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I'm with everyone - tell them all "screw you" and go and do it the way YOU want to do it. Mine have done the same to me and to be honest I don't give a flying fuck because they will only whinge, whine and moan while they are there. I just wish FI's lot would back out and then I would be in bliss lol Honestly don't cancel it because then they will have won! x

Aw chick i'm so sorry - they say it comes in 3s and I think thats your 3s. Forget about the wedding for a week or so and just get your sanity back and give yourself some time to get your head back together. If you want me to email the hotel I can give them a harty special for you lol there again maybe not they might ban you from the hotel!! I find "HOI fuckwits!! what the *** hell are you playing at" usually works! btw that has to be said in a north east english accent lol xx

I'm thinking of you but don't take everything they say to heart, i've got 2 really good examples of dr's being wrong. The day I was born my gran had a massive heart attack they told everyone she would be gone that night - she died when I was 9! FI's sister was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer 4 years ago - she is still going strong and fighting every day and if you looked at her you would think she was fit and healthy. Doctors don't know everything!! Saying that my heart goes out to you its not nice xxx

Mine was a prom/bridesmaid's dress and its black!! i'm really pale and if i'd had a white dress I would have look like i should be in a coffin! Go to a prom shop honestly you will know when you see it - i was lucky first shop first dress lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by Opice34 Seriously?? My European counterparts get 1 to 3 years maternity leave and 3 months vacation. I swear we don't get anything done in August because everyone on the other side of the pond is on vacation. Most of those folks are on the mainland of Europe (and the 3 year maternity leaves are only in Germany), so maybe it's different in the UK. And this is a huge corporation...17,000 employees, so I think that helps. But I swear I thought our UK folks were covered under law for sick pay! That sucks! Most people get sick within a 5 year timespan! What do you do if that happens? Sheesh! That's nuts! Seriously lmao the law is changing but now you get 6 weeks pay at 90% for maternity leave then its £117 for the next 26 weeks, you can then take another 26 weeks with no pay but its a maximum of 12 months. They are changing it to 9 months at £117 per week. Sick pay it depends company to company but the government give you £27 a day after the first 3 days - i think its about that anyway but those first 3 days nothing lol so if you are off you take it without pay or hols! I had a migraine went in at 11 they made me take a half day hol!! So i said fine I want the extra 1 1.2 hours back and now work my contracted hourse - screw the extra hours for no pay and working dinner times lol I get about 28 days hols a year but have to keep 3 for xmas when the office is shut!! but I negotiated them, ie either you give me them or i won't come lol EU is different tho they get proper benefits we get shite all because we haven't adopted all their policies lol

Be really straight with him. Say dad you know i'm not traditional and i'm even having a DW so as much as love you to walk me down the aisle I'm not really having an aisle and I'm walking up with FI. I know you won't mind. Give him a kiss and leave it at that lol If you get into a discussion someone is going to get hurt - so try and keep it very light and "ah by the way" - I'm lucky dad isn't going and wouldn't do it anyway his theory is I'm not giving you away you are always mine lmao OOO try that line 2 lol

Quote: Originally Posted by Opice34 I'm so sorry you're dealing with the stress of this. These are the times I wished we lived in Europe where they get time off for everything!!! I wish lmao!! If I go to the docs i've gotta beg and do it before and after work and I have to work there 5 years before I get 2 weeks sick pay lmao and thats a law firm!! mind you i hear its worse at your end! Lucy : I think you did the write thing I know you have to do half grovelly emails to bosses especially in the forces and police force etc FI has to do the same and it pisses me right off lol I'm sure they will give you it and if not take it all the way to the top - don't drop it

He's gonna lose a lot of business isn't he!! what an idiot!

WTF!!! I'd tell her to go shove her head right up her arse!! then when she's finished SHE can tell her kid why they aren't going to the wedding basically because she is a money grabbing twat!! (sorry was that harsh lol) I hate people who want the world and do nowt to help themselves!! My advice bin the flower girl and tell her to piss off!!!

Quote: Originally Posted by Dez921714 He is an ARSE! He and I are friendly but only because of our spouces...we kind of clash on a lot of things...I think it's because we are a little alike..in that we both like to be right and have the last word LOL I'll stay completely out of it. The last thing I want to do is cause more problems...lord knows, they have enough issues without me! LMAO don't worry you aren't alone lol FI's family have plenty issues with me since I stopped giving them free legal advice lmao but frankly I don't give a shite and they know that lol I've learnt now and have told FI don't tell me all the crap they do to you then I won't get pissed off and want to kill them, hence easy life for you lmao Ignorance is bliss lmao Try it its marvellous pmsl

Don't mean be to rude but your FBIL seems like a right arse!! let him get on with it - if FI gets really upset about it HE needs to speak to him about it - stay right out of it so that you don't get the blame lol Glad you don't have to pay now tho - robbing bandits can't believe they were going to let you lol

You're lucky my TA wouldn't even book my wedding I had to do it myself!! Mind you i think i'd be contacting the hotel myself and asking them to confirm - don't take any crap off them some TA's in UK are shocking

Let your dad wear it, its hardly going to kill anyone. I'm sure there is stuff that you aren't thrilled about which FI wants to do so just do a trade off. Now if he was wanting to wear an elvis suite I could understand why FI would be upset but maybe its just his pride! You'll get round it - I'm a proper daddies girl so I'd probably tell him to suck it up lmao

Done it again from work lol

Quote: Originally Posted by STACEY Im guessing a "physio" is a massage. hahah you make me crack uP!! lol No its a physiotherapist lmao but she did do a massage Quote: Originally Posted by Ellipse22 Thanks ladies! I did physiotherapy a year ago for bad knees...I'm guessing they are still bad. I have an appointment next Wed. and I think I am going to deman a xray since she didn't do one last year. Just to be safe! It's my ankles too which is part of the problem. I'll figure it out! Thanks for listening to me! I would but it probably is muscle strain, at the least i would go and get a deep massage on your legs and ankles it'll help the tension you build up when you know something is going ot hurt

I have a cure!! no joke lol Get yourself to a physio - a good deep massage (warning it kills) works and mine vanished overnight - I was having trouble walking they were so bad. I loved the physio one session and all gone

I've voted 2 - mind u the one with the shirt off i'd have to take in hand!! (oh i'm going straight to hell) lmao

Quote: Originally Posted by LC_Rachel Holy crap I understood every single word. LOL I'm trying to think about what i type so people understand lmao

Lmao lucky you - i'd love to do the legal bit before Mexico it would save a fortune but FI is a misery lmao Have a good drink for me lol xx

I agree, wait until you get back that way no probs with the airlines, tickets or anything else. One of my friends changed her docs before the wedding then had to sit an exam lol explain that one when you aren't getting married for a week and yet your docs say you are already married and the name they have is your maiden name lol Another friend changed some of her stuff but not all so if i ever book a flight for her I have to check if she's changed it yet!! and I'm taking 8 years this december!! she refused to pay for a new passport so keeps one credit card in her maiden name lol crazy

You need to sit down with FI and spell out exactly how upset you are and just ask him to listen. At the end of the day you are carrying his kids you are HIS FAMILY 2. My in laws wouldn't dare do that to me mostly because they know I would punch everyone of their lights out - even so I can't stand them and his sister is NOT invited to the wedding!! However that was FI's decision which I was only too glad to agree to and if i'm honest I probably convinced him she was an alchy lush that would be a pain in the arse lol Can not just elope come back and say we're married deal with it? Do you really want the big wedding? If not you have your answer. You can only express your feelings but unfortunately you can't cut them completely out unless you are a horrible hard faced cow like me who has managed easily to do it lol

Happens to us all lol We invited 35 : 7 have booked!! and to be truthful I really don't care - if they don't want to come don't hardly the end of the world for me i'll have what I want! I'm expecting the worst to be FMIL (FI still hasn't told her lol) she is proper gonna kick off when she finds out no-one else from her family are invited but thats just tough - as FI said "SHIT OR BUST - she either likes it or she don't" lol Its their loss not yours - you'll have a fab few days and they will just feel crappy for missing it

Quote: Originally Posted by PDXlove OMG, you said twat! I seriously love you. LMAO is this another language barrier thing lol its not really a swear word over hear lmao Before I get a deluge of people saying how inappropriate that word is it isn't in my country lol and I apologise if I offended anyone pmsl

Thats great!! gives me another bloody headache tho and i've just emailed the deposit wahhh!! lmao Good news for everyone that is at the start of the process.

See we don't have baby showers over here so I kinda don't get it lol All my friends have had babies and everyone has turned up with gifts after its born but the big things they've bought themselves. Saying that I bought my friend's baby a car seat which cost me a fortune but he was so cute he was worth it lmao If you want a party have one bugger what "you should do" no-one is going to lock you up and throw away the key lol