kevsgirl

I know you're worried about causing a scene and starting a feud, but I really think that being honest shouldn't really do that. If you just even say to her: "Look, I know this may make you uncomfortable and I really don't want us to fight about this, but I was surprised that you didn't show up for the shower after I saw you come home early and it's been making me feel really sad this past week." Then you're being honest. You say "I just wanted you to know that I feel weird and upset about it and I know there's probably a reason, but I think I'd feel better knowing what happened with you so that i can move on." Tell her you know you're probably more emotional than normal because it's your wedding coming up, etc., but you want to clear the air. Honesty is always a good way to approach things like this. Even if it is the hardest way... Good luck!

I know you're worried about causing a scene and starting a feud, but I really think that being honest shouldn't really do that. If you just even say to her: "Look, I know this may make you uncomfortable and I really don't want us to fight about this, but I was surprised that you didn't show up for the shower after I saw you come home early and it's been making me feel really sad this past week." Then you're being honest. You say "I just wanted you to know that I feel weird and upset about it and I know there's probably a reason, but I think I'd feel better knowing what happened with you so that i can move on." Tell her you know you're probably more emotional than normal because it's your wedding coming up, etc., but you want to clear the air. Honesty is always a good way to approach things like this. Even if it is the hardest way... Good luck!

You set up some really awesome shots! I'm really amazed at how well they all turned out. Gives me hope! Epics are not in the budget for us at all, but I really want to do them...

They're beautiful! I actually (being a picture whore) scrolled down without reading much of what you'd written and saw the puppy feet and showed FI, who's sitting next to me at the other computer. You were on her/his floor

Oh my goodness. That is so terrifying. It's good to be reminded of how careful we have to be with nature because the ocean is so powerful and it's sometimes easy to forget how easy it is to get into a situation like this. I'm so glad you two are ok and that you were able to work together in such a great way that brought you even closer together. That's really important. I'm glad it all turned out ok.

I am seriously dreading this... I'm a 36 DD maybe bigger. I need to go to a real bra shop that's really good and get seriously sized. Anyway, I HATE bras. I mean I am constantly uncomfortable and I even went to a surgeon just last month to talk about the Big Chop. (FI and I want to try for kids soon, sso I have to wait ) Anyway, I felt like my dress was thick enough (it's pretty heavily beaded) that when it's properly fitted it'll be plenty stiff enough to hold the girls up. Then again, part of me is worried I'm deceiving myself. What if I'm constantly having to readjust? IMO I would never wear a bustier because I hate bras so much that is just torture. But cups would not give support. I think that a lace-up back should give more support than a zipper. Maybe your seamstress is losing it? She sounds weird! LOL Let us know what you decide...

I love them! They're so nice and beachy, yet very professional.

I totally agree. It's awkward, but they should really answer for it. I'd just ask point-blank - Hope you had a great time camping - btw why didn't you make it to the shower? It looked as though you got back in time? That way she has to answer. And even if it's a bit accusatory, if she freaks you can backpedal by saying you were just really sad she wasn't there and you assumed they were on their way and were waiting to see her show up all night... that you were hurt, that's all and didn't understand. But don't give her a ready-made excuse. Wiat to see what she comes up with...

Those are fantastic pics! And you have a beautiful smile I love what you wore - so casual, but very pretty and flirty. And the sky was perfect. I love your photographer!!!!

I voted for #1. It's so great on you. It's also so nice fo rme to see it on a real person, rather than the model online! I love it

Congrats! You look beautiful and so happy in your pics. I love the pic of your DH watching you come towards him. Who all was at the ceremony witnessing?

Quote: Originally Posted by Simistar Here's a question for you ladies! (I'm thinking of posting this in the "etiquette" section as well, but thought I'd start with you gals...) So, I'm not sure what the etiquette is for whether to give vendors dinner or not...especially when some are only staying for one-to-three hours... So, for example, we've hired our photographer for three hours...He'll be leaving by the time dinner starts...Do we invite him to stay...? What about the guitarist who's playing just for our ceremony? (so 45 min. set)...? Maybe just tip him...? Our DJ is staying for four hours, beginning at dinner...do we serve him dinner while he's working...? So confused -- please help!:-) Etiquette is that vendors are supposed to be fed/offered a meal, but they usually take their meals somewhere else when they're on a break. They're meant to have at least one break too, even if they're playing during the reception. It's a bit more difficult for those who are just playing for an hour during the ceremony. Here's what we're doing: 3:30 ceremony - 4pm cocktail hour - 7pm dinner Photographer: 2:45-6.15 - I invited her to stay for dinner, even though she'll be done almost an hour before. She said yes, she'd love to! So i'm glad for that. Mariachis: playing during cocktail hour for 1 hour from 4-5pm - I expect them to help themselves to the hors d'oeuvres and have a drink on us. Want them to be happy and hydrated! That's it. No more vendors. Oh - I completely forgot our minister. I will ask him in advance if he wants to have dinner with us. If not, I"ll ask him to come up for some hors d'oeuvres. Andrea

Wow! Those are fantastic pictures, Rebecca! I love that you were both barefoot for your ceremony - and your smile just tells the story of how wonderful the day was. The shot of you on the beach, trashing your dress is great too. What a gorgeous dress - so sexy! Congrats again!

Quote: Originally Posted by Tracy Niels and Kevsgirl, I am in the same predicament as most others here. We sent out invites out in early August with an rsvp due date of 9/1..so far we've gotten about 28 of the 75 rsvp's back. Now, i will say that I know that the Canadian one's (at least Eastern Ontario ) are going to be super-late because....are you ready for this - it took 13 DAYS to get them delivered to Ottawa. Canadian Postal service is so ridiculous sometimes. But, with that being said, even our groomsmen and bridesmaids haven't sent there's in on time. Do you think because it's a DW people say "oh, they already know we are coming, we used their travel agent, and told them when we booked"? WOW!!! Gotta love the postal service between Canada and the U.S. Things from the U.S get to us usually at an astoundingly quick rate. I'd say I usually get stuff from the States in 2-3 days, whereas if something's coming to me from within Canada it can take a week. So that's unfortunate! I'll have to check Zappos. I wish sometimes that we were down in the States, because it seems like all the good online stores are down there and shipping and duties are always totally expensive to get stuff up here I'm waffling on the shoes I want to get. Not sure at all. Great job on your purchases though! I was productive last night: I put together our ceremony script. It's nearly ready. I kind of worked with Morgan and Rachel's and have made it a bit more tailored to us (not many changes). Just a few more tweaks and it's done!

Have a fabulous time! wishing you both all the best. Can't wait to hear all about it!

Welcome to our quiet little thread!!! I hear you on waiting for the RSVPs... I find it quite nerve-wracking. I was over at the Future In-laws' place last week and FI's brother is getting married in October and FSIL said that they'd received 28 RSVPS back already. Their invites went out less than 2 weeks ago, so it was very ltitle time. Anyway, I was like "really? That's awesome!" and she said, "what about you?" Well, that was embarassing, because so far only both of our parents have replied I felt like crap But ours is a DW and theirs is a huge one in town, so I know that we may have only 8-12 people at ours and we only sent out about 19 invitations total. Whereas they sent out about 200. Even so, made me feel pathetic

Quote: Originally Posted by happygilmore I have a platinum E-ring and I am having a palladium wedding band made. I was told they will look almost the same but palladium is a bit shiner. I was told not to do white gold because they wear different and I want to get my rings saudered(?) and that trying to rhodium dip the white gold next to the plantinum would be difficult. My wedding band is being made right now so when I get both together (platinum and palladium) i'll take a pic and post! Awesome! Please do post a pic when they're side by side. It helps that they'll be fused together too, so that whoever is looking after them can make sure that they look as close to the same colour as possible

Quote: Originally Posted by Angel Hmmmm, that's interesting, I thought palladium was just as white as platinum (from what I've seen). I know there is a slight difference in color but doesn't it look just as white? Palladium is harder than white gold and lighter and less expensive than platinum. In terms of colour, I find the palladium rings I"ve seen have been a lot more steel coloured, like this image, that shows 18K yellow gold, 18K white gold (rhodium-plated) and an 18K palladium ring (un-plated) from the side on: Palladium can be plated too, but the plating wearing off makes it look greyish, whereas when a white gold ring wears off its plating it looks a little yellow-y or less white... I really don't think it matters that much, but I do think you want to match your metals.

If it's going to bug you, stick with the same metal. It depends on how pick you are and how much you can see the difference. My two rings are different Karats - my e-ring is 18k and my band is 14k. I can tell the difference, but I make jewelry. That said, it wasn't enough to make me worry or not love both rings. No one else will notice Platinum and white gold are different, but not too different. Platinum is much stronger than white gold. And it has a bit of a more steely colour IMO. Palladium is completely different colour, so definitely don't go for that... If I were you I'd get a small simple platinum band online and then maybe later when you feel richer, get something more blingy Good luck!

That level of wealth just blows my mind... now off to send around my office

Quote: Originally Posted by catandcleo Andrea - you can get giant oval hole punches at Michael's too, so you don't HAVE to change unless you just want to! Thank you!!! I am such a dork! I had a look around online actually as I know the Michael's near me doesn't have them Then again, maybe they were just out of stock.

Quote: Originally Posted by Morgan I worried that too many references to ferrets was a bannable offense when I saw Erin got into trouble. Because if that's the case, I'm next. Funny - the minute I posted this I had a ferret-related thought.

Thanks for the nice thoughts. Things are looking up a bit. My manager really appreciates my work and said today that it's looking very good about my job changing somewhat (I'm hoping oging up a level) and becoming permanent sooner rather than later. So that's great. My friend's having an open house for her father on Saturday so FI and I will come back early from the cottage trip we'd planned to be there for her. I think she's doing a bit better this week. It's got to be so sad though Quote: Originally Posted by arhoyaltres I've currently been dealing w/ a mysterious infection (in addition to a severe sprained ankle) only to find out that I'm allergic to the antibiotic that I was given...so now I'm battling a severe chemical reaction to penicillin; which I had no clue I was allergic to. OMG! That's horrible! I'm glad it didn't get any more severe before you caught it. Allergic reactions can be so scary. I once woke uip with a swollen lip like I'd been punched. The doctor said the throat would have swollen up next. Scary! Glad to hear you're getting it looked at. Quote: Originally Posted by arhoyaltres And I will be leaving town tomorrow after doing my BD session to spend Labor Day weekend with his family on the East coast....101 days to go & I'm really starting to feel the pressure. That sounds so much fun. So are you feeling better? Are you still all itchy? Hope the BD session goes well. It's so exciting. Have a great vacation too. Worry about all the wedding stuff when you get back!

This is a great thread! I have all these different products I'm going to look into now and I'll try one out. I really need a change from my routine, which is clearly not working... I have had fairly bad acne since I went away to university at about 17. I'm now 31. I'm sick and tired of it. I took antibiotics (minocin i had a bad reaction to, but tons of different kinds) for years, did 2 courses of Accutane with 2 years in between. The first time it was perfect and cleared up my skin for a good year, but the second time I had all these weird kind of emotional/headache problems, so I didn't stick through the full treatment. I've tried topical creams with nasty antibiotics in them. I don't find they work particularly well. I tried Proactive for a year but never really thought it was that great. Since spring I've been having bad acne on my neck/top of my back and chest, which is the worst place during summer - it's hard to wear any tank tops Drives me nuts I have been under tons of stress, but it's still crappy. Right now I use Neostrata, which is a great Canadian line of skincare - the oil free foaming gel cleanser. It has glycolic acid in it and it's fantastic. I follow up with Proactive toner and then some topical cream. It's not working at all for me. For a while I was using the Neostrata cleanser and then the oil free moisturizer. I think it was good for a few months. My trouble is nothign ever works for long. Definitely, switching around routines is bad for your skin and washing too frequently in a day can make things worse. So stop using as much makeup and only wash 2x a day if possible... I hope yours is getting better - hav you tried anything new yet?

Congratulations and back!!! You look gorgeous in your pics and it looks like you had absolutely perfect weather. Your daughter is super cute. I love the little hair flower And is one of your BMs your sister? Your dad looks so young too! Beautiful pics! Can't wait to see more