them if I was attending a wedding). That being said, I think it is doable if you would like to have OOT bags. I am personally not going to assemble my bags until I reach my destination. That way I can have the bags laid out flat in my luggage, and can keep all my items efficiently bundled. My main item is going to be personalized flipflops, and I'm just having those shipped directly to the hotel. If you're ordering anything bulky (like towels) I'm sure you can do the same (as long as you order them closer to the wedding date). It sounds like just you and your fiance (and son) will be on the cruise ship, an everyone else will be flying to the destination, so maybe you could pack a suitcase full of the OOT stuff, and leave it with a family member or bridesmaid to bring. Anyways, if you don't think it's doable, don't worry about it. It may seem like "everyone" does OOT bags based on these forums, but that's because the type of people who post on forums about their wedding details are the same type of people who like to do extra stuff for their wedding. I don't think I've ever seen OOT bags in bridal magazines, and I think they're actually quite rare.

I personally love the look of a full wedding dress in TTD photos...it's half the magic for me. I would just look through photos and decide what you personally think looks best. If you don't choose what YOU think looks better you're going to regret it down the road. And if you decide you do like the full dress look, don't worry too much about ruining your dress. You probably can get it cleaned just fine afterward, and regardless, when you go to someone's house, how often do they pull out their wedding dress? I'm guessing you're a lot more likely to see someone's wedding photos, so they're really the more important memento!

I think it only costs $6 to return a VS item, and they include the return label when you get it, so at least if it doesn't fit you can ditch it There's also a somewhat wedding-y bathing suit I just found I think I may do a VS order and get myself a dress, a bathing suit, and some lingerie. I'm also going to get a dress here: Etsy :: isadoraclothing :: NEW- Chameleon dress and tube top set- Infinite variations in one dress-Introductory sale It's really versatile, and according to the feedback it travels well with no wrinkling

drtracy, why don't you have a ttd session after your ahr? It seems like a lot of people do it waaaay after the wedding, so you may as well wait too! I'm really disappointed that my dog won't be at our wedding (I know that sounds ridiculous, but my fiance used him to propose on our favorite beach that is also a dog beach) and so we're going to do TTD about 5 months after our wedding when we're visiting back home, so we can include the dog. Basically, it's not hard to work TTD around whatever else you have going on May as well do it! The way I see it, I'm probably never going to wear the dress again, but I'll have wedding photos around the house forever, so I should try to get the best ones possible!

My fiance and I are having a hard time picking a song because we want something meaningful specifically to us, that isn't cliche, or just inappropriate as a processional song. We both would like to have a song from Wall-e because I'm an animation student and he's an engineering student who loves science fiction and building robots. It's also just one of our favorite movies (one of the few movies that is on both our favorites lists) and it's a love story to boot! Anyways, there's one instrumental piece that I thought would work, but it's only 37 seconds long! Here is a looped version, so let me know if you think it sounds ok looped or if it even works as a wedding song. YouTube - WALL-E Soundtrack All That Love's About Loop Edit We're also thinking of using Louis Armstrong's "La Vie En Rose" for something...maybe recessional? It's got some pretty in-your-face trumpet, so I don't know if it's to much :S

btw, if youre willing to look online, check out Victoria Secret b/c a ton of their dresses come in white (just do a search for "white dress' and it'll show you all the ones that come in white, even though they're often shown in a color).

Linen pants maybe? Post links or pics if you can

yep, they're starting to come out, so hit up the malls!

You obviously want her there, and it's your wedding. It sounds like your aunt is probably a loving person if she wants to reconnect with your mom despite past conflict, and she would probably be upset to be the only aunt not invited. This may actually be a good opportunity to bring the two of them closer together, so talk to your mom about it and see if it's ok with her to invite your aunt (you can use wedding etiquette as a partial excuse too, b/c it is sort of weird to only not invite the one aunt).

I agree that you should definitely avoid making it public who is and isnt invited. We're going to be sure after the wedding to only publicly show pictures of the bridal party, and my family is spreading the word that we're just having an intimate affair (so that people assume they arent invited, instead of the other way around). If it's a big problem, you could send out AHR invites or save the dates really early so that people know they're not invited (but at the same time are getting invited to something wedding related, thus making it less offensive). Generally with wedding etiquette, it seems like most things are better when they don't come directly from the mouth of the bride, so talk to those close to you and hopefully they can help spread the word that its a super small wedding.

I have a fairly long skinny neck, and I'm not wearing a necklace. I don't even think I'm wearing earrings (but I have an absolutely fabulous bracelet my cousin is custom making, with about $300 worth of gemstones). I'm wearing a strapless dress b/c I know my fiance likes my shoulders and collarbone, and I really don't feel any need to detract from the dress or my body with a necklace (if I had a different neckline I would have gotten a necklace, but I definitely don't feel it's always the best option). I never wear earrings on a day to day basis, so I'm not wearing any for the wedding b/c I don't feel I'll look like me. So basically, wear what you think suits you and the dress best

When my fiance and I were in San Francisco he managed to convince me to buy $400 shoes (I was like WHAT Are you CRAZY) and I haven't regretted it a bit. Every single time I wear them I get a million compliments, and even though they're heels I can wear them forever! I don't know if its possible, but you should check to see if you can dye them black after the wedding (they would make absolutely fabulous "little black dress" shoes) and then you could have a memento from your wedding that you'd still get to wear!

I myself am going the barefoot jewelry route. My fiance is only a little bit taller than me, and I want it to stay that way in the photos! I also just think bare feet are fun and beachy, and although being taller is always nice, it's my wedding day, and my fiance loves me for me (and not how I pretend to be) so in my warped mind it almost seems more special to stay my real height. That being said...there's just something about shoes (they're hard to resist) so if you have to have them, go for it! I'm filling the "shoe void" in my heart by just buying shoes for the rest of the trip

cantwait, did you expect a gift, or do you feel that how you were treated was appropriate? I plan to get my MoH something small (maybe just some really nice flowers b/c she's a picky shopaholic and has everything she wants). I know it's a lot of work and money to host a shower, but I would happily return the favor when my BMs get married and don't really feel that any elaborate gift is required. In my mind, throwing a shower is sort of like throwing a birthday party for someone...it's done out of love and b/c it's a special occasion (and in the case of a wedding it's even more rare and more special!). All that being said, you know your BMs best and probably have the best idea of what "feels right" but I think something like a spafinder gift certificate would be nice (then they can all get facials or manicures or something before the wedding!). GL! All the pesky wedding etiquette details are always a huge stress :S

Of course the most important thing is what dress you like the most, but do you have pictures of the dresses? I can't help but be curious! I feel like I'm pretty unhappy with my dress, especially b/c I see so many beautiful new ones every day, but everyone who has seen it loved it, and I know I loved it when I tried it on, so I'm just avoiding going to try anything on. It's definitely not an easy situation!