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This is going to sound really terrible, but to me, a sand ceremony is nothing more than pouring sand. I like the idea, but for some reason it just doesn't touch me in any sort of emotional way. I wish that it evoked some sort of emotional response in me because I think it's it's a fantastic concept and makes for a nice keepsake, but it doesn't do anything for me, so I'm skipping it! When it comes to my wedding, I try to make a lot of my decisions based on what I feel emotionally (such as wedding songs). If the thought of a sand ceremony makes you all warm and fuzzy inside, I say go for it, but if you could care less it's probably not worth the expense.

This is going to sound really terrible, but to me, a sand ceremony is nothing more than pouring sand. I like the idea, but for some reason it just doesn't touch me in any sort of emotional way. I wish that it evoked some sort of emotional response in me because I think it's it's a fantastic concept and makes for a nice keepsake, but it doesn't do anything for me, so I'm skipping it! When it comes to my wedding, I try to make a lot of my decisions based on what I feel emotionally (such as wedding songs). If the thought of a sand ceremony makes you all warm and fuzzy inside, I say go for it, but if you could care less it's probably not worth the expense.

ok, so i just did a really quick and poor quality bouquet photoshops. I had to use a laptop trackpad, so just pretend they look real. Here's the same bouquet with brown and blue ribbon...does it look weird? In this image the "blue flowers" were actually yellow, and the dress was white, but I wanted to test the color combo (I would do less green). I'm not sure I can get blue flowers, but it's worth looking into I think.

Thanks for all the links! I can't do coral...I just can't. I don't have anything specifically against coral, it's just really not "me." I don't even think I own any pastel colored clothing! For flowers I really want something with this kinda vibe: I found mummergirl's gallery link fairly inspiring b/c there were a lot of "crazy" but beautiful bouquets in there. I'm wondering now if I should do something like the bouquet above, but with blue? Maybe that's too much and I should just go with a chocolate ribbon :S Carly, I looked at your photos, and your wedding looking great, but you actually integrated all your colors really well. If I'm going to have lots of colors in my bouquets, should I try to incorporate those colors elsewhere as well?

I'm using blue in my OOT bags a lot, and I was planning to have it on my guestbook, place cards, etc. The thing is, I really don't want a white or blue bouquet! I really have my heart set on something bright and funky, and it's hard to totally change the image in my head. The problem I have with just leaving the flowers as-is, is that there won't be any blue or brown whatsoever in the bouquet, so there won't be an element tying it all together. I was also originally planning on buying my bridesmaids some brown and blue jewelry, but now I'm not so sure it'll look good. Maybe I'll try to find a bouquet I like online, and then I can use photoshop or something to do some color tests. I think the brown will work great...it's just the blue that's making this all a bit tricky :S

check out this link it's definitely overkill since it's designed to preserve your dress for eternity, but it sounds like you want to go with a muslin garment bag, and you could certainly do the acid-free paper if you feel you need to. Good luck! The main concern is that you still love your dress in 18 months...there are a LOT of two dress brides on this forum

Even though I realized that this is a bit of a disaster for you, congratulations! (assuming you are in fact pregnant). It sounds like you are ready for a baby, and no matter how crazy your next year is, you'll have a beautiful baby in the end! Do you have any idea of how long you've possibly been pregnant? If you're only 6 months pregnant for your wedding, I think that's more than fine. If you're going to be 8 months pregnant or something, I would definitely be more concerned about traveling away from home. My sister was originally going to be about 7 months pregnant for my wedding (it turned out that she couldn't get pregnant as fast as she hoped) and one thing that put her at ease was that I looked into whether or not there was a hospital nearby, or at least a doctor (as it turns out, the hotel owner is a surgeon, and a new hospital was just built close to my hotel). If you look into this sort of thing it'll probably put you at ease, so that if you DO have a problem (which is unlikely) you don't have to worry. Also don't worry about your parents. Your sister already went through this, so I'm sure your parents will be less livid this time (especially b/c you're older). My parents FREAKED out when my sister moved in with her fiance before they got married, but when I did it they didn't even blink an eye (which incidentally pissed off my sister). At any rate, they'll probably be a bit annoyed, but it's not worth losing sleep over. I would wait until you do another test before telling your fiance, but I wouldn't wait too long b/c I'm sure talking it through with him will really help your mindset. Just make sure that when you tell him you have time for a nice long conversation. The main thing is to think happy thoughts and remain positive! Think about marrying the man you love, and having a precious little baby in your arms...this could work out to be the best year of your life!

For some reason, up until now, my brain has considered my wedding colors and my flowers to be two totally separate things. I just started thinking of the whole picture, and realized that the two things don't match at all!! My wedding colors so far have been chocolate brown and blue, but all that people have seen so far are STDs and invitations. My bridesmaids are wearing brown, and I pictured us all having super vibrant bouquets (orange, fuchsia, and lime green or something). Those colors don't go with blue and brown at all! So now I don't know what to do. Should I change my colors? I haven't bought too much yet...mostly just DIY stuff like ribbon, so I wouldn't be out a ton of money if I switched. The only problem is that if I switch to something like orange and brown, it suddenly becomes a lot harder to find things like favors in appropriate colors (I also have a bit of a starfish theme). Should I change my bouquet idea? I'm not sure I could even do brown and blue flowers b/c I'll be using fresh, local Costa Rican flowers for the most part (and I'm not sure I'd even want a blue bouquet!). Should I just not match? I could emphasize the brown more than the blue, and brown goes with everything, but I feel like everything might still look terrible. So...help! I feel like a total idiot :S

I just randomly came across this image while looking at centerpieces looks good to me! I say do whatever your gut is telling you to

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Quote: Originally Posted by ashey063009 Rhonda, I think its up to you whether you want to do the same song for everyone, or a bridal party and then bride song. I'm going to be doing one for everyone-- and I think heading down to Jason Mraz sounds awesome. I think the whole "instrumental only thing" is silly. Oooh, I can do the same song for the bridesmaids and myself? AWESOME! 4-5 minutes seems SO long to me though...does it honestly take that long to walk the aisle? In my mind it takes like...30 seconds. That brings up another question I have too...how do you guys walk up the aisle? As in, do you just stroll, or do you do the old traditional right-together-left-together? And if you just walk, do you try to walk to the beat, or do you just walk normally?

Ok, so I talked to the hotel and they definitely don't have a portable system. So basically, my options are to buy a portable system, or to go without. Has anyone else gone without music? I'm not sure if it's worthy buying and bringing something just for a few songs (we'll have music and a band at the reception spot).

I think it might be a lot to put off your anniversary for a year, but it's up to you. I would just feel a little ripped of 50 years down the road, when instead of a 50th, you were having a 49th! I suppose you could compromise and make your anniversary November 28th 2009. Then you'd be celebrating the more special day, but it would be closer to the right number of years

Yeah I think that relationship was doomed to failure, but I love the show! This season is looking good so far! I"m just sad Sylar is evil again

I think I'm leaning towards the goddess ones the more I think about it, because they're designed for comfort and tie up, so they won't slide around (and I really don't want to fall on my face while we're running around the beach getting photos taken). Is it bad that I'm considering getting the starfish ones in orange for my welcome dinner? I swear this wedding is turning me into a shopaholic :S Edit: Oh and btw, the lady who makes the goddess ones is sending me a leather swatch so I can make sure the shoes will go with my dress

Quote: Originally Posted by ashey063009 I really liked the clip, although it is a little short. Sounds beautiful, but keep in mind it's a lot of wood winds, and might be difficult to hear against the crashing waves. Other than that, it's beautiful. Good Pick! How long should a song be? My cousin is a music editor, so I'm just going to get it professionally looped. If you guys could give a rough idea of how long is generally needed for the bridal party, the bride, the recessional, etc, I would really appreciate it! The few weddings I've been to have had live musicians, so it's not something I've ever really paid attention to :S

well...we figured out an option anyways (it's from Wall-e, and we're concerned it's lame) I was looking for romantic songs today (for the reception or whatever) and I thought to myself "hey, Frank Sinatra will have some good ones". I started going through all his lyrics, and I'm already up to 50 suitable songs! That's me being picky too, and only choosing songs that are directly applicable to us :S I knew he was a romantic, but it's almost ridiculous!

More starfish sandals They also come in black, pink, and orange (at different websites) but they're unfortunately even more expensive than the other ones ($98 ).

This is probably what you're thinking

I am wanting to go barefoot, or with barefoot sandals (which I'm in the process of making) but I think I should buy some sandals too, in case the sand is really hot. I'm going to buy a white summer dress for the rest of the trip, so I'll probably reuse whatever I buy. So far I'm between these: Comfy Goddess-type sandals (which I think match the style of my dress) ooooor.... Starfish sandals (starfish are one of my wedding themes) So let me know what you think! I'm also open to any other options you ladies might have

I think almost any veil would go with that dress! Seriously, birdcage to cathedral length, and anything in between. Are you planning to wear any flowers as well? One thing to consider is your height and build. There are some general guidelines that you can find online, that may help you narrow down your choices (for example, a cathedral length veil will often overwhelm a very petite bride). Good luck! Let us know if you have any ideas you want input on

Did the Bose docking station just go in your luggage? That's not a bad option if we can fit it and afford it! I'm going to be getting married on a beach with no stairs or buildings, so it looks like I may have to hide behind a tree or a rock! Should be interesting :S

Quote: Originally Posted by irishmatrimony I LOVE this but am looking for a cheaper version if anyone can help! Designer Pearl Necklace -- Beach Wedding Jewelry I would make an alchemy posting on Etsy. I've seen lots of similar stuff there, and it doesn't look too difficult to make.

What does your fiance think? I think he would probably have some valuable input since he knows his family best. I also think it's ok for people to be a little sad if it's a special moment (it's sort of like watching a sad movie...it's worth it).

No matter what your fiance isn't going to get as excited over the details as you. Most men aren't going to get as excited over flowers or centerpieces, and that's a hard thing to force. That being said, the way he worded his response sounds a bit lazy. Try asking his opinion on something and see how it goes (for example, get something on your list of things to organize down to two choices, and tell him you can't make up your mind and want his input). Generally I find my fiance is better for validating my choices than he is for making them. I figure out what I think I want, and then say "I'm thinking of doing this...what do you think?" The only thing he's majorly helped with is choosing songs, b/c I don't want to pick music he hates. I think most guys just want to get married. Really, the wedding itself is always more about the bride (girls usually spend forever obsessing over the dress...guys often just go rent a tux). I think it's worth getting mad if he's not willing to give any input when you ask him about something specific, but I doubt he's going to get really into planning, and that's not necessarily a bad thing b/c if it's not his thing, he would probably be bad at it. Just think about the girl to guy ratio on this forum, and it should give you a good indication of how into wedding planning men are! If it bothers you still, talk to him about it, and you'll probably find that he does care about the wedding, but that marrying you is the only important detail (and is he wrong? I think us girls get a little too caught up in little things that don't really matter).